We could learn from the hawks

[Debaroo]

I was just reading Soul Stories by Gary Zukav and one segmant really hit me. It is about how we must not try so hard to control life, as it just makes you weary and distressed...here is a bit of an exerpt:

"Hawks are masters at flying. They can glide. They can climb and dive. They can land in trees. They are masters of their wing feathers and their tail feathers, but the are NOT masters of the wind.

The wind goes where it wants. Sometimes the wind blows from the north and sometimes from the south. Sometimes it comes from the east and sometimes from the west. Sometimes it flies straight up and sometimes it roars straight down. It can disappear and reappear from nowhere.

No matter how it blows, hawks love to fly. They move with the wind, but not like leaves in the autumn breeze. Leaves in the wind go where the wind goes, and sometimes that happens to hawks, too. Sometimes it doesn't . The journey of the leaf depends only on the wind. Hawks have wills of their own.

The journey of a hawk depends on both the hawk and the wind. Sometimes the wind takes the hawk where it wants to go, and sometimes it dosesn't. When it doesn't, the hawk doesn't mind. Either way, hawks are masters at flying, always in control of their wing feathers and tail feathers.

Elegent spirits do this, too. Their wing feathers and tail feathers are what they think, say and do. They always think, say and do things to create harmony, cooperation , sharing, and reverence for life. No matter what comes up, that is what they do. They are in control of what they think, say and do, even thought they are not in control of what comes up in their lives. Sometimes unpleasant things come up. Other times happy things comeup. Either way, they ride the wind. They do the best they can, and then they let the wind take them where they need to go.

The wind is your life. It is all the things that happen between the time you are born and the time that you go home. Elegant spirits don't know what will come up next, the same way that hawks don't know which way the wind will blow next. This doesn't bother them because they don't try to control their lives any more than hawks try to control the wind."

It really hit me, as I have such a tendancy to worry, to try to see the future, since I was a young child, I was always trying to anticipate what life would hand me. I remember being 5 years old and my parents were out and the sitter was watching my sister and I, I remember laying on my mothers bed, hugging her nightgown and crying, because I was SO AFRAID that she would never come home; that she would die. If I had a dime for every night I have spent worring about what might happen in 2 days or 2 decades, I'd be filthy rich, I wouldn't be happy, but I'd be rich.

So, I find this thought so comforting-

You can only control yourself and how you handle your life.

I just loved this idea, and it does make sense to me. Life hands us alot, good things-like our family, friends, fun days-health...then it hands us things that we don't want-namely illness...we control how we handle it, by coming here and seeking information and support, and by offering inspiration and support-it is a positive way to deal with a negative force in your life. We control how we use our time, how we live our lives. It isn't easy, but ulitimitely we know that, although we can't control what we have been dealt, we do have choices as to how we get through it...and we must get through it...

I just want to thank you guys for being my wing feathers and my tail feathers. You have made what could have been a very bumpy journey, a smoother and even pleasant one.

Take care, Deb

[dadstimeon]

Hi Deb,

Very nice indeed and yes we could learn from the hawks. Peace, take care and God Bless.

Rich

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[Karen]

Deb,

I really liked that analogy and the insights it offers up to the reader. My mother-in-law is having a tough time, almost nearing the half year mark of losing her love, and seems to be seeking books to help her deal with life now. Would you recommend this Zukav book for someone who is in her shoes? I want so much to help and there is only so much I can do.

Karen M.