skspooky Posted September 22, 2015 Share Posted September 22, 2015 Hello, So happy to have found this sight. Here is my story: End of July, my mother was diagnosed with Stage 4 lung cancer that has spread to her brain. During the same week, my father passed away from a sepsis infection. Dad's passing was not unexpected, but Mom's diagnosis came out of the blue. It is not curable, but may be treatable for a little while. She has undergone radiation for the brain cancer and has just had her first IV chemo treatment - amlita (sp?). She cannot take chemo in pill form. The goal is to give her a little more time and have that time be quality time. We are taking things one day at a time and will continue with the chemo as long as side effects are not too severe and it is helping. So far so good. Needless to say that this recent health development has turned my family upside down. I am an only child and I live in a separate state from Mom. Mom went from living on her own to now being in an assisted living complex as the brain cancer can cause confusion and she cannot be by herself any longer. As for me, I have a wonderful family and friend support network that is helping with my mom and my husband has been wonderful as well. But....this has been/is really hard for me. I feel so overwhelmed and out of control most of the time. I so want to fix everything, even though I know I can't. I have FMLA for work, but that is limited time and requires me to use my sick bank first. I feel almost trapped by work and other obligations - no sick time to take a day off to regroup, not a lot of vacation time since it's a new job, days off are spent traveling to/from WI to help Mom, etc. I then feel bad about missing so much work, but tend to just stare at my computer when I am there. I also am finding it very hard to not want to just curl up on my couch and stay there indefinitely. Sorry to be so "all about me." I am trying to be strong for Mom and to keep getting things done, but I feel it getting harder each time I see her. It's hard to see her so frail and sad. She's lost most of her hair and has some scabbing on her lip and nose that we think is from the radiation. I am looking for support. I know as much as I want to stay on the couch, that is not a good option overall. Thank you for listening/reading, susan Tom Galli 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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