Clarry69 Posted November 21, 2016 Share Posted November 21, 2016 Hi all We had the devastating news on Tuesday that my 'young' 71 year old mum has lung cancer. I've always lived within a mile of my parents who have been happily married for 51 years and I've never had to visit either in hospital as neither has ever had more than a cold/minor ailment. I am a 47 year old happily married man with 2 adult children (25 and 21...both still at home) and live in Essex, England.: My parents being very independent went for the final results of the numerous tests she had had after suffering with a constant cough for weeks - CT scans, Lung capacity, Biopsy etc without any of us with them and gave us a what seemed very little information other than it is terminal lung cancer. I managed to get her actual hospital letter with the results and they read as follows: T4 Invasion possible Mediatinum, Squamous Cell Carcinoma, T4 N2 M1b I know Google can be a wonderful thing but I'm sure its not too clever for things like this. I understand the meanings behind the T4 N2 M1b but have a few questions I hope you can help me with. Is this totally untreatable? when my parents told me it seemed like it was a death sentence for my mum that would be very quick, of course we all are totally devastated. The Oncologist has not arranged a treatment plan but this is urgent so has to be completed within 2 weeks, surely if this is terminal should the treatment, if any, begin asap or does cancer not work this way? Can you give me any advice or guidance on what to expect, how to act, the best way of supporting mum and dad? What is going to happen now? I know there are no miracles, and to be honest i am not a very strong person but i understand i have to be there for them whatever the future holds. TBH I am struggling. Thanks in advance for reading this and any input you can give. (please do not come back with religious things as that is definately not my thing, thanks) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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