Guest Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 Is there a course one could take in how to approach doctors when changing doctors? Seriously, this is a bummer of a thing to have to do. Okay - here's my tale - unhappy with the oncologist presently going to because he is not receptive to questions and not forthcoming about things being seen on the catscan film. Brushes questions aside with the attitude he can take care of anything. Not at all unhappy with his surgical skills, just his office demeanor. Since my cancer was caught early and have had a lobectomy via VATS and followups consists of periodic catscans, I am physically doing fine. But my stomach goes into knots when I have the followup appointment with him because I have questions and know I can't feel good about asking them. Second chapter - I made an appointment with another oncologist - he spoke with me about reasons for changing doctors - I was honest that I was looking for a doctor who would be open to questions and be forthright about findings on my catscans and my present doctor was not receptive to questions and not forthcoming. He then said "Have you ever been to an oncologist before this?" Said "No, I've been quite fortunate" (Later, I realized I should have asked him why he asked me that? - slow on the uptake).Well, he proceeded with an exam, looked at the catscan films. Third chapter - He feels the present doctor is doing a fine job and that I should continue with him. And that I should just get used to surgeons not liking to talk. I was stunned! I said Thank you and walked out of the room. Fourth Chapter - I am so upset over this. I know I am very fortunate that my Cancer was a cut and dry experience. I am grateful that my treatment consists of periodic Catscans. My way of coping right now with this experience is crying and thinking I just won't bother having those followup Catscans done. I know that isn't the rational way to approach solving this problem, but that's where I'm at right now. Just thinking of finding another doctor makes me cringe (if that's the right word). And I do not want to go back to the first doctor. Well, thanks for letting me get this off my chest - there are really more important things to get upset about - I think I'll go see if I can find them. Thanks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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