LilyMir Posted November 11, 2022 Share Posted November 11, 2022 This is just to vent as I feel like giving the universe a huge middle finger. Today my husband was told his mole is a pigmented cell carcinoma. The dermatologist took a sample for testing and final confirmation. While worse cancers exist, I cannot comprehend why life is screwing us so royally, so young. 3 years of miserable pandemic, then my lung cancer, and now this. What has our young family done to deserve this, I don't know. I just feel like screaming my lungs out and smashing things but have to keep it together for our little boy. Damn it, damn it, damn it. Sorry if I sounds rude. catlady91, LouT, ChiMama and 4 others 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pstar Posted November 11, 2022 Share Posted November 11, 2022 Vent all you want Lily….life has thrown a lot at you and your family…hang in there. LouT, LilyMir, Tom Galli and 1 other 3 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LouT Posted November 11, 2022 Share Posted November 11, 2022 LilyMir, We hear you and understand your pain. I can only say that better days will be ahead. When I'm down I always have to remember that there are folks worse off then me. That puts my own feelings in a better perspective. Hang in there. Lou Justin1970, Tom Galli and LilyMir 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Judy M2 Posted November 11, 2022 Share Posted November 11, 2022 Very sorry to hear this. There is no rhyme or reason to this cancer business. Sending you both good wishes. LilyMir, LouT and Justin1970 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catlady91 Posted November 11, 2022 Share Posted November 11, 2022 I'm sorry to hear this Lily. I feel at times that I've been royalled screwed over by life as well. My brother was born with a rare brain tumor, although it was benign it messed up his life and caused huge disability. My dad died when I was 14 and my mum was diagnosed with inoperable stage 3B lung cancer in Feb 2020 so I feel your pain. All the misfortune in my life makes me constantly worried more bad things will happen. I'm constantly scared that I too will get cancer or a brain tumor. Whilst I can't say much that will make you feel better I feel yoyr pain. Fate can be a b***h. It feels raw at the moment but it will start to sink in and you'll feel a bit more positive. Skin cancer from what I've heard isn't a difficult cancer to treat and another cancer like lung cancer that has seen huge advances in treatment. I believe that the first immunotherapy was used for skin cancer and saw extremely successful results. You and you husband can both get through it. We're here for you xx LilyMir, Justin1970 and LouT 1 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LilyMir Posted November 12, 2022 Author Share Posted November 12, 2022 Thanks and so sorry to hear about your family's share of misfortune @catlady91, that sucks. Indeed life can be nasty. Big hugs to you and hopefully your mom will keep doing well. Will see what the doctors comes back with for treatment plan for my husband. Trying to keep it together today, in fact we put up the Christmas tree with our kiddo and started the Holiday cheer quite early. Kept cleaning all day to distract myself since the moment I am alone I coil up into a ball and just sob. Hoping for better days ahead! catlady91, Scruboak, Justin1970 and 2 others 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen_L Posted November 12, 2022 Share Posted November 12, 2022 According to along-ago mentor, there's nothin' wrong with curling up in a little ball and sobbing, @LilyMir. You just need to set a timer for a specific, limited amount of time. She advised 10 minutes, which I thought was stingy, but I tried it and it did help at that time. I also think it diminished the tendency I had to wallow back then. Hang in; this will pass. Tom Galli, LilyMir, LouT and 1 other 3 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Judy M2 Posted November 12, 2022 Share Posted November 12, 2022 @catlady91, my ex-brother-in-law had melanoma years ago and did, in fact, receive immunotherapy for it. He's been cancer-free for a long time now. catlady91, LilyMir, Justin1970 and 2 others 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scruboak Posted November 15, 2022 Share Posted November 15, 2022 I do understand the power of that “social finger”! How wonderful that you honor those really hard emotions….and keep going. Love to you LilyMir, Justin1970, LouT and 1 other 3 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Justin1970 Posted November 16, 2022 Share Posted November 16, 2022 Hi lily I'm so sorry I've only just seen this post I am so sorry to read this it's so unfair, you don't deserve this added heartache, Please don't give up hope you and your husband will get through this and your little boy will have a fantastic life with all of you together Please take care Justin x Izzy, LouT, catlady91 and 3 others 5 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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