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Has Anyone Ever Felt Like This?


KC

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This might sound weird, but today it hit me that I am feeling like it was all just a dream. That the time my father was here on earth with us was just a dream. Is that weird? Of course it's weird! Has anyone else ever felt like that? Do you understand what I mean?

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I feel that way sometimes too. Like it hit me the other day that no matter how much my dad did or how he lived his life...all that he had become was an engraved name on a headstone. (Totally morbid, sorry)

But I always wonder what it was all for, whether he was really here, if I dreamed those things, and where is he right now?

I try not to go to this place very often. Hang in there. I know how incredibly hard it is,

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I have feelings like that all the time. Its weird I know and like Katie I try not to go there much. When I find myself getting in a panic because my life with Hugh seems like it might have been a dream and I can't remember him as vividly as I want, I hurry to do something that might take my mind in a different direction. I also keep pictures of him everywhere because sometimes I feel like I can't remember what he looked like.

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Wow! I completely understand. I also did this with my dad. Another thing that upsets me is- Will Gianni be remembered 10 years from now by family and friends? I had 2 uncles die the same age as Gianni and I barely remember them. It seems as if the aunts have been widows forever and some were my age when they lost their husbands. Also, now I will be sitting at the widow table at weddings with my 4 aunts and mother(all widows). :x

My 3 children and I still have a hard time talking about him sometimes. Of course I think of him all the time. On Christmas Eve my sister mentioned Gianni and all 4 of us said -Yeah what's for dinner? and blew her off. Then we went back in our denial modes. I guess we have hard time expressing our feelings huh :?:

Rosanne

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You know, that "widow's table" is another thing that REALLY bothers me a lot. It seems like every single event means I get seated with the other "widows". Last week I was invited to dinner at a friends house and she invited another widow to come along with me. Nothing wrong with it really, it just bothers me. Also, it doesn't matter that I am 48 and the others are in their 70s. You just can't sit at a table with the married folk.

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Candy, Roseanne.... You ladies can sit with us anytime. I HATE having to sit with folks my hubby's age and being called a "baby". So, as long as you don't mind the jokes, there'll always be room for you with me, at the children's table! :wink:

May you find peace and sweet dreams of your lost loves,

Becky

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There will be no widows table for me, I will not allow it. I will request in a VERY LOUD voice to be seated in a mixed group.

I include all of my single (widowed, divorced, never married) friends to supposedly 'couples only' events and encourage them to continue to attend these events. We are part of a dinner group and we have one widow. She is invited and attends. Why not??????

Ginny

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I have just received some helpful insight.. I wonder if my mom feels that way about the widows being grouped together.. I think I might ask her when the opportunity is there.. I dont think she has been in a situation yet were that has happened.. Thanks Candy for mentioning that...

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