ginnyde Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 The doctor called this morning. The temodar is not working, there are multiple more tumors in his brain and the liver scan report did not indicate stable but growth. He is going to call tonight and tell Earl. He says there is really no other treatments that would do anything to extend his life and that he thinks it is time for hospice. I have stayed in work because basically I am a basket case and don't want to go home until I have my act together, if ever. He did indicate that Earl has already left us in some ways, although I told him he answers more Jeopardy questions than I do. I have no idea how he is going to react. Just Monday I asked him if the Temodar wasn't working did he want to move on to other treatments. His answer was a loud and definitive ABSOLUTELY. Please pray for him, for comfort and peaceful acceptance. I think I am sadder about him having to hear this than anything in my life. He is the most wonderful, loving husband a woman could have. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dadstimeon Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 I'm so very sorry to hear this Ginny. My thoughts and prayers are with the both of you. Rich Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andrea Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 Ginny, I am so sorry, you have gone through too much lately and it is so unfair. I wish I had the magic words for you. My heart breaks and I am so angered at the unfairness of it all. You have been a WONDERFUL husband to Duke and he knows that! Tonight is going to be your roughest night ever and I am praying that you extra have strength and courage. Stay strong. We love you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tnmynatt Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 Ginny, So sorry to hear your news. I will be praying for you and Earl. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Addie Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 Dear, dear Ginny.... How I wish you and Earl could have had better news. I know how much it must hurt your heart to think that Earl now will hear that his meds are not working. But one thing you said grabbed at me....that Earl told you he was willing to try other treatments. I think the two of you should talk about this more and then let his doctor know how he feels. It sounds as though the doctor is saying that it's time to give up hope...and we all know that we can never give up hope. As long as there is life and breath and a will to keep fighting...there is hope, right? Know that you and the love of your life are in my constant prayers and wishes. This post makes me so sad...as I feel so powerless to provide you much help or comfort. This is just so hard. But go home, put your arms around the Duke and talk to him about how much harder he's willing to fight....to try....before you make any decisions. And know you'll have many, many prayers heading your way for strength, wisdom and lots more time. Holding you both gently in my heart..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Margaret Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 Ginny, I pray for strength, acceptance, wisdom, comfort and peace. I also pray for a miracle, because a miracle could happen. Blessings, Margaret Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Connie B Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 Oh Ginny, Oh Sweetie, I am soooo sorry that you both have to hear this disturbing news! Oh................ I would trade shoes with you if I thought it would help. I wish I could give you and the Duke a hug. It's not a cure, but it's helpful at times! I have no words, but please know your in my prayers always! Love to you both. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remembering Dave Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 Geez, I don't know what to say. I tend to agree with Addie. Ginny, you have been a wonderful inspiration to me during the last year. You are the perfect, adoring, supportive wife (I read your story and from what you say there's no doubt of all of that) and I wish there was something that could keep your precious Duke around alot longer. You remind me of the Reagans (hope you don't mind that) in your adoration for each other, and even though Pres. Reagon hasn't been "all there" for years I know Nancy would trade anything to have one more day with that dear man. Please keep us posted, and I will pray for you two. God Bless, Karen C. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathy Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 Dear Ginny, I dont know what to say, so instead I just said a prayer for Earl.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhutch1366 Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 Oh, Ginny, no..... Margaret and Addie said it for me, Ginny. You are loved here by many; please borrow strength from us to go home tonight and be with Earl. I will keep you both close to my heart and in my prayers.... XOXOXOXOX MaryAnn... Cancer sucks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elaine Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 Ginny, I dont know what to say either. I will pray for what is best, which is all anyone, in any circumstance can hope for. There are many hopes left, Ginny. After there was little other "harm" or help that the medical profession could do for or to my father, he lived several months and could well have lived more, with what I would call a good quaility of life. In some ways hospice tried to get in the way of that. So I urge you to be assertive and clear with the hospice you choose. I know it is not popular for me to say this about hospice. I am not against it at all. I just think one needs to be aware of certain issues. I am not going to go into them publicly. One thing in your corner is that you are so knowledgable and have been through so much with your dear Earl, that I believe you will be able to have a healthy hospice experience if that is what Earl and you decide. I worry about people who might be in an emotional state and who blindly will follow what they are told. Thinking of you both. elaine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Lamb Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 Ginny, I am so sorry to hear this news.You and Earl definately have prayers coming from my wife and I. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
David A Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 Ginny, My heartaches for you, I am so very sorry. Like Connie IO wish I were there to give you a hug and comfort you. Please know that both Earl and you are in my thoughts and prayers. Remember that one thing 'as long as there is life there is hope'. God bless you both. David A Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharyn Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 Oh Ginny, I am so sorry to read this post. I can't imagine the helplessness you feel right now. I am asking God to grant both you and Earl strength. Many prayers.... Love, Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheresaKB Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 Ginny, I really don't know what to say except that I am praying for the best for Earl and you. I pry that God guides you and gives you inspiration and peace. I agree with what Addie said in her post. There might still be something out there to try. Hugs, Theresa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karen335 Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 Ginny, I am so sorry to hear the Temador is not working. Are there any other treatments that the doctor would try for Earl. What about RFA for the liver and the wafers for the brain. As Earl said, yes he wants to try other treatments. He doesn't want to give up. I would push the doctor for other options. There is hope and miracles do happen. Don't let Earl give up. I pray a miracle for Earl each day! God Bless, Prayers and Hugs, Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna G Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 Ginny , so sad to hear your news. Prayers going up that things settle down and you two have time to just enjoy each other. Donna G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 Ginny, I am so sorry to hear this news. Everyone has given you good ideas if the Duke wants to keep up the good fight. I don't know what to say except I'm here for you if I can do anything. Let me know. Wishing all the best for you and the Duke. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Haylee_38 Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 Ginny I am so sorry and my thoughts are with you and prayers being sent for you and Earl. Haylee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
osirus226 Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 Ginny, Im so sorry . Please, please keep up hope and know that I will be sending lots and lots of prayers up for you and Earl. Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DianeR Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 Ginny, I just read your post and I want to tell you how sorry I am to hear the news. It just breaks my heart to hear what the two of you are going through right now. Today I went to pick my daughter up at Church. She is volunteering at a Bible School. I saw a personalized car tag that read "BIGDUKE". Well, I immediately thought of your Duke of Earl. I thought what better place to say a prayer for Earl. So I said a prayer in the church parking lot. I know by looking at all the posts he has many prayers going out for him. I do believe in MIRACLES and I want more then ever to see some miracles happen! Ginny, you and the Duke are in my thoughts and prayers. Diane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angie Daughter of Bill Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 Dearest Ginny, I am soooo sad over this news. I just don't know what to say except that I am here for you if you need me. Like Connie, I wish I could give you guys a BIG hug and just make all of this go away. I hope and pray that there is something that can be done for Earl. I will keep you both in my prayers. Love, hugs and prayers Angie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisa O Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 Ginny, You are both in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gail Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 I will be in Morgantown, PA on Friday for their Relay for Life I will have a candle in honor of your honey. gail Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
betplace Posted June 23, 2004 Share Posted June 23, 2004 (((Ginny))) Oh my dear I am sooo sorry!! I too wish there was some way I could do something to bring you comfort. But all I have is good wishes and prayers. Blessings Betty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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