kimblanchard Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 Hi everybody! Katie is four years old today. In about 1:15 from this writing, adjusting for the time change. Last night she wanted to sing a birthday song for Becky. It was the sweetest thing I have ever heard. She sang, "I miss you mommy, and tomorrow I will be four years old and becoming a big girl" or something like that. It just about ripped my heart out. But it is another good sign that she is coping in her ways. We talk about Becky most everyday. And she talks about her to her dolls while she plays sometimes. And now she sings to Becky. So I am confident that she is expressing her grief well, which bodes well for us for the future. But of course I miss Becky all the more today. I know how desperately she wanted to be with us today. She is, but not in the way she wanted. I hope her seat is a great one. Hard to believe it is already 88 days. Curtis Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest bean_si (Not Active) Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 Tell Katie Happy Birthday Tell her she is BEAUTIFUL and SMART and ADORABLE! Tell her Cat said so. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andrea B. Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 Happy Birthday Dear Sweet Katie! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elaine Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 Curtis It does sound like she is coping well. I am glad you are talking about Becky with her and those things. It reminds me of a story. My son's best friend at age 3/4 lost his mom to breast cancer a month or so before mother's day. The little boy was at our house playing. They went out and picked me some flowers and brought them in to me. A few minutes later, I saw them digging in the flower bed. I asked them what they were doing and they said they were burying Danny's mom's flowers for her cos she was in the ground. I am sure you miss Becky a lot today. Have a great time with Katie, for Becky. elaine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharyn Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 Curtis - Please tell precious Katie that a whole bunch of special friends are wishing her a HAPPY BIRTHDAY today.... Love, Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 Happy Birthday, Katie. Enjoy the day and the cake. J.C. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pecola Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 Happy birthday, Katie!!!! The song for Mommy was so beautiful. Peace and love be with you today, Curtis. Gina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
osirus226 Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 To the cutest little girl I've ever seen: HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karen335 Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 "HAPPY BIRTHDAY" Katie... Hope you had fun with daddy, got lots of presents and ate cake and ice cream. Keep singing to mommy, she would be so proud of you... God Bless, Special prayers and gentle hugs, Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fall54 Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 Happy Birthday Katie!!!!!!! She sounds like she is doing well Curtis and you are the soul reason for that. She is a beautiful 4 year old now, but has many lessons in life already instilled in her through your great parenting, and Becky is proud!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathy Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 HAPPY BIRTHDAY SWEET KATIE Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
David A Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 Happy Birthday Katie!!!!!!!!!!!!! So proud of you Curtis ! you Rock sounds funny coming from a 46 year old I know but I'm young at heart! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Connie B Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 Happy Birthday Little Katie!! Sorry I'm late on the birthday wishes. Hope your day was as good as could be! Curtis, all I can say is, I ach for you my dear. I can almost feel your love for your beautiful daughter and wife, and I can almost feel your pain of sorrow. ((((((((((CURTIS)))))))))))) God Bless. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhutch1366 Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 Happy Birthday, Katie. My, you're a big girl for four years old. Such a trooper, and so brave. I think singing songs to Mommy is wonderful. Did you know that some people say that singing is praying twice? The music helps the thoughts get to heaven twice as fast... Curtis, I know it is with mixed emotions of love and pride and missing Becky that you celebrate your daughter's birthday. You and Becky both have reason to be proud of Katie. You're a good dad, and it's apparent how much you love your family. My daughter is a Katy too, and when she was small I used to sing to her the song from Oklahoma (I think that's where it's from)... K-K-K-Katie, Beautiful Katie, you're the only G-G-G-Girl that I adore! When the m-m-m-moon shines over the cow shed, I'll be waiting at your k-k-k-kitchen door....... She still gets a kick out of it. She just turned 15. and I lost most of the nerves to my larynx in the surgery, so my singing is really marginal... lol... but it brings back the love of the times.... Truly wishing you both nothing but the best.... XOXOXOXOX Prayers always MaryAnn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimblanchard Posted June 26, 2004 Author Share Posted June 26, 2004 Happy Birthday Katie. !!!! Kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen Posted June 26, 2004 Share Posted June 26, 2004 I have a Katie, too. She was quite the songbird around that age as well. I love what Mary Ann said about song getting prayers there twice as fast. Kids respond to ideas like that so well. I hope Katie's birthday had some very special moments. I know from some people who lost their parents during childhood that it's always a bit bittersweet. An idea I had was that maybe she could have a special birthday journal she writes in each year to Becky. I heard about someone finding that very meaningful especially during the later teen years. You two are in my prayers. I constantly read your posts, Curtis, and it touches all of us the way you honor Becky. God bless~ Karen M. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
palves Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 Curtis I often come here to see how you and Katie are doing. My daughter will also be 4 in another month, so I guess I feel connected somehow. (plus the teaching connection thing I felt w/ Becky). Anyhow, glad to hear that Katie is doing pretty good, having some moments, but dealing. Its definitely been a lot of change for her in the last 2 months . Keeping the memories will be of big importance for her. Does she have a picture of Becky and her in her room near her bed? Well, I'd liike to send Katie a present from my Ashleigh. Could you pm a message w/ your address? My email is palves@optonline.net. Thanks Paula Dad Stage IIIb NSCLC Adenocarcinoma - dx 9/03 - 12 weeks chemo, 30 rounds of radiation - waiting for new catscan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimblanchard Posted June 27, 2004 Author Share Posted June 27, 2004 Our address is Curtis and Katie Ruder 10919 Crown Park San Antonio, TX 78239 We have two great pictures of Becky and Katie together in Katie's room. One was taken when Katie was about eighteen months old; it is the picture that most looks like Becky to me. For the memorial service, they made the 5*7 photo into a picture that looks like an oil painting. The other one a framed picture of the one I use for my avatar. Karen, I think the idea of a birthday journal is a great idea. So I started it myself with an entry with the lyrics to her song and a picture of her in her birthday hat. Thanks for all the well wishes and support. Curtis Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 Happy birthday, Katie! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hollyridge Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 Happy birthday and God bless Katie! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nushka Posted June 28, 2004 Share Posted June 28, 2004 Happy birthday Katie. I am sorry I didn't see this until today...so my birthday wish for you is late. I have a little girl named Katie too....but she is grown now and has a little boy your age. I think you are a beautiful little lady. Soon you will be starting big school. Hope you had a happy birthday. Nina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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