Guest Posted June 7, 2003 Share Posted June 7, 2003 I've been reading the posts in this forum for several months and feel like I almost know all of you! What great people you all are. Anyway, my story is as follows. In Mar 2001, Mum (73 yrs old) was noticing a cough at night, a liitle different to what she had before. I lived 2000 miles away but had visited my parents that month (for a week) and hadn't noticed anything wrong. Our thoughts were always about Dad, who was in the process of being diagnosed with Alzheimer's. He had been having severe hallucinations and delusions and at times thought Mum was someone else. That's another story. A friend of Mum's called me and said she noticed Mum had lost a lot of weight (June 2001). This, combined with the fact that she couldn't talk on the phone for coughing (being treated for suspected asthma), was enough for my sister and I to fly out there. She was eventually diagnosed with stage IV NSCLC (July 2001) and had to go on 6 litres oxygen 24/7. Dad didn't recognize any of the family and was becoming quite paranoid. Since neither my sister or I lived close, he was placed on the emergency list for nursing home placement. Mum deteriorated rapidly - within 2 weeks, she passed away. Her memorial service was the day after Dad's admission to a nursing home. I realize this happened some time ago, but I'm still trying to come to grips that I was so worried about Dad, I never thought Mum could be the one that was so sick. Kathleen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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