mandy Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 I am an only child, I just moved back to NY after living out of state for the last couple of years. My mother was just diagnosed with NSCL last week. but the doctor hasn't finished "staging" her. From the looks of things she is between IIIa and IV. I am so close to my parents, and I am terrified of loosing my mother. Both of may parents are relatively passive people, so I find myself managing my mother's healthcare with all the intensity that I used to manage my career. I am worried about my parents and about myself, my friends with healthy families can not understand... I am glad to see that this community exists. mandy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest HerSon Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 Welcome Mandy! I'm an only child too who just lost my mom to this horrid disease 4 months ago, so I know what you are going through. When my mom was first diagnosed last November, I tried to prepare myself for the inevitible, but of course this was the worst thing that has ever happened to me. It was so hard watching her deal with the effects of radiation and drugs. Now I do my best to go on because that's what she would want for me. This site is full of wonderful people who will be of great support to you, so lean on us and try to stay strong! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katester Posted August 14, 2004 Share Posted August 14, 2004 Welcome Mandy, I am sorry to hear about your Mother. You have come to a support community that will be there for you, unconditonally. You will also find a great wealth of knowledge and experience in all aspects of lung cancer with this group so ask what you need to know. I am the Mother of an only child and I can relate to the closeness that you have with your parents. It's that relationship that will give you the strength and stamina to get through this. Your friends with healthy families couldn't possibly feel what you are feeling right now but that doesn't mean that they don't care or that they aren't going to be there for you. Alot of it is that they just don't know what to do or what to say . When we were just going through the diagnostic stages of my lung mass I can recall my Son saying that he wished he could express how he felt but couldn't get the words in a sentence that could say what he was wanting to say.I am sure you are hurting and trust me on this one, your Mom is hurting for you right now as well. Keep up the fight and lead your Mom through this. My best to you and your family. Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fay A. Posted August 14, 2004 Share Posted August 14, 2004 Hello, Mandy, Just wanted to say "welcome" and let you know how much I admire you for taking on the role of researcher on behalf of your Mom. Best Wishes, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shiva34 Posted August 14, 2004 Share Posted August 14, 2004 just wanted to welcome you. we are close to the same age and i just lost my mother. I can identify with you feelings but try to stay positive things might not be as bad as they seem. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisa O Posted August 14, 2004 Share Posted August 14, 2004 Welcome Mandy, We have a wonderful group here, many of which are comprised of the children of those who have the lung cancer. Please also remember that while you may hear of many statistics and hear many stories, LOTS of people do survive lung cancer. What the actual statistic is doesn't matter if your mom is one of them. Help her to keep hope. We are here for you and for your family if you need us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kel M Posted August 14, 2004 Share Posted August 14, 2004 Welcome Mandy! I'm the 29 year old daughter of a very special Mom who has SCLC. She was diagnosed last December and it's been a hard but rewarding road for her and the family since then. Hang in there!!! Remember to "breathe" and take good care of yourself. By taking good care of yourself, you will be able to be the support that she needs! You're not alone. Kel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brm1949 Posted August 14, 2004 Share Posted August 14, 2004 Welcome Mandy, sorry about your Mother but you will find plenty of support and info here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elnodel Posted August 14, 2004 Share Posted August 14, 2004 Dear Mandy, So sorry you have to be here, but glad you found us. Hard as it is, it's very helpful to be proactive, researching, reaching out to a forum such as this. I know you'll find lots of information and support here -- I certainly have. Let us know how things go with your Mom. Ellen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted August 14, 2004 Share Posted August 14, 2004 Welcome, Mandy. Lots of info and support here from people who are making the same journey. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NellW Posted August 14, 2004 Share Posted August 14, 2004 Hi Mandy, I am the researcher for my friend Bob and his wife Jo, and this sight has been the best place I have found, since everyone here truly cares about our loved ones and us and has very good info and insight. Welcome to our family Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paddy Posted August 15, 2004 Share Posted August 15, 2004 So sorry that your Mom is so ill Mandy. She is lucky to have you researching for her, you really do need someone to keep on top of things. I am sure you will find lots of advice and friendship here. Paddy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeanCarl Posted August 15, 2004 Share Posted August 15, 2004 Mandy, Sorry you had to seek us out, but VERY glad you found us. Seems to me it's a bit too early to be talking about "loosing" anybody just yet. There are dozens of folks right here on this board who have lived long past any time line "statistics" or the doctors have given them. Heck, I've beaten the odds a bit myself. Going on 11 months since my diagnosis and I'm not getting treatment at all! The road you've found yourself on is a tough one, no doubt about that. BUT .... other's have travelled it successfully and so can you. And you DON'T have to travel it alone. Dean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Justakid Posted August 16, 2004 Share Posted August 16, 2004 Hi M- Welcome, this is a great place to come for education and support. Sorry to hear about your Mom! It is quite a shock when it happens. Let me know if I can help you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhutch1366 Posted August 16, 2004 Share Posted August 16, 2004 Welcome, Mandy... I am glad you found us. Keep us posted on your mom, and don't hesitate to lean on us when you need to. XOXOXOX prayers always, MaryAnn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elaine Posted August 16, 2004 Share Posted August 16, 2004 Mandy, You are my daughter's age. I hate so much that you have to go through this at your young age. Let us know how we can help. love and fortitude elaine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marie's girl Posted August 16, 2004 Share Posted August 16, 2004 Dear Mandy, I am also a daughter who has a mother facing this terrible disease. BUT, I am 46 and have 5 siblings. I cannot imagine going through this at 26 alone. You and your parents will be in my prayers. I do know that you will find strength beyond what you ever thought possible. When it comes to our mothers we can do anything. We will walk to the end of the earth to make them comfortable. You will treasure the time you have with her. And do continue to manage her healthcare like you manage your career, that is very important. Elaine PS.....the "other" Elaine BTW....How are you, Elaine??? I think of you often. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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