LilyMir
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Hi all, just checking how your all doing, sincerely hope your all ok, things still very raw here , my daughter in law and 4 four grandchildren have fallen out with me and Micky (Jus’s sister) and her two children, it’s heartbreaking 💔We’ve been denied any of his ashes so have nothing to show he ever existed for 52 years except photos and memories , still that’s not why I’ve posted, I check up on you all regularly as Jus would have wanted me too as this place was very special to him as you all were too, I hope life’s treating you all as well as it can, I’m hoping that we will both feel better one day but I’m not holding out much hope, he was such a special person to us as we were and are a very close unit, the hole we now have in our hearts is immeasurable but the love carries on and will never die, take care of yourselves and keep those loved ones close, love and hugs to you all and keep up that wonderful strength you all have, catch up again soon Xx love Izzy xx
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Oh @Izzy I am so very sorry to hear about the family rift, it must be making a terrible situation much worse. It is though probably not an uncommon situation, people have many ways of expressing grief and tensions can get really high. Of course I totally understand that having access to remains is important for closure but try to remind yourself that when people die, the bodies are not them anymore rather the love and memories are what remains. No one can ever deny you that! You carried that child next to your heart and gave him life, and stood by him until the end and that's the strongest unbreakable bond that exists no matter what his family decides.
I am gutted for you but also want you to try and seek support from a counsellor as I don't think your family's rift is unique and counselling may bring you close to closure. Maybe after a year or so, these raw emotions subside and the deeper emotions take hold. Maybe then there is a chance for reconciliation. I can't imagine how hard this is but please try to focus on the memories and the love with Justin's friends and family whom you still have good relations with (that includes us!). I will always remember Justin's kindness and his ability to transcend his worsening illness to constantly check on us, remember our scan dates and offer support. You had a great son full of empathy and care, thanks for raising him that way!
BTW, I am doing well, wrestling with some side effects of my targeted therapy and had a bunch of nasty family health scares, it is like a rash of bad luck but I remain so thankful and take it one day at a time.
Hugs and please stay in touch!
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Hi everyone, just checking in on you all, hope things are going well for you all, still very sad here, beginning to think I’ll never feel any better, things are still rough here and I miss Jus so very much , life is just so hard without him, take care of yourselves and keep fighting no one wins if they give up, thinking of you all a great deal, hang in there, love Izzy xxx
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Hi Izzy! So glad to hear an update from you though my heart breaks for your loss still. I often think of you and Justin,I hope he is soaring in some other dimension somewhere in the vast universe. It must be the hardest of all losses to lose one's child no matter at what age but I pray that your pain eases at some point and you can find some joy in Justin's kids and the great memories you made for decades. I get melancholic often but remind myself that every human will die so revert to trying to make the best of whatever time I have left in this life. Hugs and please keep in touch if it is not distressing for you to do so.
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