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I don't come here as much as I did when Jack was fighting the cancer. I found such support here and truly appreciate you all for your kind words which kept me from being in a panic mode all the time. It will be one year and 7 months tomorrow since my sweet Jack passed from this world into Heaven. I truly cannot say that it is much easier to live without him. In many ways it is harder because the numbness of the first months has passed and the pain is more noticable. I haven't forgotten you all and wanted you to know how much your support and this website mean to us spouses travelling this road with our loved one. I have been on here today catching up on those of you who I remember from months ago. My wish for each of you is health, miracles, and the love and support that you so unselfishly share with others. God bless you all.
Shirley Humphries
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Oh Maryanne, I am so happy to hear this news. I have not posted on this board in a long time, but you have all been in my thoughts and prayers. You were so good to post notes of encouragement and support when I was treading the unknown waters with my sweet Jack. I still miss him terribly each and every day. This has been a hard holiday season for me this year. I was still in such shock last year. I rejoice with you and your family at the sucess of the Cyberknife treatment that Joel had. I know you and your family had a wonderful Christmas and pray that the new year will bring continued happiness. God bless you!!
Shirley Humphries
wife of
Jack Humphries
9.10.41 - 11.13.07
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Hi Maryann and Joel,
I am so happy that you have the CyberKnifre as an option for you and that everything is looking so great!! I will pray that it will all go as planned and that nodule will be blasted away when you finish. Hang on to that positive attitude...I am sure everything will work out just fine!!
Shirley
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Hi Randy,
I heard one the other day and am not sure who sings it but I think the title is "Holes In the Floor of Heaven. I too had a good cry listening to that one. Love the song Believe also. Makes me cry everytime.
Shirley
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Hi Teri,
I am coming up on the 9th month mark since my Jack passed away on the 13th. I guess one dream that we had that I will be fulfilling is I am going to Hawaii the end of March. We always dreamed of going and after Jack died I decided if I was ever going to go, that I had better get with it. I have a friend who was my travel buddy before Jack and I married and she and I are going. I am really excited about it but it will be bittersweet in many ways since I will not be experiencing it with the love of my life. It is something to look forward to and to plan. It is still not easy without Jack. In ways it almost seems harder at times since the numbness of those first months has worn off and the reality has set in. I am "muddling through" as the saying goes and putting one foot in front of the other with a few backslides.
I hope you are doing well too.
Shirley
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I have really had a hard week. Tomorrow (Sat) would be my birthday and Sunday (20th) would be our 17th wedding anniversary. It will be the first time in 19 years without a card from my sweet Jack and the first time in 17 years without an anniversary card. He was always so big on the cards. Would spend lots of time picking out just the right and special card. I just miss him so very much. My plans are to get some helium balloons and write messages on them with a Sharpie pen and go to the cemetary and release them. I just hope he knows how much I love him and miss him.
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Tonight at 8:05 p.m. it will be exactly four monthis since my dear husband, Jack took his last breath and went to heaven. It is still so hard and I miss him so very much that my body aches at times. It all still feels so unreal and yet at times the numbness seems to be lifting and the pain feels worse. I know he is so much better off and he is not suffering but I just miss him so much!! I just hope he knew how very much I loved him and how much I miss him now. I hope that he is watching out after me every minute. Thanks so much for letting me ramble on. You have all been a wonderful help throughout his illness and death. Thank you all very much!!
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I can say that I know how you feel as my husband passed away on November 13. It is definately a hard thing to go through. One minute I'm doing okay and the next I seem to be a basket case. I also go out at night and talk to my husband when I walk my dogs. I have read also to write them a letter and that helps too, but I've not done that yet. There is a wonderful website www.widownet.org and they have a wonderful message board.
I don't have any magic pill to make it better but I did want to let you know you are not alone - there are others of us who are going through the same things. ((((Hugs to you))))
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I am so sorry about your father. My sympathies to you and your family. I will be praying for you all.
I have been there - I lost my husband from this horrible disease one month ago on November 13. The drug companies definately need to get on the ball and come up with a cure for this horrible disease.
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Hi Carlene:
I am going through the same things - I sent you a pm so please check it when you can.
Shirley Humphries
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Shirley Humphries
Carrollton, GA
administrative assistant and large Baptist Church
lost husband, Jack, to NSCLC on Nov. 13 and am
trying to adjust. Missing him terribly.
Love going to the beach.
3 pets - dog, Harley; dog, Jazzie; cat, Remington
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I am missing Jack so very much. Since he only passed away November 13 it is still all so raw feeling. Thanksgiving was hard and I even dread Christmas. It is just so lonely at home. If I didn't have my dogs I would be bonkers. All the business I need to take care of is overwhelming. I am still waiting on the death certificate so am basically on hold for most things right now.
It seems like everything just is so wrong without him.
I keep asking for a sign from him that he is fine, but have not had anything yet.
What I wouldn't give to see his face or hear his voice just one more time.
I just miss him so very much and needed to vent a little. Thanks to all on this board who bring so much support.
Shirley
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Hi Everyone:
Just to let you all know that Jack went to his Heavenly home Tuesday evening at 8:15 p.m. His
visitation is today from 2-4 and 6-8. Funeral
service will be tomorrow (Friday) at 2:00 p.m.
Thank you all for the support and prayers. It
has meant more than you will ever know.
Will be back on board with you next week.
Much love to you all,
Shirley
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I wanted you all to know that Jack is now under hospice care. I had to take him to the ER last Saturday, the 3rd, because he was feeling very bad.
They have found that the cancer returned to the original lung and has wrapped around the main bronchus. He also has cancer now in his arm and shoulder (that they had thought was frozen shoulder). It gives him much pain. He also has cancer in his vertebrae and femur. We are staying at his daughter's house because she is a Certified Nurse Assistant and is able to only work weekends where she can help look after him during the week. Her husband and I handle it on weekends while she is working. He now needs 24/7 care and it seems he is failing fast. A brain MRI was done which was okay, but he is confused at times so the doc feels there may be something there that just doesn't show up now. The docs said 3 mos. at the most. It is so hard. Please pray for strength for me as I am having to work as much as I can. Pray for Jack that God will soon welcome him with open arms and that the pain will soon be over for him.
God bless you all for the help you have been on this journey.
Shirley
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We go to Panama City Beach, FL which is on the northern gulf in the Panhandle. It is beautiful! Our condo has a screened porch across entire back overlooking the beach. It is about a 6 hour drive for us. They have the most gorgeous sunsets you can imagine.
On another note - my uncle (my Dad's baby brother) died last night with NSCLC. He found out 3 wks. ago that he had stage 4 from severe back pain. It had spread to his bones, spine, hips, ribs, etc. They tried radiation on the spine to help with the pain but he never got any relief - just kept getting worse. His funeral will probably be on Friday and we leave for the beach on Saturday. He leaves behind a wife and two sons and his grandchildren. Please remember them in your prayers.
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Hoot and Holler....
Jack had his last radiation treatment of the 35 this morning. The radiation oncologist said that he is getting wonderful results from the radiation - but we won't know the final result until we do a scan in 4-5 weeks. He has an appt. with the radiation oncologist on November 7 at 9:30 a.m. A CT scan will be scheduled for several weeks after this appt. His medical oncologist doesn't want to see him again until after Christmas unless there is a problem.
We will head to the beach on Saturday for a few days of well deserved r & r. There is just something about being at the ocean that restores my soul!! Some fresh seafood doesn't hurt either!!
Everyone keep prayers going up that that tumor is dead or blasted to smitherines!!!!!
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We are in our last 2 weeks of Jack's radiation therapy. He has really had no problems other than the extreme fatigue now. He is not able to work at this time. His last of the 35 treatments will be on October 15. He has had no throat issues yet and has not lost his appetite so his weight has remained pretty stable.
I asked the radiation oncologist last week if the treatments he was receiving was to just shrink the tumor and buy time or if we were going for a cure. He said that we were going for a cure since it had not spread to the lymph nodes. That made me feel much better.
Jack still has a terrible cough and is coughing up lots of phlegm. No fevers and just clear phelgm. We say that he is coughing up the tumor that is being killed from the radiation. He is having some shoulder pain in his right shoulder but since nothing showed up on the PET scan we feel it might be caused from the continual coughing and maybe arthritis and possibly from the radiation. He also lays on that shoulder all the time when he sleeps. The tumor that they are radiating is in the left lung tho.
Jack said he just feels so achy. Any of you who completed radiation - is that how you felt?
It will be a great day when treatment is finished and then we will head to the beach on the 20th for a few days of r & r. I think the salt air and time to just veg and rest will do us all good!!
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Welcome, Mike!! You will not find a more wonderful group of folks. The support is superb!! Again, we are glad you found us.
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Well, Jack is half way through his seven weeks of radiation after his treatment today. Yea!!!! So far he is doing good except for the cough. We had an appt. with the radiation oncologist yesterday and he feels the productive cough is the the tumor reacting to the radiation. He says since Jack has no fever or colored phlegm that he doesn't need antibiotics or steroids. Jack is a little tired, but has had no skin or throat issues. His appetite is still very good and I do keep Boost for him to drink each day. I just wish that he could get a little rest from the cough. The tussenex syrup does help a little but because it makes you drowsy he cannot take it when he has to drive or go somewhere or go to work. We are so thankful to be half way through the treatment. Hopefully he will feel like going to the beach for a few days after finishing up in October. If not, hopefully we can go next spring.
I did find out last night from my uncle that my Dad's youngest brother has lung cancer. Maybe I can be an encourager for he and his wife since I have experienced this with Jack twice.
Thank you all for your continued and wonderful support.
Shirley
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I am so very sorry. I am praying for you all.
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We could not get the codeine tablets here. None of the pharmacies had it and they couldn't order for some reason. That is why they gave us the tussinex syrup. Jack does take his sleeping pill at night, but the coughing has still been waking him. He took the tussinex syrup about 5:30 pm yesterday and could not take it for 12 hours. I told him to hold off and then take it closer to bedtime and maybe it would help more during the night. We will try that tonight and hopefully that will help. The radiation is starting to make him tired now. He didn't go to work the past two nights, but wants to try it tomorrow night. They are willing to work with him on his hours - he has used up all sick time, but there are folks willing to donate time to him. I think all the coughing is wearing him down, also. It is so hard to watch him because I want to fix everything and I can't fix it.
It is just so nice to come to this site and find folks who know how you feel.
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My husband, Jack has had a terrible cough. He has currently finished 2.5 weeks of his 7 wk. radiation treatments. He is not having chemo at this time due to other health issues. The tumor causes irritation and lots of phlegm which causes him to have a terrible cough. The radiation oncologist checked him and said that he does not have pneumonia and we should not worry about the cough unless the color of the phlegm changes from clear to colored. Said that as the rad. is breaking down the tumor that it has to go somewhere and you cough it out. He has been given Tessalon pearles which didn't seem to do anything and now Tussinex syrup (which does cause drowsiness). When he coughs it is not a little cough, but an all out cough that causes his face to turn blood red. The oncologist said that the radiation should help the cough after a couple of weeks. It has been 2.5 and I was wondering if anyone else who had had a terrible cough could lend some insight on how long it took for the cough to get better. Neither one of us has gotten much sleep in a couple of nights because when he lies down the phlegm builds up in his bronchial passages and he rattles and starts coughing and has to get up for a little while to get it cleared out. I bought him a wedge pillow that would raise his upper body some, but that doesn't make any difference. Any suggestions would be more than welcome. I almost asked the doc if there was something to help decrease the phlegm, but if he needs to cough then that wouldn't work. Thanks for any help. Maybe we will have to sleep in separate rooms for a while which I really hate doing.
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I know what you mean. My husband has lung cancer. Many days I just have the incredible urge to run. Of course, I would never do that, but the urge is there. It is hard to face, but there are many survivors and God gives the strength to get through.
Hang in there and know others are praying for you and are here to support. This is a wonderful site with the most wonderful folks.
In memory of Jack Humphries
in GRIEF
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Friday, November 13 was the second anniversary of the passing of my dear husband, Jack Humphries. Some of you may remember our journey on this board. My heart still aches with missing him each and every day. I strive to make him proud of me and celebrate our love and the life that we shared together for sixteen beautiful (although, not perfect at all times) years. He helped me become a stronger and a better person. Heaven truly has a treasure in Jack. I know that one day we will be together again. If I could share with others it would be to love your loved ones with all your heart. Treasure each and every minute and don't let the petty things get in the way of enjoying each other. God bless you, Jack! I hope heaven knows what a treasure it has in you! Continue to watch over me each and every day until we are together again! Your love made me the richest woman on earth!!