Riaria33

geesh......oops...accidently hit the submit button....my question is does it ever get easier for those of us 'on the outside' so to speak? I suppose not because it is a life long situation.

Jane and Nick!! Thank you!! Those are powerful thoughts and will certainly make Robbie THINK!!!! Sometimes, because I am on the outside so to speak of this, I am at a total loss. I often hear "you dont know what it feels like unless you have been there yourself" It can be very frustrating sometimes as I am sure you all agree!! Again thank you. I will pass this on to him. Does it ever get easier for those of us on

Kasey and Don -- Thanks for the input. I wish I could hook him up with the forum, but he has no internet access.....So all I can do is help to forward some of the info I might recieve here. I will pass on what you said. I have told him....life is for the living and you cannot always expect an answer as to why, but you must LIVE because you ARE. Don I think he will espcially like your comment "drop it and be grateful" Its kind of like I get with him sometimes. You just need to accept that you ARE and make nice I think I will look into purchaseing the book you mentioned for him also. I know he will read it and hopefully come away with some positive attitudes from it. Again Thank you both. and Kasey, we are from Lycoming County-- the Williamsport area. A beautiful place to LIVE!!!!!

My very dear friend had his lung cancer spotted by accident last October and has since had part of his lung removed. He just recently underwent his first 6 month retest and came up CLEAR! He was very, very relieved by the results and happy. However, now in dealing with other people he feels a great sense of guilt about surviving while others around him havent. When he states that he doesnt understand why he is still here and other people he knows arent, what can I say to him to help him get past this???? I want to help him get past this guilt so he can move on, but I am at a total loss. I would appreciate everyones input -- I am desparate. Thank you.