lorideecee

I am sure that there is no way to prepare for it.......I tried, and I tried, and I talked to others and to myself, I read, I went to groups, and I got stronger and stronger, and still, the day my mother died, I felt like an abandoned 2 year old. But, I did live those last months with my mom as I wanted. We talked, we giggled, we cried, we touched, and we told each other our fears, our dreams...My mother died anyway, but I will always treasure the times we had together, even knowing each day might be the last.

I am new here. My mom died in June 2005 with complications from the treatment of lung cancer. Everytime I told anyone that my mom had lung cancer, they would ask, "Does she smoke?".......I was (and am still) offended by the question. Do we ask women with cervical cancer if they are promiscuous? Do we ask people suffering from liver cancer if they are drunks? I want to change this. I want people to realize that it does NOT matter at all how or why our loved ones get lung cancer, they do NOT deserve it, based on any lifestyle choices they may have made. I am tired of the stigma that lung cancer has, and I want to really DO something in my life to change it. Lori