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    Love You Forever

    in GRIEF

    Posted

    Nick--I cry every time I read it. Sometimes the girls catch on, other times they don't. I kind of hate that book and I have actually suggested that we pick another one on days that I didn't think I could handle it.

    But still.... It's a good affirmation for me that 'As long as I'm living my Mommy she'll be.'

    P.S. I've actually thought of you when I read as well. I think I had the same thought as your wife. ;)

    Talking thru funk and new saddness

    in GENERAL

    Posted

    Judy--Everything you do, you do with grace. The goods the bads and the in between. I have admired you since you first started posting here.

    I'm sorry things have been so funkful. I hope for brighter days for you. I'm sorry about your friend, Frank. But I am so glad for people who care and who are willing to go through the pain. People like you are the light in the darkness.

    This Bill Sounds Very Promising...

    in LUNG CANCER IN THE NEWS

    Posted

    A Bill Regarding Preventive Health Care for Women:

    Check out the list of screenings this included here:

    Under Ms. Mikulski’s proposal, a federal agency, the Health Resources and Services Administration, would develop “comprehensive guidelines” recommending preventive care and screenings for women, and insurers would have to cover the services without any cost-sharing.

    Ms. Mikulski said the services would include screenings for breast, cervical, ovarian and lung cancer, heart disease and diabetes, as well as postpartum depression and domestic violence.

    Some of you know that postpartum depression is an issue that's near and dear to me too, and when I saw them both listed AS WELL as screenings for these other major diseases that women face, I was very excited.

    More here: http://www.nytimes.com/2009/12/04/healt ... .html?_r=2

    Things seem to get harder

    in GRIEF

    Posted

    Michelle--I don't say this to discourage you, but to let you know you're not alone.

    I know that losing my Mom was world's different from the loss you are experiencing, but one of the things I wish someone would have told me was, "It gets harder before it gets easier." And sometimes the harder lasts a long time. I think in our heads we feel like the worst is going to be right when we lose that person we love, but for me at least, my mind couldn't fathom that loss or how that was really going to affect the rest of my life, until some time went on and I was forced to see things as they were. Plus, I think we're conditioned to believe that when something bad happens 'every day will be a little easier.' For me at least with grief I had a lot of days that just fit into the just plain hard category.

    I was so impatient in my grief. I thought I needed to be coming to some feeling of closure or ok-ness so much sooner than was realistic. It's one of those things that you just have to go THROUGH.

    Anyway, I hope this isn't a bummer to you.

    Be gentle with yourself. And know you are so very cared about!

    I wanna wake up please?

    in GRIEF

    Posted

    ((((Michelle)))))

    I know it is hard just to breathe right now. I have a friend who when times get tough his mantra is, "Inhale, exhale, repeat." I know it doesn't feel like you can do this, but you ARE doing it. It hurts. It's hell. It's not fair. But you're doing it.

    Dad - suggestions?

    in GRIEF

    Posted

    Oh my... This was one of my biggest fears when my Dad started dating.

    I don't have any advice... I don't. Except that as much as we want to fix things for our parents, we can't. He just needs you to be there. You can support him, you can listen, but you can't fix it. Keep encouraging him to be involved in different things. In our small town--lots of older men would kind of congregate at Hardee's in the mornings every day. Is there some kind of meeting ground where he could maybe just be around other people?

    It's so hard to be a daughter, and see your Dad with this emptiness and know that you can't fix it. And know that you aren't the one that he wants.

    Most of all ((((hugs)))) to you. I know you must feel so helpless. I hope things ease for your Dad soon.

    Angry Tonight

    in GRIEF

    Posted

    My Aunt was diagnosed with Breast Cancer this last week. It looks like they caught it early, but that's not confirmed yet. She meets with the oncologist this week.

    This was the very same week that my Mom was diagnosed.

    My Aunt is one of my 'strong women' role models. One of the women in my life that I have always known to be powerful, and incredible. I'm actually named after her (middle name not first), which is an extra connection.

    She's on my Dad's side. My Mom's side of the family has had 4 of 7 siblings diagnosed with 5 different types of cancers. Now it's on Dad's side too. Just looking at the genetic crap shoot I have ahead of me too. But mostly I just want cancer to leave my family--either side of it--the hell alone.

    On top of that, I've just missed Mom so much the last few days. There was the diagnosis day and a Thanksgiving meal and that brought back a lot of memories about the year she was diagnosed--that was the first Thanksgiving I hosted and she was there. The last holiday we had together as I didn't make it home for Christmas that year. Plus, a girl should be able to call her mama when she hosts a Thanksgiving meal for 21 people incredibly successfully. I've been mad that she isn't here this week anyway, so add this is and... Yeah.

    Sucky news. I hope her prognosis is good. Please pray for her. I know in LC world 'breast cancer' stuff is kind of our pet peeve, but still... It's no less serious or awful for those who are dealing with it.

    Done now.

    In Hospital

    in MEMBER UPDATES

    Posted

    Oh Lilly... I am praying. That's just... a whole lot of crap that got piled up, isn't it? I hope that 'possible mass' has another explanation and that you're healed up and out of there quick.

    Nestle Crunch Hotline

    in JUST FOR FUN

    Posted

    Need a little smile? Just call the Nestle Crunch Hotline at 1-800-295-0051. When you are asked if you want to continue in English or Spanish, just wait quietly for about 10 seconds... and you will smile. Promise!" And make sure you choose some options after the waiting...

    You've gotta do it. It's too fun.

    5 Year D-Day

    in GRIEF

    Posted

    It was five years ago today that my Mom was diagnosed with Lung Cancer. Five years ago my world changed.

    Five years ago I found you guys. And in the darkest seasons of my life, you all helped give me hope.

    I wish I could be here celebrating my Mom's 5 year survival today but I can't be.

    Instead I'll celebrate my own survival, and resilience. I'll celebrate the beauty of who my Mom was. I'll celebrate the hope that LCSC and LUNGevity are bringing. And I'll celebrate so many of you who have become my friends.

    Love to you all,

    Val

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