Shoosy1

Hi Bes-
I'm sorry for your husband's missed diagnosis. My husband too had been going to hospital since November of last year and we have lost count of the number of CT scans and xrays. NO ONE found his 7 mm mass that is now in his chest wall and rib until mid August. My husband and I are both new here too, out of sad necessity, but everyone here has been ver supportive and kind. We found out from our new oncologist last week that he is not a candidate for surgery as there would be too much tissue loss, and it would kill him. Radiation isn't an option at this point either, why I don't know. The doctor told us this is incurable, but treatable. So we are only left with chemo. He starts his first cycle on 10/9. We meet again with the oncologist this coming Friday to go over stuff, and hopefully to find out the genetic marker tests. Perhaps he will be a candidate for Keydtuda or Optiva or Immunotherapy. We just have to keep faith in our superb team of medical professionals, in our ability to stay strong fight and in God's grace.  
In the meantime I have purchased 2 books regarding cancer and supportive adjunctive therapies and practices such as radically changing his diet, clearing out our  house of all synthetic and chemical cleaners, soaps etc.
Most days I find it hard to breathe (my own anxiety) on the way home from work, but at least I will be focusing on the positive now and forcibly keeping negative thoughts away from my panicked brain. I know my husband needs me to stay level-headed, which I normally am. He needs me to be just as strong as he is, and we will get through this, no matter what. 
We both have been totally blind-sided by this diagnosis, but it is what it is, and we will FIGHT this beast. Just keep breathing......and notice that your husband doesn't have an expiration date stamped on his forhead!  I have made a joke of this, and will peek at hubby's bottom.......NOPE- not there today! Or look at the soles of his fee!-----nope, not there today either!  It focuses our attention to LIVE today and to keep breathing and moving and loving each other. 
Peace and  love to you all.....HOLD on Bes!
Shoo2