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Great news for both of you.
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When my father had chemo treatments the doctor advised him that there could be some tingling sensations in his extremities. He often felt like his fingers and legs were sleeping. If I remember correctly the doctor called it chemo neuritis. But if you are concerned you should call your doctor. That is what they are there for. I also remember they did check to see if he was bloated. Sorry I can not be of more help.
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My prayers and thoughts are with you and that everything goes well.
God Bless
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I find that we all have to vent once in a while otherwise we will lose it completely. Someone once told me that if we did not have anything to complain about we wouldn't have anything to realy talk about, because when we complain we let everything out. I am so sorry for what you have to go through, just take one day at a time, because no one knows what tomorrow will bring and do not look back.
Take care of yourself, because then you will not be able to help anyone.
God Bless
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i am so very sorry for your loss. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family through these trying times. Thank God for she is finally at peace and no longer suffering.
God Bless.
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I do not know the length of your hair but if you have long hair there are organizations, i believe, that take you hair and use them for children's wigs (this is if i remeber correctly). So if you are planning to cut your hair it can be used for a good cause and help a child. Something to consider.
God Bless and good luck
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I think it is wonderful that one of you can go with your parents. I believe it is very helpful because people when dealing with bad things in their life sometimes fixate during a certain part of the conversation and get lost. They seem to not hear what the Doctor or any other person is telling them. It is always great to have a second pair of ears who are not the ones being talked about. I even find that in my profession, divorce attorney, that when I speak to a client they at times become so fixated with something I said that I lose them and have to bring them back into the conversation or discuss the issue with a family member. It all becomes overwhelming and having another person with you to love and support you could never hurt the situtation. In addition, you will know where things truly stand. Parents think by not telling us the entire story they will spare us from pain, but they are so far off.
Good luck and God Bless.
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The hospice sounds wonderful. I have been to cavalry for other people and it is just like being in a hospital, which brings people down. I hope your father stablizes quickly and can return home asap. Prayers and thoughts for your family.
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Great news. You both are an inspiration to continue to fight because good things can happen. My prayers and thoughts are with both you to continue on with good news. Enjoy the bash.
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It is so hard to believe that it is one month today that my father passed away. The time is flying by and I still expect to see him every day when I go to my parent's house. The pain and emptiness is worse then when he passed. I guess reality is hitting. Most of the time I feel as though i am just going through the day to day process. There has not been a single day that I have not cried. Does it ever get easier. Even when my 19 month old learns something new, I sit there going my father should be teaching him this as he did with my 3 year old. That was the one good thing that came out of him being ill. He could no longer work so he had no other choice but to watch my now 3 year old and now 19 month so I could return to work when each was 6 weeks old. It is so unfair that my children will probably not remember their grandfather and his love for them. Today was especially hard for my mother who at 55 is alone after being with my father since she was 15 married at 16 and came to America alone with her new husband. I cannot begin to understand her pain and grief. It all stinks. Why must we all go through so much pain and hurt just to love and be loved. Thank you all for letting me vent and having this site, because you all understand more than anyone and because I cannot talk to my father any more and I try not to express my pain and sorrow to my mother since she has so much of her own. I act strong for her so as to not worry her, but it is sooooooo hard and painful. Thank you all just for being you and here.
god bless all of you and your families.
Cathy
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I know how you feel. I just lost my father three weeks ago and it does not seem to get any easier with time. In fact I find it harder. I have a 3 year old and a 19 month old and they were my father's joy and reason for living 3 years.
Do not feel guilty, know you were there for her when she needed you the most and you loved her with all your heart. We have to continue on for our parents and for what they lived for. Their suffereing, pain and battle has finally ended and they are in peace. I too can also relate regarding inlaws, but none of that matters. Your mother is around you in everything you do and say, she is in your children. As long as you have your children and spouse that is all that matters. Don't let the other stuff trouble you or take over. It is just not worth it and probably wont change anything.
My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.
Have a wonderful christening and enjoy (as much as you can) this special day for your son as your mother observes from above.
Cathy
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my prayers and thoughts are with Teri and her family during this very difficult time. God Bless All.
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I am so sorry for what you are going through. Life is just not fair. Why do we all have to go through this? My prayers and thoughts are with both of you. It is just so hard.
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As i recall when they placed the tube into my father his heart rate was extremely high that they were going to put him on a respirator. They say it is normal because there body is in shock because the drainage though may not be very fast is to fast for the body to handle. The fluid build up happens over time, while once you insert the tuble the fluid drains quickly to quickly for the body to adjust. My father was in the hospital for over 9 days if i remember correctly and they did not remove the drain until the day before he was released. If i remember correctly it took a few days before he was better. I believe it depends on the amount of fluid present. I remember that his pain started in the beginning of may and the xray showed nothing, but when we went back to the hospital on June 1, 2004, it showed the fluid build up. Do you know if the fluid smelled? They were able to determine that it was some type of infection based upon the smell when they inserted the tube.
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my prays and thoughts are with her and family.
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I am so sorry for what you are going through it is so hard. Prior to my father passing away two weeks ago, I traveled with him along with my mother and two infants (3 year old girl and 18 month old boy). Most recenlty we went to Florida in April. In addition, i had dinner with my father almost every night and would play cards with him on Sunday's. I think the most important thing was just being there with him and enjoying the little time we had together with my children. Take one day at a time and enjoy that day with your mother because you do not know what tomorrow will bring for either of you. I am struggling with the fact that we did not know that he was dying as opposed to you struggling with knowing it will happen, which is better? who knows, but either way it sure stinks and hurts. Just enjoy the time with her and let her know that you love her. When the end does come, know for them their pain and suffering is over and they are finally at peace.
My prayers and thoughts are with you in this very difficult time. Hold on to each day.
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i remember when my father was first diagnosed at the age of 58,it feels like a bad dream you cannot wake from then it was anger, shock and fear of the unknown, depression and crying. Lots of crying, but not in front of my father. From my limited experience, treatment and the will to live is up to the individual person. My father was diagnosed with stage 3A inoperable, but because i was expecting his first grandchild a girl, he chose to do whatever it took and continued to do so. You just to be there emotionally for your mother it is not an easy road especially if your alone. Just love her and pray for her. The rest is up to her and her doctors, but i believe love and prayers are just as important and to know that you are not alone in dealing with this terrible sickness. It is just as scary to them, if not more, to them to us and a lot more painful. Yes we go through all the emotion, but just imagine what she is thinking. With my father, the depression and anxiety were bad. It was the fear of the unknown, that can kill you. JUST BE THERE WITH LOVE LOVE AND LOVE.
My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family through
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I had a friend who was diagnosed at 40 with colon cancer. I told her to fight for her children so that she could see her daughter walk down the isle as my flower girl at my wedding. Eventually, the cancer began to win and she was in the hospital unconscious but still fighting. I called the hospital and asked that someone put the phone to her ear and told her that it was alright to stop fighting if she chose to. That she fought as hard as she could but it was time to let go. Shortly thereafter she died. Who knows? I am not sure I could tell my father to give up. It is so difficult when it is a parent. There is no right or wrong answer, but my prayers are with you and your family. Courage and love will prevail.
Cathy
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my father had the pain on his side/ribs for about a month and the patch did not work. After going to the hospital and having an xray which came back negative, we went back about two weeks later to find out that had pleural effusion and emphyema (not sure i am spelling it correctly). they placed a tube in and trained for 8 days and he was given antibotics and was fine. How long has he had the pain? Does he have a fever? Have they taken an xray? Is he eating?
Cathy
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The radiation doctor had given my father this special cream that they had to mix for him and we even continued to use it when he had some flare ups after the radiation was finished. I am sorry i cannot remember the name.
cathy
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When i was 7 months pregnant in January of 2003 my father was diagnosed with inoperable stage 3A lung cancer. In February he began weekly Taxol/carbo chemo along with daily radiation. Radiation ended the day I gave gave birth to my first child. He then continued to receive triple treatments chemo once a week every three weeks, which continued until July of 2003. There remained a small amount of the tumor and the doctor suggested we get a second opinion regarding surgery. After waiting 6 hours at sloan kettering in New York the chief thoracic surgeon told us that there was nothing he could do because he does not operate on anyone who had radiation (couldn't tell us before we got there). My father's oncologist then advised him about pin point radiation at westchester medical center and after three treatments he was in remission October of 2003. In June of 2004 he was rushed to the hospital for pleural effusion nonmalignant a procedure was performed and drained. After about 14 days they released him and life was wonderful. In November of 2004, I gave birth to my son. Then in June of 2005, the coughing started and he began to not feel well. They took the normal ct scans, pet scans and bronchoscopy. After the Bronchoscopy it was determined that the same tumor had regrown and there was a spot in his adrenal gland. In addition, he had also developed brochitis and an infection. He then began Altima, which after 4 treatments they stopped because the tumor increased. Then in December of 2005 they started him on Tarceva, which seemed to be working, but they could not get the infection under control. In April of 2006 he had a pet scan at which time he was told that the cancer was stable. He went to the doctor on May 10, 2006 regarding the infection and they took a culture they also discussed operating to clear the scar tissue, but due to his condition it was not recommended. On May 14, 2006 the abscess ruptured and he bled to death. It was quick and short. He did not even know what was going on. They say the infection was a result of the extensive damage from the radiation. Who knows? This is my story. Hard to believe.
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I am so sorry for your passing. My father died Sunday the 14 so quickly also not from the cancer but a ruptured abscess. I was with him Saturday not thinking it would be the last time i saw him. He died the next day at 5:00 am at home in my mother's arms. I live 1/2 hour away from my parents but it does not matter. He died like your father quickly and in no pain. Please accept my prayers for your loss. I know what you are going through.
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I have been lurking on this site every day since January of 2003 when my 59 year old father was diagnosed with stage 3A inoperable lung cancer. I want to thank each and everyone of you for being here and this site. In the past 3 years there have been good days and bad days, but no matter what there was always a sense of support from the people and hope. I never lost hope because of the strength and love present on this site. When ever we had a question i came to this site and found the answer. You are all a true inspiration for families and individuals trying to cope and deal. I write today, because my father's journey ended on Sunday May 14, 2006, without warning and i wanted to THANK EACH AND EVERYONE OF YOU FOR BEING THERE. You are all truly special and strong, for this disease makes us strong, we have to in order to fight.
GOD BLESS ALL.
Not sure where to put this post
in GRIEF
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My father passed away a month and a half ago and I find that the night hours are the most difficult as well. Girls tend to put their father's on pedestals and believe that nothing bad can happen to them because daddy will take care of them. Well Daddy's gone and are worlds are shattered and everthing we thought before has changed. It is so hard. I am hoping it is all part of the grieving process because if it is not, I too am losing my mind. How old is your baby? I have two a 3 year old girl and 19 month old boy.