Thank you so very much EVERYONE for your replies! I saw the surgeon yesterday and he said VATS was not an option. Bummer. But I am scheduled for August 5 to have the lobectomy on the right lung. He said the location was such that he could do a wedge, but the cure rate was not as high. So we decided to go with the upper lobe resection. He said it gives me an 80% chance for cure.
He said I'll be in ICU for 2 days and then on the cardiac floor for at least 3 days. Then, depending how the drains do, I can go home.
Of course I'm still terrified of this surgery, but know it has to be done in order to save my life. Thanks for listening !