CountryGirl97,
My father-in-law died without a will. It left all of us with no idea how he wanted his estate handled. I have wished many times over that we had just asked him before he died, but that seemed too insensitive at the time. All I can say is to bring this up to your husband and let him help with that detail. Many times we felt we were protecting him when he often felt we were leaving him out. It's so hard to handle it alone, so give him the option of helping make those decisions.
As far as people wanting stuff... I can understand it, even though it is sometimes handled insensitively. I often want to bury my face in the things that belonged to him and just be close to him again. Those blankets and things mentioned above by Curtisg that belonged to Becky probably bring lots of comfort to those that loved her. I hope you kept plenty of them to bury your face into from time to time, too.
As far as property and all that, our experience hasn't been a good one either. I could kick my mother-in-law for not having my father-in-law make out a will. I see many battles in the future between his kids and her. I guess we just always thought we'd have more time.
Sorry to have invaded this area with my first posting ever. I've been lurking a while, and having had too much experience with this particular topic, I felt like I needed to post at last.
I hope to have offended no one.