Dear Renee,
I know all of this is hard... talk to funeral homes... not one but more than one... We too had little money... and purchased mothers casket from "Discount Casket" rather from the funeral home. What you have or do for the funeral is up to you. We did not go directly to the grave from the funeral and that saved money... and we had the funeral in our church and that saved... ( We wanted a church funeral but was pleased to find out it save money too.).. you also can check to see if you can have the viewing in the church prior to the funeral ... it would save money.. no charge for a viewing room. I did mother's flowers, her casket spray (was my last gift to her)...
Do you have a friend you can ask to be here with you?
My mother answered the phone with her wallet... and tried to change chanels on the TV with her phone... I laughed too...
Have you been to my website (info is ther)... this (her trying to take things apart) are part of normal progression... I have a list there. I think God has humor too, giving us these moment to smile about. My mom loved to sit an pop the bubbles on bubble wrap, I bought a roll and she just had so much fun... kept her hands busy. She did this even the day before she died. I should have buried her with a piece.
Please email me if you want to talk... don't know if you have any small children, but had my Grandsons draw a picture to put in the casket with my mom... gave them a different and important roll to play... we so often forget in our grief to let the little ones know that death is a part of life.. a change.
((((hugs)))))
Always,
Christine