Lost123

Thank you, Tom - I appreciate that. In Ireland we are blessed, in that all palliative care is free to all and organised by the medical care team. The planning is more about what we should prepare ourselves for mentally. We are a spiritual family too - however faith is complex at this time. But we have had an amazing life with an incredible woman who has brought such joy to our lives. I will be on this forum, no doubt over the next period of time- and value all the contributions.

Hi, My mum was diagnosed with extensive .small cell lung cancer , back in April . She went through chemo, immunotherapy and a week of radiotherapy but yesterday the consultants have said there is no more treatment available/worthwhile. My parents have not wanted a prognosis and so yesterdays news was a complete shock to them. From now on a doctor will call to house to determine next best steps re pain management and palliative care (we live In Europe) They still do not want prognosis and I respect that , however I find myself struggling with the uncertainty of what lies ahead. I want to help them and they will accept help from me, but I have no idea what lies ahead or how long we are facing. Practical things like "what should I planning with my siblings practical support" to "do we cancel Christmas plans so we can all be together". I know every individual is different but I am struggling to find out some sense of what we are facing into - I honestly respect my parents decision to cope with the news in the way that they have but I would like to know more. Any advice ?