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  1. LindaMRG

    So different

  2. That is exactly what happened when my father was diagnosed in '03. My search for support sent me to a different message board where I met our great friend JudyB who directed me here! And now I still check in and grieve with you in this section. Even after all these years. Even though I dont know many of the members anymore. I still feel a connection here. Sometimes I will answer a post because I feel I can relate to what some is saying and I'll want to help. Then, I'll delete my response because I feel I have nothing to offer because my heart is still so heavy. So I have to say I receive more support here by reading your posts than I return. This board is a gift.
  3. LindaMRG

    Why so fast?

    I am so deeply sorry for your loss. There are just no words. I agree with what someone said, dont keep looking for what made it go quicker. It doesnt matter. There was nothing you could have done differently that wouldve produced a different outcome. We are never ready, there is never enough time. The doctors can only guess. And, yes, you never realize how much you can miss someone. Just know there are others out there that do understand. Linda
  4. ((((((((Katie))))))))) There was a time I could say to you, "I know how you feel", now I can only say "I cant imagine how you must feel" now having lost both parents. I know that everyone grieves differently. Could the problems with siblings be due to different ways of grieving. I know between my two sisters and I, we have different ways of coping. After my father passed, I had a terrible time going back to their house. My sisters thought that was insensitive of me. Eventually I went to keep peace, but it was always sickening for me. My grief still has a lot of anger because of my father only being 64; having fought lymphoma twice only to turn around and get lung cancer; only being a grandpa (which he loved being) for 11 years. I hope Im making sense. What Im trying to say is different issues have come up between us because we are dealing with our grief differently. We have always been close, but still handle our sadness differently. Its not the same as you were describing, but I was wondering if how your siblings are grieving differently than you, could be contributing to the issues. Im always thinking about you, my friend. Linda
  5. LindaMRG

    Ray A

    I, too, remember Ray and have thought of him often. He was there for me when I needed inspiration during my father's battle with lung cancer. I am so truly sorry for his family.
  6. LindaMRG

    Lucie Fly Wood

    Oh Don, I only check in from time time so I am seeing this about a month and a half later, but oh how sorry I am about Lucie. You are right when you say she no longer has lung cancer. At my father's funeral, in his eulogy I said that now he had won his battle with lung cancer because it couldnt hurt him anymore. The same with Lucie, she is free. No words can ease your grief but I was truly sorry to read this tonight.
  7. So glad there is no progression. My best to you both.
  8. Im reading all your responses on Christmas morning. I just looked at a video of my dad from a Christmas a couple of years ago. I appreciated reading your responses, youre such a great group of people, thank you so much. I wish miracles for you in '06.
  9. Most of you wont remember me, but some will. Just to let you know Im thinking about you especially during the holidays. I miss my father every day of my life, but especially the holidays and most especially Christmas Eve. That was our most festive holiday with food, music, gifts, family. It will never be the same. For such a quiet man, its so silent without him. There is a book I read recently, "90 Minutes in Heaven" by Don Piper. He talks about being in heaven for "90 minutes" after a car crash. Its the first bit of comfort Ive been able to find. You might want to look for it in your local bookstore. Wishing each one of you well during this season and always.
  10. My dad had shoulder pain and after many different tests to find the reason, they had to conclude that it was the way the tumor was resting. The pain was in his right shoulder and the tumor was in the right lung. Just thought you might want to ask doc about that. He wore a pain patch and that helped.
  11. LindaMRG


    Oh Carleen, STABLE IS SUCH GOOD NEWS!!!!!!!!!!!! Love, Linda
  12. Dear Gay, First I want to express my condolences on your loss of DeanCarl. It sounds like his passing was peaceful. I want to let you know that DeanCarl was a great help to me when my father was placed in hospice care. I never forgot how nice he was to me. I wanted you to know that. Since my father's passing, I was not on the board much, but when I did come on, I would always try to see how DeanCarl was doing. It sounds like you and DeanCarl had something really special.
  13. Im so happy to hear she's tolerating her treatment well and that her mouth sores are improving. That is so great she got out to celebrate your granddaughter's birthday!!!!
  14. LindaMRG

    Sept. 6

    (((((((((((HUGS, MY FRIEND)))))))))))))))))))) I could copy and paste your whole message and type "ditto" next to each sentence. Much love, Linda
  15. LindaMRG

    Back to say HI

    Hi Ray, Dont know if you remember me, but I remember you and Im very glad to see you are doing so well!!!!
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