Sonia Owen

Can someone answer a few questions that my Mum and myself would like to know about. Here in the UK we don't seem to talk about cancer like you do, its still seems to be a very taboo subject. Maybe its a generation thing, not sure. Even the Doctors over here, will not say too much on the subject, and when they told us that Dad had NSCLC, you don't really take things in and never ask much at the time. Mum has said to me how long do you think Dad has had cancer for? I say to her it just doesnot appear over night. Also she is wondering why he is eating quite well and after losing so much weight he doesnot gain any.He has been a smoker all his life,and will be 76 on Tuesday. You wonder just how long he will be with us, but there is no answer to that one,its a day at a time. When his cross becomes to much to bear he will take it from him I know that. He can hardly,walk now. Thats why the Doctor would only give him one week of a low dose of radation treatment to try and make his breathing easier and stop him bring up blood, which he is still doing. He has to see the Doctor in about three's time. I am so glad to have you all to speak to as we don't have anything like this in the UK, if we have then I have not found it. Sometimes its just nice to do normal things even for a short time. God Bless Sonia

I am so sorry about your Mum. As they say God only takes the best. There are so many things we don't understand,and we never will. You can only do what you think is right for your loved one.Take good care of yourself so you are there for your Dad.God Bless Sonia

Thankyou for all your kind words of support and comfort,its so nice to know that when I feel I need any advice or a place to let my feelings come out then I have a very special place to come to. My Dad has small cell lung cancer in both lungs. My Mum is is his main carer,and I do what ever she needs me to do,to take some of the load off her shoulders.One thing I like to do is take her out for a break, where we sit and have a coffee,and she can talk about her feelings,and how well she is doing and its not anyones fault that this has happened. Dad is a very proud man and it can be hard for us to always help him with daily tasks as he worries about Mum,. And I suppose he thinks he should be looking after us. I say to him that they both need help at this moment in time, you never know when you might need help yourself. Thankyou again for all your thoughts. Life is about the journey never about the outcome. Sonia

Hello my name is Sonia and I live in the UK. We found out my Dad has lung cancer three weeks before Christmas. Found your site and lit a candle for him. If I need someone to talk then I have found a place. Sometimes as a family you can feel very alone. God bless