Lee and Chi Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 Every time a "first day" rolls around without Mom, I don't know what to expect. There are days on the calendar that I know will be hard. This past Mother's Day almost ran me into the ground and I know Thanksgiving and Christmas this year are going to be rough. I keep hoping to be kidnapped by aliens as that sounds better than not having Mom there during the holidays. Then there are the days that sneak up out of nowhere, like the day my Mother was diagnosed. I wanted to be throwing a "You made it 1 year" party, but I wasn't. I was alone. I think one reason it was so hard is that I wasn't expecting it to be hard. I even tried really hard to ignore it, but that didn't help any. The next "first day" without Mom is going to be her birthday. It's not until October, but I have no idea what to do and I'm already dreading it. I wanted to know what other people did that helped to get through. I'm at a loss on this one. I want a nice way to remember her that's mostly private. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 On John's birthday we all went to John's favorite place and had lunch. He loved to go to this small place in town that has the best coney islands. So we all went and the kids ate coneys and toasted his birthday. For those of you that don't know what a coney island is, it is a hot dog with a meat sauce on top. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nick C Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 My mother's birthday is Oct 2, I have had one without her, and it stunk. But I did what she and I loved to do, which was garden. I wish she were here to do it with me, but that is something that makes me feel closer and connected to her. If there was something your mom loved that you love to do too. Maybe do that. Yes, it won't be the same without her. But maybe it'll draw you just a bit more connected. Thanksgiving almost exactly the same as Katie. Hard the first year, actually a little harder the second. Christmas, the first Christmas, I did it because Mom would have killed me if I didn't and it was hard. THis year was easier, but I still missed her intensely. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lee and Chi Posted July 18, 2008 Author Share Posted July 18, 2008 Thanks for the ideas. All I could come up with was "move to Mars" but I don't see that working out. It didn't occur to me until I posted here that her birthday will be a Sunday, and I can dedicate the flowers at Church to her. I can have the biggest pinkest flowers ever. That's also where her ashes are, at the church. Flowers and some pancakes for breakfast. I can do that. I don't think moving to Mars is an option for holidays either. One step at a time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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