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  1. Nick C

    Here's a new one

    Why do we play back in our heads the end days of our loved ones? Why does it seem like we don't nearly play back the good times in our heads as much? I think the reason why I tend to replay those last days is because I now have the benefit of hindsight. I did not at that time when I was trying to take in SO MUCH. In a way I feel like I am still trying to work through it all. Because I never worked all the way through it then.
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    Birthday Today

    I pull out a picture of my mom. Maybe make a dish I really liked that she used to make. I always bring flowers...it's kind of a do what feels right on the day. The last few years I've had meetings/business trips, so I haven't been left a ton of options.
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    Another year.

    Ronnie, It doesn't seem possible that it has been 3 years. Yes the edges are a little rough...but still... And yes life has taken many twists and turns and they might not come by here as much...but glad you did.
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    Final Update

    I know how you feel. Its so early and you can't imagine things ever coming back together. I felt the same way..things were "shattered" for me. But I assure you. Things will come back together. Life will be good again and memories will be happy and bring smiles. But it takes time, and that is completely specific to you. Its early. Give yourself the time to feel whatever you need to. We'll be around.
  5. I can't help you as far as prognosis and type and timing...but over the years I've been surprised at how many folks were given a time by their doctor only to find them blast past it and just keep "hangin around" and feeling good. Have hope...you might just be here to hang with us for a while . That said, I'm sure we understand the anxiety and I get how it can be terrifying...but have hope.
  6. They are simply in a changed form now. I love that!
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    10 years

    10 years...I'm sure it feels so long ago, yet at the same time, like yesterday...can totally relate...love transcends time and the bounds of this life. Its comforting...but still tough
  8. In a way, Katie, you can't. There is a finite amount of focus available. Said differently, if 10 hours a year are spent on major media outlets highlighting lung cancer...or if individuals are really only going to consume 15 minutes of information a year, one way to increase disease focussed talk (versus beghavior focussed talk) would be to increase the total allocation (the 10 hours or the 15 minutes). But let's be honest. That's not happening...that's well beyond our control (or is not easily influenced). So we need to use the 10 hours or the 15 minutes in the most wise way we know how.
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    Two years on

    I can't believe its been that long. I don't think any of us TRULY got to part on 100% our terms, say everythng and every goodbye we wanted to, and had every moment we needed. And that is truly hard to be reminded of...especially on anniversries. It is good to hear from you and hope you continue to receive the strength and support from those around you.
  10. OH!!!! Dates sometimes escape our vision. That is a good thing.
  11. So shocked, I thought he was doing so well!
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    Evolution

    Something occured to me from another thread. Some of you know that I am a church guy. Not a "bible thumper" but if I were called one, I'd say thank you. Now before you freak out that this is an evolution vs creationism post, it isn't. It occurednto me churches evolve. People come and go. Some faces stay constant but they change as people. And so all of those things make churches (not the building, but the people) change. This place is the same. And None of It is a bad thing. I remember times here where it's so scientific and type of lung cancer driven...I remember times where its
  13. I'll be brief. I can't tell folks irl when I miss my mom, but I can here. I can smile when someone says something stupid and insensitive, because I know you've all heard it too. I know I can get it for other people who in there real lives are surrounded by people who don't. I will also always remember the blessing I was given by this place in my darkest hour.
  14. I wonder sometimes if people think that they are being helpful...I mean could they possibly think so? Unreal
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    Anniversary

    Anniversaries are hard. I'm sure she is still so missed.
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    A Mother's Day gift

    A most excellent gift indeed!
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    A sign

    OK, mom has given signs. Not like Obi Wan Kenobi with Luke, but pretty darn good ones for sure. When I wass in 3th grade, my mom got her dream car. 1978 silver anniversary corvette. Very rare then, extremely rare now! Honestly I haven't seen one since I was maybe in 6th-7th grade (when my mom couldn't maintain the car anymore and got rid of it). Well today, the 5th Mother's day without her, we were running a little late, but had to get gas. And as I pumped I saw the flared wheel wells of a silver corvette pull in. It was the two toned silver. T tops off. Couldn't see the back spoiler
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    Mother's Day

    Mother's day isn't like other days. It is exclusive to Mother's...and we all only have one. And so, there is no way to have the day not be tough in some way. In some ways the second year is just as tough because the first is so about the first...the second is more reflective about what you are missing. The amazing thing about the day is that is does bring me closer even though the years have passed.
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    Judy kw

    Such a great presence here. This truly sucks
  20. Three years is a long time, and I am so sorry for the somberess. I hope the smiles that come with good memories overshadow the sadness. BTW, that pic is absolutely amazing...
  21. Anyone who has reason to be on this thread has walked this walk that Andrea is on. Anyone who has been here know Andrea has walked with us through our grief for so many years. I know she'll know (and we'll keep reminding her) that we're all with her now. I so hate that you are going through this Andrea!
  22. Gina, I am so sorry. This is truly just tragic.
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    remembering

    Oh Katie...Moms are so missed when they aren't with us...I know it is tough. 5 years...sigh...
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    Lost a dear freind

    First off, I am sorry for your friend and of coursse for you, because this must be a REAL close to home thing for you. I do wish and pray strength for YOU at this time, and I know your friend will recieve that stregth through you. Again, so sorry.
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