Nick C

good luck, hoope to "see" you soon!

Meg, I am sorry you are here, but welcome. We'll be here with you on your journey. you'll get the support and the prayers and a placce to come. Here's hoping the trial goes well!!!

Been off here the last couple of weeks. Hurricane knocked us out at home for a week, and that is my normal LCSC checking in place. And my precious online time has been spent concentrating on work or drumming up support for the Golf tourney for Lung Cancer research...so give me another couple of weeks and I'll get back up and running on here...until then, forgive my semi absence.

I would not think time would just make the feelings associated with that space go away.

I know diagnosis is tough, and information can be very scary...but statistics in NO way ever dictate what will happen in an individual's situation and care. Simply put, you are on the right track. You are in the loop, you have asked the right questions and you are gearing up for what is to come, which is good. Hang in there...and as you need support, we'll be here!

I can't quite imaginee what it is like to be without someone who you care so deeply for and then have two such significant days right on top of eachother...please hang in there. I wish you didn't have to have one of those days.,

That's a pretty full plate! I'm so sorry. Hoping for a turnaround!

It's good to talk about it...unashamed...sure fear is a component, but it doesn't need to paralyze us. I don't talk about it all the time...I'm sure I talk about it more than most. Very cool post!!! Well done!

So sorry. Dennis' friend...now reunited. But still hurts like hell for you. Just based on the story, that cat was someone special. Had a real significance. I am sure this is so tough for you on many levels...again, I am really sorry.

I hear you! I too am an only child. Even though it is hard not having anyone who shared my experience, I feel good knowing I am truly the only one on the planet who knew her like I did ...and that makes me feel a little bit better. Special. "Chosen" in a way. I'm also sorry for all the other stuff going on...yikes...so rough. Hang in there...and come here to talk too friends who get it!

So sorry. I am so not in your shoes, and yet I totally understand!

I don't know what to say. So sad for reading this. I am literally shuttering at this thought. I am so sorry.

Not easy. But it sounds lie you had the right support around you. Which is a blessing.

Thanks everyone, such great responses. There sure is a lot here! I saw a lot in these responses that hits really close to home. I know no one asked me to do this golf tourney, and so I never take it personal whe folks don't golf/help/contribute. I really don't. I guess I just feel, well sad, that folks don't look at the opportunity to help as a blessing...not an annual "curse".

How can we as advocates maintain a relationship with someone who "should" feel like we do about LC, but they really don't care/want to care about lung cancer? I have this issue in a lot of places. I have a friend who has lost her mom to LC...but she doesn't really care at all about lung cancer. This has always confused me... It's also always confused me how others who knew/cared about my mom don't care about the cause. I have a girl who is the ex-wife of a frat brother I wasn't SO close with and every year she contributes to our golf tourney. I don't even know if she's been touched by LC. But she cares... I didn't put this in the grieving thread...it isn't a grief issue. It's a how do you cope with/live life with/not resent when people don't care about lung cancer. And even worse when those people, from where you are sitting SHOULD.

I want to take joel to the casino!!!! Nice!

Many don't realize the gift that is given to us to help with our hurt. Good words!

Just plain sucks. Johan, rest well.

Aww cindy, even 5 years out *something* can always trigger some tears. And yes, if we only knew that last real hug, or kiss, or "I love you" was it...I know 100% where you are coming from.

A year, how is that possible. I know this time can be tough...we'll be here!

I feel so bad. I remember having these conversations...wanting to know time. And unfortunately, noone will say. And I don't know I could say. My experience was that when mom couldn't went down hill, it happened quickly and there wasn't a lot of time left BUT my mother's story is not by any means the norm here. Do you have any appointments any time soon? With what you are describing, I'm just curious if you've engaged with hospice? I ask because you are asking about time. I'm so sorry, I remember how tough this time can be.

diane...that is a great sign. I think the point of signs whether they are other earthly or just coincidences, the fact is anything that help us connect in some way with those we miss... a good thing!

Here.

I'm here, a caregiver survivor. (Funny, I often think of myself as a LC survivor even though the disease didn't reside in my body. Which is probably unfair to those who are really the LC survivors).

Sophia's first dance recital was hard. I teared up because my mom wasn't there. Well, we had Sophie's second dance recital. I thought of my mom. I wished she was there. I was sad. But not like the first time. Take heart those who are hurting at times like these or anticipating the hurt. You won't be numb...but the pain may not be as accute either!