wondermom

I am so sorry. It has to be so difficult to retrace those steps time and time again. Thoughts and prayers are with you.

So sorry for your loss.

Thanks Judy. Prayers to you and your family as well. I am sorry you are also going through rough times. Jill

Thank you so much for all of your prayers and support. I am relieved to report that both family members are going to be ok. My cousin's wife had a small brain bleed, fractured skull and a bruised lung. A follow up scan shows the bleeding has stopped and that she will be ok. She doesn't feel ok by any stretch of the imagination though and will be in the hospital until she can keep food down and her headache goes away. She is on morphine and it isn't even really touching the pain. She gets migraines and is telling the doctors the pain is worse than her migraines... But thank God she will eventually be back to herself. My sister is sore but ok. So scary though. Seeing those two laying on the ground motionless was terrifying. Sometimes I feel like there is a dark cloud over our family. It needs to move on already! Sunny days ahead.

We got together today, as we do every year around this time, to celebrate my mom's life. The entire family comes to spend time together. What started as a beautiful day ended with two people in the ER. One being air lifted to the hospital. My sister was leading my cousin's wife on our horse when the horse took off running. My sister pretty much got plowed down by the horse and by cousin's wife fell off and hit her head so hard that she fractured her skull and has a brain bleed. We had 3 ambulances, police, fire dept. and a helicoptor show up. My sister went to the local hospital to get a scan (which showed up clear) and some stitches in her chin. My cousin's wife is still in the hospital and will have further scans tomorrow to keep an eye on the bleed. I am terrified for her. She doesn't remember the incident at all. I just pray that she will be ok. This family cannot take any more heartache and I am so tired of hearing our family's story on the news. Please pray for my cousin's wife. That she heal fast and the bleed stops. Please pray for my dad too who feels responsible and is beside himself with worry. Jill

Is it too late for me to reply?! I am still here! I check in but not as often as I probably should. I feel that the people here are part of my family and I should definately check in more often with family! We are doing ok...Mom has been gone for nearly 4 years. Is that possible? We are planning our 4th annual family gathering at my dad's home. We get together every year around the time of her passing to just be together and celebrate life. We know that Mom would want us to go on living and I always picture her smiling down on us all, esp. Dad as he gives all the little kiddos a hay ride. Sadly, my mom's brother recently passed away from tragic circumstances so there will be another void that day but we will all be there together so that helps. I certainly treasure my LCSC family and speak of you often to family and friends. The support here is valued so much by so many.

http://minnesota.cbslocal.com/2011/07/2 ... bass-lake/ http://www.kare11.com/news/article/9317 ... oon-mishap This is a link to the story and a few pictures of the family.

Thank you. I think we are all still in shock. It is so sad. They tried for so long to have children and finally ended up adopting 2 from Russia. They were going through the adoption process when Mom was sick. They recently moved from the cities and were excited to start their new life in the country.

Last night my uncle (Mom's brother) died trying to save his 6 year old son. He had fallen or jumped off of their pontoon and my uncle went in after him. Neither were wearing life jackets. They were the only two on the pontoon. My aunt and their daughter were at the house when the 6 year old boy went running up saying, "I didn't want to wear my life jacket and daddy saved me." I am heartbroken for my grandmother. She is devastated. She had 4 children. One died when she was in first grade when she was run over by the school bus, then she lost my mom to lung cancer, then she lost my grandpa to lymphoma and now her son to this tragic accident. I am going to see her tomorrow and I don't even know what to do or say to her. How do you get past losing 3 children? I know this is a bit off topic as he did not pass from LC so I apologize if this post is misplaced. I am just shocked right now at the cruelty of life.

I hear you. I just found out my cousin's husband's grandmother has lung cancer too. It make me sick thinking about it. There is way too much. Everytime I hear of a new diagnosis it brings me right back to my mom's diagnosis and it makes me sad knowing what they are going through.

That you for sharing that. Beautiful story.

Thanks everyone, Still the same wonderful supportive friends I remember! Ann, to answer your question, I am doing well. My baby girl (in the photo) just started Kindergarten this year. She is loving it. My son is now in second grade. My brother and his wife (wedding picture below) welcomed thier first baby into the world last April and my sister got married and she and her husband are expecting in a few weeks. So a lot of changes in the last three years. I sure wish Mom could have been here with us for all of these happy events but I know she was watching. Hopefully, Dad will get through this bump in the road. It is hard on everyone when someone you love is hurting. Sometimes I wish we could fast forward through the difficult times but I know there are lessons to be learned from hardships. Jill

Thanks Katie, Yes, it will be up to him to get out there and meet people. It is just so hard to watch him go downhill. He met the first lady through an online dating service and has continued meeting people there. I let him know today about some widowers socials going on in the area. I thought they might be more comfortable for him than an actual support group. They are at local bar and grills so hopefully they will attract a somewhat younger group. Not sure if he will even go but I tried, right? Dad is on facebook so I will only update here Thanks again. You guys are great. Jill

Thanks Kasey! I remember you too. I also wish we were closer so we could set him up! I have a friend (my best friend) who has an aunt who is widowed and we talked about setting them up but they live a couple hours apart and I don't think either would move if it got serious enough. But who knows, maybe they should at least meet. Thanks for reaching out and for the support! Jill

It has been so long since I have started a thread on these boards. I am not even sure if people will remember me or my mom's story. I lost my mom 3 years ago to lung cancer. My Dad started dating someone about 6 or 7 months later. Us kids thought it was fast but he seemed happy and this woman "seemed" to be wonderful. Very caring and compassionate etc. So we decided to just let it go and see what happens. In other words, we didn't give Dad a hard time about dating so soon. We all knew how terrible and unbearably lonely he had been. Mom was his entire social life and without her he really has no friends or social networks. Anyway, a couple years into this relationship this woman's true colors come out and we start finding out about her sorted past. I won't go into details but the relationship ended (mostly because of us kids) I think Dad would have overlooked just about anything to have her stay...or should I say to have anyone stay so he wouldn't have to live in the house alone. I think he is depressed and I feel terrible that we pretty much foced him into a decision he likely wouldn't have made on his own. As I said before, he is very unsocial. I have tried to get him to go to a support group but he went once and said everyone was older than him and said it seemed depressing. He is dating again but doesn't seem very optimisitic. He says he still thinks about this other woman and I think he would like to take the easy route and get back with her rather than start over with a new relationship. He has always said he never loved this woman but that he enjoyed her companionship. The woman wanted to get married (which would be her 3rd marriage). How can I help him? I have suggested moving into town so he could be around people but he doesn't think that will help either. I just feel so helpless. Sorry for rambling but needed to vent. Anyone else going through this with a widowed parent? It breaks my heart to have him tell me over and over again how he is so lonely that he can hardly take it.