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Geez, I can't believe I'm admitting to this
but (no pun intended)...I've always suffered from chronic constipation and any pain medications I take make it worse...I *DO* have a solution that's always worked for me, though:
Handful of dried apricots (Go Becky!!!) or prunes in the morning, LOTS of water (as opposed to my normal soda intake), and walking. Senakot and the such has never done anything for me, so I had to go the natural route.
No advice on the pain issue...wish I had something to offer there other than prayers, but you definately have those!
~Thinking of you and praying~
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I keep reading and reading and seeing all the young people who are here, fighting this disease with their parents...some even fighting for themselves...and I'm terrified of posting a response because I don't want them to see that Mom died and lose hope.
I'm proud of the fight Mom put up...and I'm sad, of course, that she didn't get to win in the dictionary version of the word...but now I feel at a loss to help anyone who's just getting into this battle. I feel like, if they read the profile I have down there (the santized version, though I did print out and keep the original version so I have it), they'll see that she died anyway and it will suck the wind right out of them. I don't want to sugar-coat anything because this disease and it's effects on the family suck big-time...but I truely believe that up until Mom took her last breath, there was hope for her to fight on.
I know I've not fully gotten into missing her, fully engaged the sadness and hurt that are left in her place and I'll be honest in saying I'm not sure I really want to. Right now I avoid my family as much as I can, avoid the subject of Mom's illness and death when I can dodge it and when I can't I talk of "facts"...not feelings. But I want to *DO* something to help...without making someone else feel badly. Any advice?
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Definately nice to "meet" you, Amanda_Panda! We think your dad's pretty cool, too!
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Nick...
I'm not personally an AMEX holder...but I have a blog with over 300 hits daily....
Guess where your link is going?
Awesome! Hope I can get ya some more people over there that *are* AMEX card holders.
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Hi Tova and welcome...
I was smiling as I read the last update you posted...it reminded me very much of my mom and I shortly after her diagnosis. Actually, much of what you've posted so far has reminded me of her, her family, and our family...though there are three of her children, I'm the baby.
My mom's family has also been dessimated by cancer...there were 8 children, there are 4 left...all died of different cancers, and two of those surviving have been treated for cancer. I know your feeling of fear about that one!
I'm glad to know there's a treatment plan in place and that your mom is getting back in the fighting spirit. Mom told me many times that the hardest thing was sitting around waiting; that all she wanted was something to DO about it.
You and your family will be in my prayers for a wonderfully successful treatment!
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Of Mice and Men, Little Women and One Flew Over the Cuckoos Nest. Those are the three that I'd love to sit down and get through. Little Women I started and just haven't gotten "into it" so it just sits.
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I, too, echo the sentiment of second opinions (or third or fourth) and am curious what your wife's opinion is on it all.
Mom was determined to DO something about her cancer and went with first-line carbo/taxol for chemo...and did very well on it.
Best of luck in your decision-making process and with your wife's treatment (whatever she chooses)! You're both in my prayers!
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I can relate to the heartache that comes from unexpected disc's that are there. Mom made a DVD apparently...I've watched it once and I put it away. It's just too hard right now.
I, too, believe that your husband lives on, watching over you with loving eyes. It's in those quiet moments when he's closest to you. Believe it.
Much love,
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Oh {{{{Kelly}}}} Happy Birthday to you!! I'm so sorry that it's your first first. I'm there walking with you, singing the birthday song with the party hat on and hoping like nothing else that this day passes gently and with smiles and laughter for you!!
lots of love..
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Well sh*t Geri! I'm not a hand-wringer when it comes to health issues (how weird is that?!?!) I cover it with weather issues...something I'm TOTALLY not in control of!
However, being 7 months pregnant and 13 lbs lighter than I was when I got that way...I'll sure have some icecream with ya and get the pity party hats out for everyone! They come off at midnight, though...and anyone caught trying to keep them on get snapped with that stinking elastic that always catches my nose!
Thinkin bout ya and praying...
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Great news!! Glad to hear it went well and you're on your way!
Many prayers for a quick recovery and not too much pain!
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Die, tumor, die!!!!
Many prayers that it's runs screaming, then keels over and is NO MORE!!!
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I had to smile when I read this update on what you've been doing...reminds me so much of me when Mom was diagnosed! I'll let you know later if that's a good thing or not!
Please, let us know what Mom finds out!
Praying for the best results possible!
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Sending prayers...and wishing there was more I could do to help.
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Vent away!
We had a similar situation arise with Mom and it's SO difficult. If your mom and the rest of you as a family are willing/able to care for your dad at home and that's what HE wants...then I agree with Val (in the words of her dear momma). It's HARD to do what you guys are doing and those who are more on the "outside", even when truely wanting the best, just don't understand the additional stress they add by giving their opinion on what should be done.
Many prayers to you and yours...thinking of you...
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Hi Aubree and welcome to a wonderful place none of us ever wanted to be...and I'm glad you found us.
Don't worry about not getting the cancer type right the first time you heard it...We weren't sure with Mom for the first week or so because it rattled us so much.
The only difference I see in your family relationship is that Mom had all of her kids within 30 miles of her...but both my sister and I have a medical background and my brother does not and we are an extremely close-knit family. I actually think he had it easier (if there IS an easier in all of this) because he didn't LOOK at the statistics and nonsense the same way my sister and I did...he just kept loving Mom and THAT is the most important thing.
Learn what you can so you can advocate for your dad...but don't let the learning override loving him and supporting him in all the little ways that you can think of.
I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this from a distance, I can only imagine how difficult that must be for you.
Sending prayers and please, keep us informed on how you and your dad are doing.
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Hi Will, and welcome, though I hate that you had to find us.
You've gotten great advice so far so I'll just add that if you need, I have an elephant-sized tutu in a box around here somewhere that I can give you to spruce up that ole thing!
Remember that statistics aren't "life" and there is always HOPE!
Please, keep us posted on how your wife and you are doing...will keep you in my prayers.
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Hi and welcome...
I can't say anything about surgery as Mom never had the chance to get it...but I *do* know about weird reactions to medications!
Mom despised all pain medications because of a "loopy feeling", also, and would only take tylenol and ibuprofen.
You've gotten some great advice from people who are more "in the know" than I...so once again, welcome...though I'm sorry you had to find us. Please, keep us posted on how your dad (and you!) are doing!
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Please accept my sincerest sympathies...I know what you're going through. Take comfort knowing he's at peace when you can.
Love and prayers...
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Oh how exciting!! Here's to hoping that Jacob is smack dab ON the growth chart and you can have that 38 week delivery!!
Yay yay yay....I'm SO excited for you!
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Welcome...but sorry you had to find this place. It's a wonderful community of caring people who offer great advice, HOPE, and support....but it's not for everyone.
My brother and sister never stopped by...my Mom and I both came fairly often, though I posted way more often than Mom. My brother was always SO supportive of Mom...yet always carried around an attitude in the background that she wasn't trying hard enough or doing enough things to get better. I understand your frustration.
There will be the results of the biopsy (for what KIND of cancer it is) and then the staging process is usually done with the PET scan...it gives a look at the whole body to see what's what and where the cancer might have spread to. Then there's the possibility of an MRI to check the brain if they think that's needed. And never be afraid of getting a second (or third!) opinion!!! It's a process that feels like it takes forever. Once that's all done, then a treatment plan can be worked on and you'll find yourselves in more of a "routine".
Best of luck to you and your Mom!! Please, keep us posted on how she (and you!) are doing!
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YAY!
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Cheryl..
Welcome to this wonderful place...but so sorry you needed to find it.
Many prayers that your dad does wonderfully with his treatment!! Please, keep us posted on how he (and you!) are doing!
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Welcome, Rod...but sorry you had the need to find us.
Everyone has done a wonderful job of letting you know what's available on here for support and knowledge...and in letting you know that your children can be a HUGE support to you in this fight...so there's not much I can add other than to say that walking with my mom down this path was much more a blessing than a curse and a time that I will cherish forever. I'm glad you have your kids with you...and please, let them know they're welcome aboard anytime! We're here for them, too!
but (no pun intended)...
Amie's Little Guy--pictures
in HOPE
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Oh look at those EYES!!! What a beautiful little boy!!! Congratulations Amie and family!!!