Sloanie83

I am sorry for your loss. I can not offer any advice just comfort. My mom was diagnosed in August and died in Nov. I am not sure of it gets better. I hear it does but it’s very hard. I haven’t quit reached that point yet I don't think.

I am so sorry for your loss. I can relate in I am 24 my mom passed 4months after diagnosis at the age of 55. It all happens too soon. The only comfort I got in the fact she went so fast was that she didn't have to suffer longer. I miss her everyday as I know you do your mom. Prayers to us all for strength.

Mom went home this morning at 5:27 the people that needed to be there were and we all held her hand. She went very peacfully. I have so much comfort in knowing there is no more pain. My mom is and will always be a wonderul person. As for right now I fell okay with everything....I'm not sure if it will stay like that time will only tell. Thank you all for your words of comfort and prayers this board has truely been a great blessing to me thank you all. -Sloan or Sloanie (as mom would say form time to time)

Well mom got to come off the vent for about 6 hrs but she choked on her mucus and she isn't strong enough to cough them up her self. In the meeting this morning we decided we would take her off again, say our good bye's and make her comfotbale and let her go back home. I am back and forth with this. I want this all to be over so no more pain but I am not ready to lose my mom. Thank you all for all the wonderful information and responses. Thank you! Sloan

Well my dad just called me (I am at work ) He said mom is off the arm restraints completly and that she is breathing almost all on her own. She gave him a dirty look today. She some how told him that her stomach hurts because she has to go to the bathroom....they gave her some more morphine. We have (the famliy) a meeting with the Dr's tomorrow morning at 10am to go over everything. He told my dad something about what we expect is not what my mom expects (whatever that means ) Guess we will find out tomorrow.

Well this morning went a little better she went 45min off the vent. Her stats from the beginning have stayed great it’s just the breaths per min. When I say off the vent they turn it to where she is controlling the breaths. She did really good this morning but got tired after about 45min so we will try again tomorrow. She improved by 15min so that’s good news. She also was not running fever all day yesterday. As far as her saying take the tube out she agreed as of yesterday to keep it in. We spoke with the nurse and she said that this is very normal that almost everyone that is aware and awake wants it out (of course!!!) she said that we don't have to worry too much decisions yet that 12 days is where they start to say more long term.....I pray mom will be able to hold in there deal with the tube. We are just taking it one day at a time. Mom's dad and step mom and brothers are coming tomorrow. The only thing that scared me about that is I feel like she will see them and go why are they all here? I AM NOT DIEING YET!!!! And may get upset a little.....but then she may be really happy to see them....it’s the unknown that scares me. Thank to everyone prayers and positive feed back I don't know where I would be with out you all.

Mom is still on vent they have been trying for two days to take her off. Her stats has stayed good but she starts breathing too fast. She was able to open her eyes and shake her head yes or no today. She tried to pull the tube out today and my sister tried to calm her down and she said no. We asked her if she wanted it out she said yes. We told her that she will die if we take it out she didn't say anything. We are being shelfish because we told her we aren't ready to let her go yet. We asked if we could try again the morning on the c pap test and she said yes. So I guess we will take it one day at a time now.

Well Mom went into ICU wednesday she was very SOB and had been coughing up some flem. They diagnosed pnuemona. We got a call last night that they put mom on a vent she is doing good though. In a way I am almost releaved that her body doesn't have to work so hard. The vent is on 35% right now. They said they will try to take her off tomorrow if her lungs aren't so filled with gunk. Please pray that everything goes as planed and the medicine continues to work. So she can continue on treatment. Thank all.

I know how you feel. I have felt that way alot. Like you are already greiving and they aren't even gone. I will pray that your mom starts doing better.

Hey all not to sound gross or too disgusting, but my mom began vomiting (or gaging) up flem yesterday. I am not sure if maybe this is fluid that is finely being released from her lings because of chemo or some type of infection. Anyone have anything like this? Sorry a little graphic Thank you all so much! You all are the best!

Anyone know anything about hiccups and lung cancer? My mom can not get rid of her hiccups they put here on some med. to help relax her diaphragm, but the medicine nocks her out. If you look it up on the computer (what it’s used for) they give it to scitsophrenic (sp?) patients and lots of other things. I just wish there was something else they could give her that wouldn't make her so out of it. She doesn't even know we are really there when she takes it but she can't breathe with out it because the hick ups are so bad. On another note she is getting scans today to see how everything is progressing. So hopefully we get good news this week.

Tonight went to talk to my mom and caught her sitting in the room with my dad who was smoking! If that’s not bad enough I see she is smoking too!!!! I was so mad! I just shut the door and left. I feel so angry! I don't know who I should be madder at my mom for smoking or my dad for letting her and for not stopping his self. I think as a care giver I feel devastated in a way. I feel bad for feeling this way. I mean I know my mom is going thought sooooo much not only physically but emotionally. Does anyone else feel like this sometimes? I just feel so lost sometimes with this all, then I think is i feel like this what does my mom and everyone else with this awful disease feels. Thanks for letting me VENT!

Thank you so much! I have heard the caps. Are no good too. Someone sent it through an e-mail to me with tons of testimonies that it helped their cancer so I looked it up on the internet and found it supposable really does help and that it helps with a lot of other things also (in non cancer pt) but I have read you can put it in yogurt also so you might ask the Dr. about that. Thanks for the reply.

Has anyone heard anything about a cottage cheese and flax seed oil mixture, that helps cancer pts?

That is great news~!!

Strngth and faith be with you through this difficult time. You are in my prayers.

Mom went to see Dr. today they said one more day of radiation! He did a pulse ox today with oxygen on (it was on half though not whole) and she read a around 120!!!!! Dr and sister did there and she beat them! Dr said that means that radiation is helping open up some of the lung. She will start chemo on the 17th. They will do one round and scan again to see what’s going on. Oh yea almost forgot Mom walked across to the neighbors house w/ out oxygen on yesterday and stayed for about a hour and half then walked back across and wasn't really winded. This is great since she is/was on oxygen 24/7 since diagnosis. She has been going longer periods with out it and says she has been feeling a lot better. It’s so great to get good news no matter how big or small it is!!!!

I am sorry for your loss you are your family are in my prayers.

My mom was recently diagnosed with NSC adenocarcinoma stage III. My question is about the treatment they are going along with. They have started radiation first they said they are going to do about 15-30 rounds. She has had about 15 they said she has about 5 more left. Then they will start chemo. They found a spot on her tail bone that they say chemo will treat it I am wondering why they just don’t get it w/ the radiation. Also they are not going to do another scan till 6 rounds of chemo does that seem like a long time? Does this seem like appropriate treatment to you all?

Thanks Shelly. This site has helped out a lot! Today is my mom's 55th birthday and it makes me sick to think that the doctors are saying she won't be here for the 56th....But we are very optimistic and feel that she can beat this. Its very serial how all this takes places you think about your parents being there when you get older I mean you always know that they will not be there some day but I guess I always saw it that I would have kids they would get to see my two other sisters get married and so on...Now this scary "C" word has crept into out life and is trying to change that all. My grandmother was diagnosed about 2 weeks before my mom with stage IV colon cancer. I went one day with cancer never affecting me on a personal level to it consuming my whole life! Well thanks for letting me vent for a second.

New to site love the site gives tones of hope. Cuase Dr. don't seem to give much. Refuse to think my mom wont be here in a year.