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Mom is gone
in GRIEF
Jennifer,
so sorry for your loss, but it is nice that you were there to say goodbye. May peace be with you and your family in these hard days ahead.
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yeah that is a great Idea! You go girl!!!
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Andrea,
My dear firned (and sister), I agree with what Dean Carl said, it is the gift of her seeing you happy, and I know it is hard to enjoy yourself. Trust me I have the guilt of feeling sorry for myself when I can't do things like buy whatever I want and afford to go out, (because I am on Hiatus) and then I have to stop and think how awful I am, but the truth is.. .life must go on, and eventhough my Mom is sick, your Mom is sick, poor Nat is in mourning, I still do have to pay my rent and ofcourse I am going to stress, Ya know what I mean? Like you have to enjoy your shower and your Mom wants you to be happy, we can't all become Pollyanna's either. Right? Big hugs to you and pleae email me later and let me know how it all went.
Your friend and supporter,
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Shirley, You are amazing.
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Norme,
Mom (judyB) and I were just thinking and talking about you this very monring. We want you to know you are in our thoughts and please let me know if there is anything I can do. Give Buddy kisses from us, and I send you big HUGS!
love always, Steph and Judy B
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Anyone hear from Norme? HOw is Buddy doing? HOw are you??
Stephanie
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HI Andrea,
I know it is hard not to be cranky and thinking of doing things with out Mom is hard, and so ofcourse you are, but try to see the good, at least she is getting a scan and this way they will know what to do etc? Right? Hugs and we'll email later for sure.
Steph
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So sorry to hear that. My heart goes out to you and your family.
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it seemed to work, but I still had the same thing happend thathappend last night. It took a couple tries and it then had me listed under two names, but thatis okay I guess, as long as it works. It may be my explorer is being weird. Cheers and thanks for trying and having this at all. It really is a great place to be.
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HI all, well I was working and couldn't chat because I was always at work , now I have some time off, but can't get into this new system. I sent Rick an email but I doubt it will hlep tonight. What happens is this purple screen asking what user name and then when I put in mine it says I am already in the chat, but there is no chat window. Oh well. I hope everyone is doing well. PLEASE can we go back to the old way????
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Shelly,
what can I do??? I will send positive thoughts and hugs your way!! My heart fell when I saw your post. It is sooo bloody unfair sometimes. Big hugs!!! and email me if you need anything!
HUGS!!
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David, I remmebr David well. I can't spell and can't type sorry...
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My deepest sympathy to you. I remember David well and it is sad but I believe that it is not over when we die, but just moving to another place, a new journey. I don't know that may be weird, but it is what I like to believe. Hugs to you
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yes, Mom you can do it, and I am always with you in spirit even from LA. BIG HUGS
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That sucks!
Well like everyone said, you are a fighter and you will just have to beat this too, another step in your story. You are in my thoughts and I hope you can still have a happy holidays.PS did you ever make it out to Calabasas?
Cheers your friend Steph
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If you are serious about going to MN, I will help as much as I can. also working at Disney, many people with cash that may help. Please let me know and maybe I can raise some money!!!
email me direct
Connie, you are great to offer, what a great thing to do, and Jay I hope your Dad lets you go.
Sorry I haven't been on line much at all, I have been working like a million hours, but I always think about you all the time.
BIGGEST HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Hey Linda,
Thanks for the update, I am sorry I haven't been around and didn't know what you were going through, but my heart is always here, I have just been crazed at work.
Glad things are looking up and I hope you and your Dad have a good Christmas season.
Hugs
Steph
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Forget the pizza! I am sending Pizza, Videos, a car from CarsDirect! *hahhaha*
That is a great idea, and I loved the idea also about putting an icon if someone has passed.
We are all very close and it is important we know what is going on.
great thinking!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I know! Where is our Jay? I sent him a couple emails with no reply. Jay how are you??
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Hi Adam,
Well it does suck that you are going through this. I hate cancer, both my folks have it. My dad "only" has bladder cancer and so it is more of a nuisiance than a threat, but my Mom, Judy B on this board, has non-small cell lung cancer and it is a rollar coaster ride, and all I can say from experince is that it does get better and you have come to the right place. Would your Dad be interested in coming on the board?
Anyhow, the support here is amazing and I wouldn't be able to handle it without these folks.
And I know what you mean about when people ask about it. "How's your Mom/Dad?" I almost cringe when I hear it because I wonder, "do they really want to know?" or do the feel like they 'have' to ask me. Are they hoping that I won't tell them how hard it is?, or are they secrectly hoping I just smile and walk by?or do they have pity on me, "poor girl" etc. Sure there are the ones who really care, but also,I have just recently lost a best friend of 10 years because she said it is now hard to be my friend and she feels as if she is going through this with my family, and it is too hard for her.
Oddly, (for such a strong reaction from a best friend) my Mom is doing really well, and is a fighter, but it is those down swoops on the rollar coaster ride that bring me down and it is hard. Also sometimes when I say she is fine, they roll their eyes, like "yeah right she has lung cancer"
so I have learned that you can't please people and you have to just say whatever comes to mind when they ask and know who really cares and who is just asking to ask. Ya know???
Anyhow you should get your Dad Lance Armstrong's first book, "its not about the bike" it is sooo inspiring and it will help you all have hope and really that is the most important thing.
I wish I could help more, and I will send positive thoughts your way., Hang in there and welcome, this is a great place for support.
Big Hugs
Stephanie
Well like everyone said, you are a fighter and you will just have to beat this too, another step in your story. You are in my thoughts and I hope you can still have a happy holidays.
Why I haven't been "here".
in GENERAL
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Hi Dean Carl,
I am not sure if I have ever responded to one of your posts, but I have to say that I think you are amazing and I think that it takes tremendous courage to not take treatment, when Mom (JudyB) first got sick we talked about that "If" the worst case scenario were to happen, and I think that it is better to live your life to the fullest even if it is shorter, why be sick etc? I just hope that if I am ever faced with this myself that I will have even half of the courage that you do. . .you inspre me,
On the other hand, I see why soe people want to fight, either way it is the choice of the person going through it. I am not sick, so I can't even pretend to understand how you must be feeling, all I can do is try .
Also I ften feel like an outsider because I am not sick and it is my Mom who is, but I know that it not the case, and I love this board and couldn't handle this w/out it.
The roller coaster sucks, and I totally know what you mean about having empathy and caring and it is so hard sometimes when we see what our new friends and family are also going through. This is why I watch bad TV like Friends, and shows like that, action films and soaps to get my min doff of it. I have had the occasional time when I thin I can't listen to anymore of this because it is so hard, and I can't imagine how much harder it must be for you.
Anyhow I just motsly wanted to say that it is greta that you let us know where you have been and I am glad that you are okay, but I hope is well with all the dilemas that you spoke of and I hope you are taking care of yourself. Big hugs
