Trying to Cope

[Donna D]

It is exactly 1 month today that Mom passed away, and the pain is no better, in fact it seems worse. I miss her so much and I have been so weepy all day. I am trying to work, but my brain and heart are at a stand still. I found this poem that a friend sent me and the tears flowed even more. I pray that this note is from her to me. Thanks for hearing me out, sometimes it is easier to write than to say what you feel and at this very moment I have no one to listen to me.

Dona

A LETTER FROM HEAVEN

To my dearest family, some things Id like to say.

But first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.

Im writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.

Here, theres no more tears of sadness; Here is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy just because Im out of sight.

Remember that I am with you every morning, noon and night.

That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through.

God picked me up and hugged me and He said, I welcome you.

Its good to have you back again, you were missed while you were gone.

As for your dearest family, Theyll be here later on.

I need you here so badly, you are part of my plan.

There is so much that we can do, to help our mortal man.

God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.

And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.

And when you lie in bed at night the days chores put to flight.

God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years.

Because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.

But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.

Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.

I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.

If I were to tell you , you wouldnt understand.

But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is oer.

Im closer to you now, than I ever was before.

There are rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;

But together we can do it by taking one day at a time.

It was always my philosophy and Id like it for you too;

That as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.

If you can help somebody who is in sorrow and pain;

Then you can say to God at night....My day was not in vain.

And now I am contented... that my life was worthwhile.

Knowing as I passed along the way I made somebody smile.

So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low;

Just lend a hand to pick them up, as on your way you go.

When youre walking down the street and youve got me on your mind;

Im walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.

And when its time for you to go...from that body to be free.

Remember youre not going...youre coming here to me.

Written and copyrighted by Ruth Ann Mahaffey

[norme]

Dona,

Those last two lines got me...

Time does heal, it is not overnight. We learn a different way to carry on a life without our loved ones. We all go through it and our children to will go through it.. It is the circle of life.....They are in our thoughts forever. My mom has been gone 31 years and it seems just like yesterday she was here with me...Give yourself time, it will heal your heart......

[berisa]

The poem is very touching....I am sorry, remember you have us....

Sometimes, I will tell myself, we cry because we have emotions that God allows all these happiness and sadness happens on us for letting us know we are living and aware our existence.

[Eileen]

Dona so sorry and I feel your pain---healing and grieving takes a long time---all I can say is that eventually, it does not hurt so much---and although you always will feel a little sad, happy memories are also there---Although it is hard to believe now, the pain does lessen with time

regards, Eileen