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Update On My Mom She is going downhill :O(

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I posted back in Feb or March about my mom

We found out on Jan 30 2008 she has lung cancer Iv with brain mets.

It was inoperatable and she has tumors throughout her body.

She didn't want treatment cuz she wanted quailty of life.

Well this is June and she is going downhill fast. The past 2 weeks she has been in bed.

But still gets up to smoke. She eats very little and can barely walk.

She is confused and sometimes paronoid.

Its soooo much to see such a strong independant woman like this.

Hospice said she probally has bout 2 to 3 weeks left.

Im the only one taking care of her I finally talked her into getting a nurse 1 day a week.

for 4hours so i can go do my errands. My husband tries to help but my mom don't want him in bathroom with her which i understand.

She fell at 3 am and i didnt hear her and im afraid she is going to hurt herself bad.

We got a baby monitor but at night it is hard to tell if she is just turning over or getting u p. Hospice said for her to call for me to get out of bed but she wont listen

omg im stressed and i feel helpless.

any ideas?



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Lyris. I am so sorry and understand why you feel so helpless. You may have done so already but I would try and find out what other kinds of assistance you might be able to get to take more of the burden off of yourself. You are doing the absolute best you can for your mom and I am sure she appreciates every second of it. I can't even begin to understand what you are really going through but know that there are lots of people here who do and whose heart goes out to you, including mine.


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Thank you all for your replies.

Today is really hard because today is the day my dad died from lung cancer.

on june 3 1989 then my grandma died same day but 20 years later.

my mom is getting worse everyday.

She fell again at 4am I hate to see her like this



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Lyris, I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I just lost my sister a week ago to lung Cancer. We had hospice at the house for 4 days. It was a painful thing to watch. Your Mom needs a lot of assistance now. Do you have any friends/relatives who are ion the medical field who can help?


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Yes I do have help.

My husband and my best friend who lives a block from me.

Night time is worse for me my mom is sleeping most of the time.

But she gets up 3 or 4 am to go to bathroom and thats when she falls. So I set my alarm for 3:15am and check on her. This am I got to her b4 she woke up.

So no fall this am.

I would like her to stick around until her bday june 27th but don't think she will

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