lsaut Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 Dear step father is in his late 60s and has Stage IV lc. Had five days of radiation in December but no treatment since. Oncologist has been happy with slow progression and appointments have been every other month since December. New CT scans are being done tomorrow with next Oncologist appointment in 3 weeks. DH and I work stressful jobs and long hours. We have a 2.5 yo, and dear SF moved in with us the day of his diagnosis. We had planned for him to move in before diagnosis, but it sped up the process. I feel like I'm not doing enough to make his final months/year? (or maybe more!! fingers crossed) meaningful. I lose patience with him and my son more than I would like. I am full time caregiver to both of them, part time college student (required for career), and busy career woman. We may find that I'll need to take a leave of absence from work once his health starts to decline. It already feels like most days are a struggle and he isn't even "declining" yet, although the last few weeks there has been more coughing, heartburn, fatigue. I'll be surprised if his next check up is as good as the last few. We don't have other family members to lean on. I've hired a cleaning lady for every other week just to help me keep up on things. It feels like we are in "survival" mode, but I also feel like I'm not doing enough for him. He doesn't want things to change because of his lc. There is no handbook for this stuff. I guess this is a vent more than anything. Just needed to put it all out there. <3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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