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Nor do I go a nite without you in my prayers. Hope you get the work done soon.
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Margaret, am so very happy for you and Hollywood. Have a great time. My Scrappy said to say hello to Hollywood. He is sitting on my lap as I type. He thinks he is a stuffed toy sometimes. That I really don't know he is there. Gosh, what would we do without our pets...
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I hope you have a terrific day and many many more.
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Dean, Glad you are gaining back a little strength.
I am with Ry, I have only seen blue and white. Never red. have you been tipping that little bottle lately. hum, maybe that is what is giving you that extra strengthoo.
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I sure am late on this one but with the empty head I am sure you don't mind.
For the other, don't play you won't have to pay.....lol
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Mo. sure hope you are feeling better by now. If you catch that bug, step on it.
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Phyllis,
Just saw your post so I thought I would give you a few guidelines on your case. Cases are different from others so you can only go by your own case as far as Social Security disability benefits go.
I noticed in your post that you are still working, - - full time or parttime? That in itself is a factor in considering eligibility. I don't know if you are working full time or part time or if you are being subsidized in any way by your employer. What that sometimes means is are you working full time and not preforming your job well and your boss knows that but wants to pay you because of his generousity or maybe they gave you someone to help with your work, etc. orare you doing your job full time as you did before you became disabled with no subsidy from your employer and doing it well. If so and you make somewhere in the neighborhood of $800 a monthor more, that is considered substantial gainful work even though you are disabled and that can possibly get a denial on your claim. If you are working parttime and not making about $800 a month and/or not being subsidized in any way from your employer then you could be eligible for a disablility decision. I have been out of this business for a while so not sure of the $800 amount. It could be more or it could be less but sure it is somewhere in the neighborhood.
There is always a six month waiting period from the time you became disabled and unable to work, - - this is the common situation for most people filing a claim or a six month waiting period from when you could no longer do substantial gainful employment. YOu did work full time with your Stage IV disability but now am finding you have to stop. The six months would start when you stop working generally.
YOu will just have to file the claim and let the claim representative speak to you regarding your own situation. They can then tell you if there will be a medical decision or an immediate denial because you are doing substantial gainful work....
As for Medicare, it starts two years from the date you are found to be disabled and eligible for payment. If you become disabled May/04 and payment started November/04 then Medicare starts Nov/06.
I have seen denials many times when a person was truly disabled but could not stop working because of the fear of losing everything because that person was the breadwinner....it is sometimes a catch 22 situation for an individual....
There is also a program called SSI and that is a needs based program that is paid through the State but filed through Social Security. It pays based on a persons income and resources. If eligible for disability under that program it pays from the month of filing....there is no waiting period. It has a Medicaid card for health insurance for the disabled person. But there again, work is a factor also.
If you have any other questions you can pm me anytime.
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Paddy,
I don't know if I would call it a man thing or not but i suppose so, or, maybe it is that he really doesn't want to know how he is really doing and feels better thinking things are going okay with just an ache here and there and that to him may be normal with age....
I know it takes two to remember all that happens between visits and what Buddy would forget to say, I would remember. Never had a prob with the drs regarding who spoke out....
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That is terrific! Am so happy for you....I hope you do extremely well....
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Very good Becky.
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Margaret, try the Caregivers forum for your questions or you can pm me anytime and i will try to answer what i can for you.
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My dear friend Peg,
HOW DO YOU DO THIS? Sure wish I had that answer for you.
Everyone goes through this grieving different but yet the same. Loosing a spouse is the hardest thing that has ever happened to me. After being married to Buddy for 46 years plus 5 I am like only half here now. I will say that I am better today then I was a week or two or a month after his passing. I don't cry all day anymore, just a little each day. Don't think you are loosing it for all that you feel is so very normal.
I went to the cemetary today just because I wanted to go again but not really. I have a very hard time when I get there. I feel like I am going to throw-up and the tears start to come down. I noticed a lady there today that was there two days ago when I was last there. I spoke to her and asked her if she just lost her husband. She said no, he died 6 yrs ago but I still come here everyday. She said the people who work at the grave yard probably thinks she is crazy but she gets such comfort there. I told her "whatever works keep doing". I cannot imagine I will go everyday for 6 years for at some point I know that life must go on and will go on. I do not get much comfort at the grave site. I will visit regularly and place flowers on my mom's and dad's graves as I have always done and now Buddy's. The grave marker is now there and it seems strange to see our names on it.
Yesterday I decided to treat myself on mother's day. My son and family wanted me to go to Kings Island amusement park for the day with them but I was not in favor of that. I treated myself to visiting the new homes that was being presented in the Cavalcade of Homes. I was enjoying myself, taking my mind off of my loneliness when I went into the second last house and saw a big sign that mentioned a Memorial to some lady. Here it turned out to be the builder's wife who passed away 6 months ago. What the house has to do with it I didn't go into with anyone. I was talking with the builder, we had some mutual friends. His wife was ill for 10 yrs with alzhimers (sp?) and he took care of her at home though it all. He said he did something different this week. For the first time in 6 months he did not visit the grave. Here, he too was visiting the grave site everyday. He said he told himself it was time to stop and start back living in this world. He asked me what so far was the hardest part I was finding I had and after thinking about that, I said there were two things, - - Love and Security... I always had this safe place with Buddy. I knew through life that he would never in his power let anything ever happen to me if he could help from it. Love, well you know what I mean by that I told him.
So you see, you are not alone. There are a lot of us widows and widowers who are trying each day to make it though the 24 hours and we are not going crazy. We are all survivors finding our way. We will find our place but it will not be overnight. For each of us it will be a different time frame but it will come with some peace I do believe...God Bless you Peg. Just hold on tight and each day will get an inch better I promise....
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Well, I never joined back in Jan but am happy to report I have lost 25 lbs. Have been walking about a 1/2 hr three times a week and watching what I eat somewhat. Hope to lose a lot more in the months to come but who knows, may end up gaining it all back and more......
Would like to buy some new clothes but not sure what size yet. Everything still looks ugh.....
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Debbie, so glad you are back.....
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Lily, so glad you are back and ready to take on the world again.
As for chat night, don't forget my virgin ears will be listening.
.When will the book be ready for publication. I need to start saving to buy one.....
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Elaine, you are forgiven. just put on your gym shoes when going down the hall and Ry and Becky won't hear your foot steps and you won't need a pass.
I think at times all of us have a hard time responding but this place is habit forming. One can go off for a day or two but then the third day is he//////. got to find out what is going on. Who needs prayers, who is doing great!, etc. Everyone is missed after the 4th day. That is when Ry and Becky really get hard on the case. Watchout for chickens crossing the road.....in your direction. lol....
Hope you are doing okay.....think of you all the time....
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Ginny, Even though there is much sadness in your life right now I am so very happy
for you and the Duke. I will keep you sister in my prayers along with your friend....
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Debi, so very sorry to read your post. Sure wish i lived in Okla for I would love to keep the little one while you head for the funeral. But I don't so please take care of yourself and your little one too.
Not a one of us knows the day we will leave this earth.
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Whatever it takes to keep you a great caregiver, you go for it...see you when you return.
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Me to, am really happy for you
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David, I am again one day late. Congratulations.
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TBONE, everyone sure would love to hear from Bobmc. I for one miss him. I think I will send him another card tomorrow to.
The fee to join the cult is probably fresh live chickens knowing Ry.
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So good to hear from you my dear. Hope you are having a great time. Know you miss your mom but that is only normal....love
Any hall passes left?
in GENERAL
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Ok Becky and Ry, here you all go again, thinking about taking a trip without me, your cyber mom. I have been to the Indy 500 and it is awesome...so, should I start packing now.....Peggy, listen for the doorbell to ring....