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    Got the letter from UC

    in GRIEF

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    I love the sundial idea. I will have to ask SF. We had discussed taking them to Gatlinburg, but many of her Gburg friends weren't around when mom got sick, so we ruled that out. SF said he thinks we should scatter them over the graves of her family. I am not opposed to that, but wanted something more special.

    I still have my hubby's ashes (7 years later), but that is bc I am planning on taking them to Colorado when Graden (our son) is 9. I hope he will remember it always..

    Ry,

    Can you please ask where the sundial service was offered? Is it something online?

    Got the letter from UC

    in GRIEF

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    Well, SF got a letter this week from the University of Cincinnati Medical Center saying that they are done with mom's body, it has been cremated and now they are shipping them in the mail to us. I was not expecting this-they were supposed to have her body for three years. For whatever reason, they are done. Now, we must decide what to do with them. We'll figure it out, as SF already said he does not want them in his house. I am upset over this news and I guess I really wasn't ready for this time to come.

    It certainly was healing to know that her death was instrumental in helping other people. This makes it so final and done. I'm sad...

    Need suggestions please

    in CAREGIVER RESOURCE CENTER

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    YES! There is something you can do-print off posts from this site and read them to him. The wonderful people here gave my mom so much encouragement and hope that it made her come around, boxing gloves and all, ready to fight. At first, she would just continue watching her TV show as I was reading, but then she'd hear something that would spark her interest and eventually, she would look forard to hearing how everyone was doing. She herself only came here once but she was very sick by then, but I just read stuff and if she ever seemed annoyed, I'd leave them on her bed so that she could peruse when she wanted. It is something...

    unbelievable!

    in CAREGIVER RESOURCE CENTER

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    Cindy,

    I am also sorry that you are feeling so helpless right now and I wish that you had more help, just someone to be there with you. Unfortunately, I will tell you that I had many people around me when my mom was in her last days, but I still felt helpless most of the time. It is so scary. Do you have a friend or family member who can come to be with YOU right now? If so, call them. They would probably be happy to be able to help you in any way they can.

    My hope is that in the weeks to come, you will know that you were able to do this and you will feel a sense of pride for doing such a tremendous job.

    I send you my love and compassion for having to endure this. ((((((((((((Cindy))))))))))

    Brachytherapy

    in CAREGIVER RESOURCE CENTER

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    I think it is good that the has a Dr. who is willing to take a different approach by placing brachytherapy seeds. I do not see that offered to alot of patients from this site. The treatment has been around for a long time, but only in recent years have Drs. been using it in the brain/lung. Have you made any decisions yet? If I were you, I would ask all of the obvious questions, like:

    -How many patients has the Dr. treated this way?

    -What were those patients' outcomes?

    Keep us updated and big hugs to ya...

    Trying to make lemonade...

    in GENERAL

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    Just a quick update from my last post when I was freaking out bc all of topics I could think of for upcoming school projects were around death, patient advocacy, etc-stuff that added up to a lifetime of pain.

    Instead of focusing on that in my speeches I did one on "Why you shouldn't ask a person "Did they smoke?" when you find out that they or their loved one has LC.

    My second speech yesterday was to persuade people to become organ donors, full of personalization bc of my son Liam and my mama. I almost cried, but got through it and I recevied a ton of good feedback.

    Also, I am throwing a 4th of July party on Saturday, in my mama's honor. It won't be the same without her here. It won't be perfect in the details like hers were, but I am still doing it.

    I am trying to make lemonade out of all of these lemons and some days it is hard, but I am trying.

    I promise I'll be more active in the coming weeks. Ths semester is over as of tomorrow. Love you all and you are always on my mind.

    Foot Stomping, Dish Throwing I-Want-My-Mommy-Moment

    in GRIEF

    Posted

    Missy.

    I am sorry that I have not been here for you, but here I am. My last day of this semester is tomorrow.

    You are an awesome mom, wife, and woman. I personally think it is good to let it out. Sometimes we refrain from letting it out and then it takes a toll on our bodies and mental health. You have been in my thoughts so much and so here is a great big hug, cyberstyle.

    No Lung No Cancer

    in HOPE

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    Oh yeah Heather-I am so glad that you had the opportunity to have surgery. That is just great. It is even better that you are up to updating us aftr such a bid surgery-that is wonderful. I am so glad to hear this!!

    THREE CHEERS FOR HEATHER!!!

    Does it count?

    in GRIEF

    Posted

    This sounds very normal to me Kel. For me, because my mom was suffering so much, when she passed away, I was lighter somehow bc I knew she was better off. It is only now that I have started to unveil some of the deep down stuff that I need to process, almost 8 months later.

    another slap in the face

    in GRIEF

    Posted

    OMG Crystal. I had this exact same situation. My mom died in September and MIL (who lives with us) fell at our house in January. She had hip surgery and was then going to be moved to the same nursing home where my mom was and hated. I told John to ask the social worker what other options Medicare would pay for bc I could NOT go there, no way, no how.

    I have been to the hospital where mom was, several times in fact and I was OK. The idea of going to the nursing home though (the same place where we were refused therapy at the door, even with me screaming and crying) was not something I could do.

    I get it and I am sorry you are being called selfish. For now, it is self preservation.

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