bucky Posted January 19, 2005 Share Posted January 19, 2005 I found last week that somebody that I know have LC, pretty bad for what my daughter told me, but he still smoke. Why? I would like to understnd it but I can't. The cigarrette almost kill me & gave me this life sentence. thanks to listen to me, all of you are great people. I wish I would have more time to keep more in touch. bucky 50 Takinng care of my grand son YEEAAA!!! Stage I B, adreno. 2 years survival next month Last PET Shows COLOR, Scared, but Drs. said could be scar tissue, I HOPE Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Connie B Posted January 19, 2005 Share Posted January 19, 2005 Bucky, Welcome! I'm sorry your friend has lung cancer, but I would think if you want to know why he is still smoking you might want to ask him! It's a personal issue with people, and I for one try not to judge anyone if they continue to smoke. If he is in the LATE stages of lung cancer and there is NO HOPE, then I guess in my humble opinion, why should he quit? And yes, I know what it's like for those that love him. I've been in those shoes too. My father and sister continued to smoke but there cancer had spread throughout there bodies. My feelings for them did not change because they choose to continue to smoke. It gave them a little enjoyment, and I sure wasn't going to mess that up for them. Quiting wasn't going to save them from going to heaven. And yes, we ALL know what smoking does. BOY DO WE! Best wishes, and prayers for your friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KatieB Posted January 19, 2005 Share Posted January 19, 2005 My dad smoked for 9 weeks after his dx. He was thoroughly convinced that there was no hope, and that in his condition he thought, "why bother". They had given him 4 months to live (maybe, they said). It was a firm death sentence. Then we did alot of research, got our ducks in a row and found some hope AND some survivors. He got very ill and that is how he quit/never touched another cigarette. After he quit smoking, he tolerated the treatments so much better. The side-effects were less and he experienced some really good test results. He also spent some time NED without treatment and that was really nice. He outlived his original prognosis almost 3 times what they predicted. I had read somewhere that people who quit smoking respond better to treatment (but I don't have that resource right now to give to you) Just know that is it a personal choice and in the end, it is your friends life, all you can do is love and support them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rick Posted January 19, 2005 Share Posted January 19, 2005 That same question is asked about many substances that are addictive. Many people are addicted to many things and often lose thier families, homes, freedom and often thier life due to the addiction. The answer is most likely the basic definition of addiction. Addiction The condition of being habitually or compulsively occupied with or or involved in something Compulsive physiological and psychological need for a habit-forming substance Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Haylee_38 Posted January 19, 2005 Share Posted January 19, 2005 My mom continued to smoke. Her cancer was very advanced and she said there was no way she would give up smoking at that point. It was her choice and I stood by her choice. Haylee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rick Posted January 19, 2005 Share Posted January 19, 2005 That is one of the reasons as well. Probably more shock on the system to quit then continue when so advanced. Rick Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharyn Posted January 19, 2005 Share Posted January 19, 2005 My Dad continued to smoke right up until he passed away. His view was.."the damage has been done." Did we like the choice he made? No not really, but, it was HIS CHOICE and I could understand his reasoning. Its funny, one of the first dreams I had about him about two weeks after he passed, he said to me "you know what? I think I shouldn't have smoked... I was really sick after all!!" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Justakid Posted January 20, 2005 Share Posted January 20, 2005 Bucky- Some people just can't stop. I took me two weeks to do it after dx, but I was too scared not to. Not everyone can. Both my parents have severe emphasyma and both continue to smoke even after going through my mess. They have tried and tried. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ellakc2 Posted January 21, 2005 Share Posted January 21, 2005 One of my dearest friend had nsclc stage one,had lobectomy and no chemo or radiation. She got a second chance. She been clean for 4 yrs and continues to smoke. I don't get it either. It's a choice and obviously she wasn't scared enough. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Calintay Posted January 21, 2005 Share Posted January 21, 2005 I don't think that it was she wasn't scared enough but that she is addicted. My mom continues to smoke 1-3 smokes a day and believe me she is scared! but she is also stressed, sad and ADDICTED! For the people who have smoked or do smoke addictions are not easy to kick. The same as being an alcholic your told your liver is failing sure anyone would be scared but they are addicted and will pick up that next drink. For people who have never had an addiction it is easy for them to blame and point fingers but the people that I know that has/have an addiction the finger lies with the addiction not the ADDICT! Calintay Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lindseysmom Posted January 21, 2005 Share Posted January 21, 2005 HI Bucky, I quit right away, but I was very sick when I was first diagnoised. It was very hard though. There are still times when I want a cigarette but I know I will never pick one up again. I don't think I would have done as well as I have if I had not stop smoking. Best wishes, Dee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bucky Posted January 21, 2005 Author Share Posted January 21, 2005 Thanks to all of you, I quit rigth away to but I was so scarred to die. All your answers help me a lot. We need to accept the way they want to live. bucky St IB adreno no tratments after surgery Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted January 22, 2005 Share Posted January 22, 2005 Bucky, I would just like to use this post to reccommend a site where I am very active. whyquit.com and the Freedom from tobacco support board is full of educational materials and support. My husband, Mike , quit smoking when he was first diagnosed , 4 years ago and I quit nearly two years ago when I was diagnosed with emphysema. Thanks to the support of this site, I quit cold turkey and I can't say enough wonderful things about it. If anyone is looking for somewhere to turn to, I would highly reccommend it. sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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