Treebywater Posted May 26, 2006 Share Posted May 26, 2006 I thought I would share this with everyone, since there are so many of us who lost our Mom's or Dad's concurrent with having our first child, or when we had young children who would miss out on a lot of typical "Grandparent moments." I've been thinking about putting together a book of some sort for Carolyn with memories of my Mom. Someone suggested that a long while back here... And I DID tuck it away, and have been working on things in that vein even before that. Today I sent out an email to her remaining siblings asking for them to contribute THEIR memories about Mom. I'm also going to ask some folks that Mom worked with to contribute, and some of her close friends. I want to do the same for Andy's Dad, who he lost our freshman year of college, and suprise Andy with the beginnings of it for Father's Day (even though it will ultimately be a present for Carolyn and any other kids we might have). Anyway... I thought this would be a great way for Carolyn to "know" her Gramma Caro and Grandpa Paul even though they aren't here with us anymore. I have a feeling it will be cathartic as well. Val Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted May 26, 2006 Share Posted May 26, 2006 Hi Val, I always suggest that idea, especially when there are little granchilden who do not have their own memories of them. That is so precious and will help them to really know her through the eyes of others. It is also a good source of healing. Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kasey Posted May 26, 2006 Share Posted May 26, 2006 A wonderful gift, Val. It will be something for Carolyn to treasure for a lifetime. Love, Kasey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ErinC1973 Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 Val, I have to tell you that I spent most of this morning going through your blog. I still haven't made a dent, but I could relate to so much of what you so eloquently wrote in there. I have a journal I write in...and I think you have inspired me to start a weblog. I'm missing my mom much more lately. I've spent the past 14 weeks since my mom's death in a sort of shock. I believe my coping mechanism kept the reality of it all just out of my reach. And I kind of liked it that way. Then all of a sudden about two weeks ago, it all hit. I have been spending a lot of time crying, thinking, sitting in my mom's room on her bed. Talking to her. Crying into Ian's baby hair. I see so much of what you say in your site in myself, it makes me hurt for both of us...for ALL of us on here who have lost our moms while pregnant or right after giving birth. I have said it a million times, I would give anything to be able to put that baby into her arms, just once. Some silly part of me feels like if I was able to do that, maybe I could have saved her. Silly, silly me! I guess I just look into Ian's eyes, and see how now he is starting to smile, and get to be really fun, you know, that my mom would not want to miss a moment of it. But in reality I know she is so much happier now. In one week this month, I dealt with the 3 month anniversary of her death, what would have been hers and my stepdad's (who died of LC in 1999) 15th anniversary, and Mother's Day. I swear, Mother's Day is the day I was dreading, even before my mom died, and it's the day I "thawed." The day the floods came, all of the memories came, the realization that we would be making no more new memories. My mom would not be giving me a Mother's Day card. I'm thinking of her every second nowadays. Nothing I do is without thought that I wish she were here to witness it. The reality of her being gone, FOREVER, has hit. I am going to make it through your entire blog. I hope you don't mind. I almost feel like I am invading your private space by reading it. But I admire your being able to organize your thoughts so well into this space. And I think that getting a memory book together is a truly wonderful idea. I've always believed that grandparents are such an important part of a child's life. My mom and I lived with mine until I was 14 and I was SO close to them. Since our mom's are gone it is so important to keep their memories alive and make sure our kids know and respect them as we did. Good luck with putting the book together. I know it will be a very soothing project. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kel M Posted May 29, 2006 Share Posted May 29, 2006 Val, What a terrific idea!!! I've been writing Mom moments in my journal and when the time comes, I like your idea of turning it into a memory book for the wee ones. I'm sure your daughter with treasure it greatly. So, I suspect, will her Mom! Kel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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