lsaut Posted March 31, 2017 Share Posted March 31, 2017 I'm having trouble supporting my step dad right now. I worry he is in the final stages of his lung cancer journey. An oncologist appointment in February and a CT scan of his chest and neck showed limited progression, but things have changed. His diagnosis (of stage IV nsclc squamous carcinoma) was in December 2015. No timeline was ever given other than 6-8 months at that time and he's done so well since then. I made an appointment with his family doctor for Tuesday - will have bloodwork (he is also diabetic) and a chest xray before then. He is angry and doesn't believe he needs to see the family doctor. He hasn't seen him since October, only visits with the Oncologist in November/December and one in February. We went on vacation last week. He spent several days in the hotel room recovering from the flight, ate very very little, and his skin and eyes have changed to a green/yellow colour. He is coughing much more and it is often productive, with nauseousness, especially after eating. He is blaming all of this on a cold, but he's had this "cold" since December (when chemo ended). His next oncologist appointment isn't until May. He is angry, irritable, and fatigued. Heck, so am I! I am his daughter, full time caregiver, landlord, and one of few people in his life. I work full time in a demanding job, as does my DH, and have a three year old. Do I take time off from work now? Get more care? I am going to call our local hospice and find out about their services. His home nursing is on hold because it wasn't felt necessary once chemo was over, and he is generally self sufficient during the day, so I don't want to "baby" him with visitors and nursing, but I'm so worried. I'm lost. How do I deal with my grief, his grief,his care, my son's grief and everything else going on? I worry he heard DH and I talking about our fears the other day but I'm not sure. My marriage has suffered greatly but we are trying to hold everything together to get through this. I think we are in the worst of the storm right now. I know there aren't really any answers, but I needed to vent in a safe space. <3. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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