fade2blk Posted March 4, 2004 Share Posted March 4, 2004 Hello all, I am a lurker and first time poster to these boards. I have a few questions for anyone who had a loved one pass away in a nursing home. My grandmother is Stage IV NSCLC with brain mets. In January, she had a seizure and was hospitalized. She became very weak and unable to do a lot for herself. Upon her release from the hospital, my grandfather had her transferred to a nursing home, as he is not physically or emotionally able to care for her at home and the rest of the family lives out of state. Her doctor's gave her a couple of months left, and that was six weeks ago. She is now showing some signs that the end may be coming soon, i.e., increased confusion, weakness, not eating, and yesterday, her BP was really low, so we think the end may be near. Here are my questions: How did your loved one's nursing home deal with these things, from an end-of-life comfort care perspective? Did you have hospice involved as well? My main concerns are the physical changes that occur in a dying person, i.e., noisy breathing that can occur (she shares a room with someone), and all of the visitors that are bound to come if she is indeed entering that final stage. I just feel that the nursing home will not give her the privacy that is needed at the end of life, especially since she shares a room. There are no private rooms available, unfortunately. Bringing her home, even under the care of hospice is not an option, my grandfather won't hear of it--we have tried to talk to him. Does anybody have any suggestions on how to make this as comfortable and as dignified as possible for her? Thanks for reading and responding!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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