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    ok, Brian, Brian, Brian............I love that name................

    I want to say you are very close to my heart.

    I pray for you and your family every single day and think of you.

    My Brian read that book.

    I made him a 'thinking~praying place' in our home where he could read and reflect and no one could come in unless invited.

    It was an honor and delight to be invited.

    When is your trip to Ireland? I hope you get to go to Kiely's Pub over there, a friend of mine's family has owned it for years! I can get the exact location for you................

    I am not so dense as to think Ireland is a tiny little country where everyone knows Kiely's, but the vibe would suit you!

    In honor of your sports analagy I am calling 'piling on' and throwing the flag.

    Please know that I am praying for you and that I care.

    Uploading all respect and support for your valiant approach to LC.

    P

    edited to correct spelling of Kiely's Pub

    My Friend Lorren and I

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    Prayers and concern from here, Judy.

    What a loving woman you are. Loreen is blessed to have you in her life.

    I wish I could come help out.................I bet you could talk her into letting me drive................I hate to shop, but I would be a good sport.

    Now, concentrate on good test results.

    hugs

    He's back in again :(

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    I cared for Brian just exactly as you are doing for your husband. I want you to know that you are giving your husband the kind of love and care that will last forever. Your fatigue, hunger, fear, and agonizing over decisions will sustain you..........even if that seems a contradiction. You and your husband are in my prayers and I am uploading strength and support for all you are doing.

    Remember in the midst of all of the commotion to smile at him often and tell him you love him..............even though he knows you do!

    Love

    Pat

    Sandra

    in GRIEF

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    Our LC family has another terrible loss. My heart is w/ her husband and children and all of us who share this terrible bond.

    P

    Taboo subject--smoking

    in GENERAL

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    Thank you for this thread and the honesty it contains.

    I am a real 'case'.

    Brian and I quit together shortly after we married in 1995.

    We stayed quit.

    He died.

    I started smoking about a year after he died. I had gained so much weight by eating through my grief I was desparate to lose some and foolishly thought smoking would help. It didn't.

    Now I comfort myself w/ both food and smokes.

    He would NOT be proud of me.

    I have managed to stop smoking for a month at a time in the last two years 4 times......................I am miserable and guilty and angry with myself.

    Everyday I beat myself up. But I am still smoking.

    I am just not adjusting to life alone.

    I would be grateful if you would add me to your prayer concerns.

    I am not sure why anyone who did full care for 10 months for someone actively dying of LC would even think about lighting up. I lost my husband and my sister as a result of smoking.................I am so ashamed of myself.

    This thread provided much comfort and for thought.

    Thank you, again.

    Love

    Pat

    Another June 17

    in GRIEF

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    Hello, friends,

    I am drawn back here today as it marks the third time I have remembered our wedding day without Brian.

    I am not 'widowing' well.

    Some of you will remember that I sold auto fasteners for a living. You can well imagine that I am not working. My job went away April 3. My severence pay will last till the end of this month and I will then be drawing my SS and my pension.

    Idle time is NOT good for me and retired is not an adjective I would have chosen for myself.

    I am having a terrible time managing my weight as I eat for comfort. It is funny that I wish and pray every day that Brian come back and yet if he did, he truly would not even recognize me. It seems that all the bad habits I battled and overcame in my thirties have come back to haunt me and own me in my sixties. Fercryenoutloud.

    All the plans Brian and I made for retirement................................all of our dreams and wishes..................................

    I guess I just didn't lose my husband. I seem to have lost my way, my future and my energy for life.

    I see family often, in fact I spent Memorial Day w/ my brothers in NC and am leaving tomorrow for 5 days w/ my son and family in FL. All my family has been loving, supportive and understanding. I am grateful for them, but I am very specifically lonely. Not generally lonely. I need Brian.

    Today I want to thank all of you, once again, for being here. I will never forget the love and support given us during Brian's cancer battle. I am grateful that I can come back here today and cry on your collective shoulder.

    You are part of me. I lift each of you in prayer every single day.

    Hugs

    Pat

    My sister

    in GRIEF

    Posted

    Hi,

    Please tell your sister that many of us suffer as she does.

    Please let her know that I felt some relief after reading:

    No Death NO Fear

    by

    Thich Nhat Hanh

    I found it very comforting.

    As to the medium maybe you two could ask each other if your mom would have spent $500. this way ~ maybe yes? maybe no? but that could help w/ the decision.

    How can it be 3 years?

    in GRIEF

    Posted

    It was so sweet to see this bumped up.

    Thank you friends.

    In loving memory: Brian, Don, Bill, Dennis, Earl,Alan,Mike,Charlie,Keith, Lucy, John,Mike,

    oh, I should never have started this,

    It hurts too much.

    I am going to stop.

    P

    Hello

    in GRIEF

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    Hello, dear friend.

    I am remiss in keeping up.

    I did not know you had a stroke.

    Bless your heart.

    I always have you and Don in thought...............

    there were those of us whose timeline crossed and we are friends forever.

    Many hugs and so much love

    Pat

    Don M's request of his wife, Jude

    in GRIEF

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    My husband consistenly asked about Don during his illness.

    He had such respect for him.

    I did, too, and he was wonderful in support of Brian and Me.

    I am forever grateful and Don is forever part of me and part of Brian.

    I am so sorry for your loss and for ours.

    Pat

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