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  1. I'm with him:

    STANDING

    WE ARE DONE HERE.

    This just freaking bites.

    I hate it and I hate and I hate it.

    My heart is with you and I so hope Harry's determination and spirit are quickly rewarded.

    Please know that I care and that I am praying my heart out and sending all love support and admiration.

    Hugs for all of your family.

    Please PM if there is anything you can think of that I could do or say or be.

    P

  2. Uploading all positive energy and positive vibes for better days.

    Many prayers for you and Julia.

    Thank you for the post.

    We are your fan club and your booster squard and your staunch supporters.

    Hugs

    P

  3. Today I am deciding to be grateful.

    Grateful for God in life.

    Grateful for a respite from sub zero temps

    Grateful for my pooch

    Grateful for Jackie

    Gateful to see that others notice and appreciate how and who she is.

    Grateful for football games today

    Grateful I have loving family, friends and neighbors

    Grateful for the SUN and for THE SON

    Hugs

    P

  4. I appreciate all your kind comments.

    It has been a hard day, but I have tried to just remember how happy Brian is.

    I am glad he no longer suffers and no longer endures ugly side effects and the intrusion of constant tx.

    I just miss his kindness and encouragement and cheerleading and hugs and gentle laughter and well.......you all know.

    I know it is selfish and self indulgent to be so sad about being alone.

    I know

    But it is how I feel

    Hugs for all others grieving today.

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  5. Robin,

    I am so sorry for the situation you find yourself in.

    I am just so sorry.

    Does your hospice RN have any suggestions?

    your onc?

    Where are you living?

    Are there any support groups in the area?

    Usually help is available you just have to know whom to ask.

    Many prayers and sending all positive vibes.

    P

  6. Jan 1, 2006

    He was in pain

    He was agitated

    He was still fighting

    His Tarceva rash was clearing up

    I laid next to him in the hospital bed I had moved into our bedroom only 2 days before. Brian had finally agreed to stop tx. It was doing more harm than good and we were looking forward to spending weeks on the 'bridge' between here and there and dangling our feet in memories and goodbyes. (This bridge concept was shared w/ us by Beth and Bill and gave Brian much much comfort~as did the Rainbow Bridge shared by DeanCarl)

    I matched his breathing. It hurt to do so

    I rubbed his feet

    I stroked his face

    I held him close whispered all things to him

    The hospice RN came and was surprised at his progression. She gave him Ativan under his tongue, rectal pain meds and an injection.

    I laid with him and his breathing became easier to match. He made soft moaning noises that I came to think of as comforting himself.

    I moaned a bit with him softly.

    I put on his CD of Brennan Manning talking of God's unwavering love.

    The RN wanted to bathe him. I said I would. The activity seemed to agitate him so I stopped.

    Soon he would be Heavenly clean.

    I gave him more Ativan under his tongue and he seemed to relax a bit.

    Pastor was called and came to pray w/ us

    His daughters came and stood scared to death near his bed........unbelieving.

    My sister came to be w/ me

    More pain meds as he became agitated again.

    He was hot. I took off the blankets that I needed so badly and covered us w/ the top sheet from our lovely wedding linens (We got married in our home and spent our honeymoon here)

    His breathing became impossible to match. It really wasn't breathing per se anymore.

    At 5:40 PM

    Brian went to the Heavenly Mansion prepared by Our Father.

    He was reunited w/ his dad, his pets and all the Heavenly beings.

    They took him from the home we made covered with a quilt made by family for our wedding

    It was snowing and cold

    Two years have not eased my missing him

    Two years have not eased the pain of knowing we did not get 'goodbye time' Our time was spent in battle as he wished.

    I don't remember much about the services; but Brian was so cold during tx that I could not bring myself to inter his ashes till summer.

    Brian is now whole, healthy and understands all there is to understand.

    He has met my Tom who died in 1993 and has told him how he gave me roses on each anniversary of his death. He has told him that he always said that if it weren't for the way Tom loved me I could never have loved him.

    Brian was kind, tolerant, loving, giving, loyal, trustworthy, honest and determined.

    I miss him like fire.

    Two years have not eased the lonliness, longing and resentment.

    I love and will always love and miss my Superman.

    Brian, I honor you and love you and thank you for loving me so well.

    P

  7. I am going to see it because Jack McFarland (don't know his real name) from Will and Grace is in it and he CRACKS ME UP.

    I plan to take an open mind and an open heart. I think it will be a hard movie for me to watch but feel I need to do so.

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