Ed decided to stop chemo. He wants to go back to Seattle. We will fly out tomorrow. He is so weak.
It has been quite painful the last 4 days. My stepson has accused me of providing inadequate care for Ed. That Ed is not clean, not eating and depressed. That he must have a professinal home health care aide at all times. That I have ignored and isolated Ed from his children. This kid has only visited Ed once every 2 weeks for a 1/2 hour. I told him he could come and help out and do things for his father. He told me I am the primary caregiver and his wife I should do it all. I have home health aides for bathing, my son stays with Ed during the day and I take care of Ed at night. To top it off he says he will get social services, I called a senior help office. They calmed me down and asked me what I have done to help my husband. I have requested and gotten Home Health care: physical thearipist, speech thearipist,social worker and a bath aide. Also I have hired a care giver at various times. Ed has no desire to eat, Ed would not ask for a antidepressant until a week ago.
I bathe my husband, I walk him to the commode, I make him smoothies, I encourage him to eat. He is so afaird of choking he doesn't eat. He refused a feeding tube.
A home health aide can not fix his refusal to eat, refusal to take antidepressants or reduce the necrosis and brain tumors. My husband wants me to take care of him.
Community help me let go of this intense hurt and anger I feel.