adela

Thank you for the poem. God only takes the best. He has my Ed.

Carleen, You are a amazing wife and caregver. May you and Kieth enjoy the small moments. Take care of yourself.

I feel your pain. I am sorry you are going through this. Enjoy each moment with her and hold her.

Ed had WBR and he lost his hearing in both ears. He tried the pocket talker for about a month. The pocket talker is a inexpensive hearing assitive device. It was quite frustrating for Ed.

I am sorry for this news. Each moment with your loved one is so precious.

You have good news......he has a problem you don't. The news is goooood, happy for you. Maybe he needs a hormone shot.

That is fantastic!!!!!!!!!I hope you stay NED forever. I am from Albuquerque grew up around 8th and Mountain Road then moved to the west side.

I am so sorry, you will have the strength you need for the days ahead. You love your husband so much and he loves you. I am heartbroken for you.

It has been 26 days since my husband died. Yesterday I got a call from the ex-wife asking when the WILL is going to be read. She was told by my sister-in-law that my husband provided for his two children. His 2 children are over 21.....one adult son lives 20 minutes away. He came at the minimum 30 to 60 minutes evey other week to visit his dying father. My husband so wanted to see his son, several times I mentioned to the son to come over and he said he didn't have time. He works and goes to school on Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday afternoons. When my husband knew he was dying and wanted to go back to Seattle, I offered to pay for a airline ticket for his daughter to visit him. She refused and said she couldn't because she had to pay her mortgage. With clarity I told her your father is dying and you will not be able to see him again alive. It was so hard for me to see him yearn so much to see his children.......the week before he died he would call out their names to come help him. I would comfort him as much as I could. Can the community help me process the anger I feel towards these adults. It is consuming me and I am not grieving for my husband. My therapist said anger is easier to grab hold of instead of grief. I want to process my anger and go to the grieving.

Shanna, you will be able to do this. You will be able to hold your Mother tell her you love her. You will be able to cry with your Mother.......and when the time comes you will be able to say Good Bye. The radiation could help her with pain. What about Hospice.....the nurses are good and they know what is needed to help with pain. Take care of yourself and you are doing everything possible for your mother. My prayers for you and your family.

Sunshinenys, It takes a lot of courage to stop chemo and a lot to support your Mother like you are doing. You will be able to gather emotional strength and a sense on what to do for her. If you need additonal help I am here for you. Just pm me. Adela

Linda, I am so sorry. Adela

Shanna, Hospice would help alot. Hospice helped on pain meds for my husband and I was very happy about it. I was very scared and I read a book called Final Gifts....the book was a big help. Hospice will give you information that helps you a lot. Take care of yourself and you will be able to take care of your mother. Adela

I am so sorry for the loss of your sister.

Yes Karen it is very hard. It has been about 2 weeks for me. Today I wanted to share something about work with my husband but he isn't here. It feels so empty. I know you and I are on a journey with the wonderful help of others here we will be help along the way. I am so sorry for your loss.

I am so sorry for your loss.

Even with the mask on he could have lasted until the next day. Pehaps the best thing to do is understand yourself and take care of yourself. Each of us goes thru grieving different. Take care and be kind to you!!!!!!

My husband had WBR and he would kind of speak in a strange language. Like all x's....this would happen when he was under a lot of stress. It was quite distrubing to him and me. I would just wait until he got his wits about him and then it would be ok.

I am sorry for your loss.

Sandy, I am so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself.

I agree with the others. One does not get over it or just move on.Allow yourself to feel....... Adela

Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. I feel like I have a doughnut hole in my heart. I am in this zone and it is all kind of feelings.

I am sorry for your loss. yes you do feel numb and are in this zone. I have the same numbnes my husband passed on the 11th.

So very sorry for your loss.

Ed passed away in my arms on Saturday 3/11/06. Fluneral will be 3/18/06. He will be buried in his beloved Pacific Northwest. Enumclaw, WA at the base of MT Rainer from the cemetary you can view Mt. Rainer in all its splendor.