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  1. Val,

    Like Katie, I too can relate. The NEW normal is not so new any more, it is just normal. The saying that it is what it is, speaks for itself.

    I know my life has changed too in so many ways yet I still think of Randy everyday. When certain events take place, I so wish he was still here to be with us to enjoy them, but then I remember he is still with us, in our hearts.

    Thank you for sharing.

    Much love and warm hugs. Your mother is so very proud of you!!


  2. Randy,

    I hope this funk passes soon for you. If it continues, make sure you talk to your doctor about it. You don't have to go through this alone you know. We are all here for you whenever you need us to help boost you up.

    I know the first season of holiday's for me was so hard. I just tried to keep myself so busy I did not have time to think. I also made it a point to have lots of people around. The other thing I did was not focus so much on traditions that had been but starting doing what felt right for me at the time. If that meant letting go of some of the old traditions, then so be it. I did what I had to do to survive.

    You are such an inspiration to so many. I have to thank you for all you have done so far and all you will do in the future for all of us here. Thank you!!

    Love and hugs,


  3. Linda,

    I am glad you posted and that you are getting the medical help you need along with the rest that have responded.

    I never would have thought I would have had the issues I have now but have learned alot since Randy, my mom, and my brother in law passed. Broken heart symdrom (sp) is very real. If let unattended, it can lead to more problems. I never thought I would have had heart issues until I happened to mention to my doctor durning my annual physical that I thought I had a pulled muscle in my chest. Thankfully she listened and sent me in for further testing. We found out that pulled muscle is cardio myapothy. I am now on medication for it and I know in time it will help. But we need to listen to our bodies. Care givers need to pay attention to their own health as well as their loved ones. Get your checkups. Make sure you are taking as good of care of yourself as you are of others. Without your health, you will not be there for others.

    Praying for us all.


  4. OH (((((PAT)))))

    Oh sweetie, like Don I have no real advise for you. I know I have been there too. The last three months before Randy died will always be in my mind. The first year was so filled with those memories of all we had been through the previous year. It seemed each day brough a new "anniversary". Just another painful reminder of what I lost when he died.

    I am so sorry you are hurting so...it is heartbreaking and there is no way around it. We each go through this in our own way as you well know. Somehow we find our path and just walk it. I pray that there will come a day when you have peaceful memories. Ones that can make you smile without hurt.

    You and your family are in my prayers. I know how much Brian fills your soul.

    Much love.


  5. Don,

    I so understand what you are going through. It hurts to admit you are "single". For me it hit me hardest when I would be out and see couples. Knowing that Randy was gone and I was "alone". It was no longer Randy and Shirley....it was Shirley. It hurts. No getting around that.

    You are in my prayers.


  6. Andrea,

    Your life is never dull. It seems there is always something happening in your family. I am glad to hear that it probably is Lipoma. That is good news. The hard part about it is once the sucker decideds it is going to grow, they tend to grow fast. I am glad you are being proactive in getting it out. Why wait if you don't have to. Let's get r done.

    Take care. You are in my prayers.


  7. Cindi,

    What a lovely friend you have!!! I am so happy for you that you have someone who cares about you so much, This is such a blessing for you.

    Just get the pub open as soon as possible.


  8. Jim's passing is another one that I hated to see. I am so sorry for his wife and children. It is such a sad time.

    May God be with you and may you find comfort and peace.

    Praying for us all.


  9. Don and family,

    I am saddened to see that Lucie has passed. I know your hearts are heavy. When I read that she had died, the image of her riding on the wings of eagles came into my head and I saw her as an angel.

    May the good Lord give you comfort and peace at this time in your lives.

    I know you will miss her terribly, but she will always, always be with you in your hearts.

    Praying for us all,



  10. Hard to believe that it has been 1095 days since I last saw Randy alive. 1095 days since I held his hand last.

    So much has happened since then, yet I can still remember very clearly what happened that day.

    I will always remember him. He had such a good sense of humor, a twinkle in his eyes, and such a love of life.

    Yet still what still amazes me is how life has gone on. Time has softened the pain of losing him but there will always be pain I think. My life has changed in so many ways. I have gone from the depths of despair to finding many joys in my life. But I will always have my memories of my life with Randy.

    I look back to the what he went through the last month of his life and I would not wish that on anyone. All the pain, all the worry, all the stress of trying to find a cure that wasn't to be. But Randy is now at peace and for that I am thankful.

    Donna G....tell the girls I still hold them dear to my heart for all you all did for Randy. You all made his last days the best they could be. You made it easier for him and for that I am thankful from the bottom of my heart. YOu are all angles to me. Thank you.

    Prayers for all of us.


  11. ((Peggy))

    I can relate to what you are going through. The first week of August will always be a hard one for me too. Randy passed on August 6th. My birthday is August 8th, his birthday is August 10th, and I buried him on August 11th.

    There are lots of good memories from past birthday's but I also have the memories of what he went through in his last days. It is hard to celebrate under the circumstances.

    Keep to your plan.

    Much love and many prayers.


  12. Karen,

    I am glad you got to spend time with your family over the weekend. Special days are sometimes overwhelming when you are by yourself for them.

    It is good that you and Faith are staying busy. It does not surprise me that she remembers Dave and your mother. I know my grandson still talks about his Papa.

    Take care. It is good to see you here every so often. Glad you are still around.


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