Fay A. Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 We've lost their physical presence, but as far as our friends losing their battles against Lung Cancer.......well, I don't see it that way. They haven't lost. They fought The Beast with all they had, and killed it in the end, though it cost them their lives. The way they lived makes them heroes to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hollyanne Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Amen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treebywater Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Fay--I've been struggling with that concept for a while now... I hated saying that Mom had 'lost her battle' but I didn't know what else to say--but what you said is spot on. Our loved ones didn't lose... they just gave up their lives in the battle. Thank you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nancy B Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Fay, you are soooooo wise. I never looked at it that way but - WOW - you are so right. Thank you. I don't know what we would do without your kind heart and rational reasoning. You really do help me keep things in perspective and I am very grateful for that. You are in my prayers - let me know if you need anything. Love and hugs, Nancy B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karenl Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Fay, that is exactly how I feel, so when Mum died, I wrote at the end of my signature 'Mum ended her battle'.....because that's the way I see it. She didn't 'lose' a fight, she fought with everything she had until she was done with it. Thanks for highlighting this issue. It's important. Love Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jyoung20 Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Amen to that Fay!! Jamie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Nicely put Fay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Yeah! Well said! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KatieB Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Fay, I feel 100% the same way. Those we loved, our friends DID win in the end. I've put a link to an old post of mine- take a look and read it when you have a moment. http://lchelp.org/community/viewtopic.p ... ght=#27357 Thank you for saying this again at a time when we all needed to read it. It's been a sad few weeks. With all you are going thru right now, thank you for reminding us of our heros and lifting us when we are so down. Love, K Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bunny Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 amen, Fay. I think it was you who once said that one way to defeat cancer was to deny it place to continue to grow. I like that too. xoxo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeckyCW Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 Amen, Fay, Amen! BeckyCW Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ann Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 Good thinking, Fay. I think I'll used the term "ended his battle" from now on when talking about Dennis. Thanks so much for pointing this out to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melindasue37 Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 What a better way to think of it and word it. Thank you Fay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teresag Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 Absolutely, Fay. Thank you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindy0519 Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 I posted this in a thread a few down but thought it fit your post so incredibly well that I would post it here too. I found this while searching for information on treatment options and it really gave me some much need perspective. It not "winning" the battle its "fighting it" that counts! And everyone who fights it is indeed a hero -- God Bless them all! A Poem by Paul Cox "He lost the battle to cancer," you say. Cancer's the winner? Do you see it that way? To die is to lose? Is that how it ends? So then can you tell me, Does anyone win? Death comes to all, So everyone loses? Why play the game If that's how it is? I fail to see it That way at all. Play the game how you want You make the call. When it's the end Only you and God know If you win or lose And which way you'll go. So don't tell me I lost for that is a lie. It's how you live Not how you die. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fay A. Posted January 31, 2006 Author Share Posted January 31, 2006 Perfect Poem! Years ago when I was first diagnosed I told myself that I would win my personal war against Lung Cancer no matter what happened. And I have made it a point to live my life as if I were going to do exactly that: WIN against Lung Cancer. I do not accept the idea of losing to this Beast. If the only way I can eventually kill the disease is to deny it a host then that is what will be. But I will NEVER lose to Lung Cancer. And I don't think any of those who have gone before me lost their battles, either. They are not losers...by any definition. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 Well put Fay!! When Mark was so sick, I prayed to God and St.Anthony to cure him and help him beat this..The Lord and St.Anthony did just that, they took Mark and he beat the cancer.. Our loved ones are all heros.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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