Ann Posted September 5, 2006 Share Posted September 5, 2006 Are you a forgiving person? Is there anyone in your life that you need to forgive right now? If so, what is your game plan for doing so? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Debi Posted September 5, 2006 Share Posted September 5, 2006 The one person that came to mind that I need to forgive is my old boss, who basically did all he could to destroy me and damage my career, before he transferred. I know that sounds really dramatic, but without going into all the details, its true. Although I was next in line to the top position, he managed to fast track someone that wasn't. My only crime was that I was a strong woman, and he didn't like strong women, or managers that wouldn't go along with whatever he said, without question, even if it meant bullying people out the door or harassing them in the workplace, just because he perceived them as some sort of threat. Working for him was like living with an abusive man. He was an evil man, and I don't really call people 'evil', but he was. So before I go on and on and end up typing the whole boring 'woe is me' story, I guess in this case I am not a forgiving person because if I fantasize about running him over in the parking lot, I find myself smiling. The depth of the damage he did to me- career wise, money-wise, most importantly emotionally, was immense. So I have no game plan for forgiving him, I just feel that some things cannot be forgiven, nor should they be. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted September 5, 2006 Share Posted September 5, 2006 Yes, I am forgiving. My faith calls me to do so. It is healthy to do so. Sometimes I have to work on it harder than others. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginnyde Posted September 5, 2006 Share Posted September 5, 2006 Of course there have been people in my life that have done me 'dirty'. My first husband to name the absolute biggest jerk. But, life is too short (as well documented here) to harbor revenge or hate or anger. Somehow I learned how to let it roll off my back. So for those that have done something for which I should offer forgiveness, get over it, I have long ago forgotten about you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myrnalu Posted September 5, 2006 Share Posted September 5, 2006 Usually I am a forgiving person But Some things cant be forgiven or forgotten.I do have a couple of people on the non forgiving list.Toss them out and live on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted September 5, 2006 Share Posted September 5, 2006 Don't get me started... some things cannot be forgiven, especially when people make no attempt to show remorse or make things right. It is one thing if people admit what they have done and make an attempt to rectify things--it is another when they just expect to walk all over you and you will take it. Ack! Like I said, don't get me started. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lilyjohn Posted September 5, 2006 Share Posted September 5, 2006 some things cannot be forgiven, especially when people make no attempt to show remorse or make things right. It is one thing if people admit what they have done and make an attempt to rectify things--it is another when they just expect to walk all over you and you will take it. I agree with Ry 100% Lillian Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamasbabygirl Posted September 6, 2006 Share Posted September 6, 2006 I always wonder if I'll forgive SF or not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kamataca Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 My students and I were talking about this the other day. It is SO hard to forgive someone who doesn't ask for forgiveness or doesn't think they've done something wrong. I have a VERY hard time when someone has wronged my family. The good news is, I have to think hard to think of those specific examples. I agree with the 'forget them and move on' notion. But I usually have to get a good vent going before I can get there. Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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