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    My Dad :(

    in GENERAL

    Posted

    (((Tina)))

    why does this have to happen to such good, wonderful people???? I just don't get it. I don't know what to say, but you know I'm here for you.

    Grace

    Need advice

    in CAREGIVER RESOURCE CENTER

    Posted

    I'm going to be honest with you and at this point you need more help. I hate to mention hospice, but if you want your husband to stay at home that is probably the best thing you can do for him.

    I tried to get hospice in with Carlton, but like your husband was not eating, constantly sleeping and always dizzy, he fell 4 times in one day, almost seriously hurting himself. The decision was made by me and his dr. to bring him back to the hospital. I guess it was meant to happen that way.

    There is no easy way to deal with what is going on right now, I hope that you have a good support network, well for one thing you definitely have a great support here, and crying as much as it feels awful you need to do.

    I am sorry you have to endure this, but when you and your husband go to his onc. stress pain management, sometimes it's a "trial and error" type of thing where eventually they will get it under control.

    Grace

    the continuing saga....

    in MEMBER UPDATES

    Posted

    (((Geri)))

    I'm hoping for the best for you, what a strong woman you are! I don't know if I could go thru everything you have. But I'm all for lots of chocolate, go and get some of that delicious vermont chocolate!!!

    Grace

    My friend Tina

    in GENERAL

    Posted

    ((Tina))

    you are moving on too, but I guess we all know when it is time to take that leap of faith! you have helped me tremendously in all that I have been thru with Carlton and the girls, I still have that new road to travel. please don't be a stranger...

    much luv,

    Grace

    The Struggle

    in GENERAL

    Posted

    (((Don)))

    I understand your decision, but still am very sad, I understand about having to move on, you sound like you have found a great purpose and I think that is just wonderful! I am still trying to "find my way" in this life without Carlton, I know we all have to move on in our own ways. I hope like all here, to get many wonderful updates from Katie.

    God bless you!

    much love,

    Grace

    Update on Bill (Updated June 27th -- last one for this post)

    in MEMBER UPDATES

    Posted

    Teri,

    It doesn't suprise me that Bill's dr. suspended the chemo. it's just so much for one person to handle at once. I remember thinking the same thing when Carlton was going thru his radiation treatments, but I understood the logic of the situation. You don't want so much thrown at Bill because then everything would stop, these treatments take so much energy away, even from the strongest of people. SCLC is so tricky, you've got the speed at which the cells grow, and you want to be agressive as possible with treatment, but on the other hand, you don't want too much thrown at you because then it will be a tremendous overload and then all treatment would stop.

    Hang in there Teri, tell Bill I'm thinking about him and sending both of you my best.

    Grace

    I was grieving, but your responses have helped...thanks

    in GRIEF

    Posted

    (((Cheryl)))

    I am so sorry you feel this way, please don't leave! To be honest I'm not up to date on your circumstances, but if you have gotten some negative responses from some please don't think it is the thoughts of all of us.

    In a way I do understand, when my husband was fighting this terrible disease, I spoke my mind, I had to, I was his wife, his strongest advocate, it didn't matter, I had to speak, if some didn't understand, so be it, I couldn't worry about the "petty things", this was so much greater.

    please don't leave...

    Grace

    (PM me at any time!)

    OT - request for some good thoughts - *Update

    in JUST FOR FUN

    Posted

    I had a hard time over the past few days to actually request this, but I found a lump in my breast and I am going to my dr. today to find out what is going on. If you could send some positive thoughts my way, I would so appreciate it.

    After all I have been thru, I can take whatever comes my way. The most difficulty I have is that I am so worried about my girls, they can't take any more bad news!

    UPDATE

    thank you so much for your support! after an afternoon of tests everything is OK :D , it is a great relief, I don't think I could of taken anymore bad news...once again thank you...

    much luv,

    Grace

    3 Months

    in GRIEF

    Posted

    3 months, where does the time go? Sometimes it feels like yesterday that Carlton left us. Other days it seems so long ago.

    Does it get easier?, I wouldn't say easier, it gets "different". I still cry everyday, some more intense than others. The girls have their difficult days too.

    Yesterday was hard, it was the girls spring music recital, Carlton made the winter one, bearly, he was so sick, but didn't want to disappoint us. Little did anyone know that 3 weeks later he would be gone.

    I still don't know what to do. I still have to "tie up" loose ends. Did Carlton leave everything all set for us, No, I know he didn't expect the die so quickly, he was in the middle of so many things.

    Are there things that still bother me, of course, I really didn't get to say goodbye to him, well I did, but he didn't to me, to the girls. Should I have taken back the DNR for the final moments so that I could of made it to the hospital in time to be there when he died?

    I can't beat up on myself, am I still lost without him? in many respects yes, the house is way too big, Carlton loved it, he had so many "projects" to do, but me, I'm not a "handy" person, but I try.

    So I get scared, yes, he isn't there to help me work out problems, if I'm doing the right thing, have I made the right decisions?

    Now I have to figure out "our new life", I have a "little bit" of time, but not forever, I have 2 daughters to support. They fear something will happen to me. I still think it isn't fair for these young girls to be going thru such a loss.

    Grace

    First ball game without him

    in GRIEF

    Posted

    ((Heather))

    I know, I'm starting to experience with my girls those "firsts", Carltons' birthday was last Friday, now Mothers' Day, and next weekend will be the girls first recital without daddy. please take care..

    Grace

    Happy Birthday Carlton

    in GRIEF

    Posted

    It's been a very difficult day, we planted the flowers, cooked the steak and potatoes, and sat at the dining room table and placed pictures of Carlton where he would of been sitting.

    It's just so sad, not fair, especially for our girls, children this young shouldn't have to grieve.

    Grace

    Happy Birthday Carlton

    in GRIEF

    Posted

    I wish you were here, I can't believe you didn't make it to your birthday. The girls and I, well you know. I've been talking to you about it for a couple of days.

    I could picture you coming down the stairs, in those sweats you stole from me, lol, and some t-shirt. I'd be tired, getting ready for bed, you, you were hungry, looking in the kitchen for something to eat. Then you would ask me to stay up with you for a while and just hang out for a while, how could I resist! I hardly ever did.

    Oh we'd have "our fun" you know :D. and you who asked me to stay up, would quickly fall asleep, but that was ok by me, I knew where you were.

    I just don't know where you are anymore. of course in my heart and the girls of course, who love their daddy so much, in theirs.

    I love you Carlton, very much. I always did and always will.

    Happy Birthday Baby!

    Love,

    Grace

    (aka "the wife")

    Cell Phone

    in GRIEF

    Posted

    You may ask why cell phone? you see I lost my earlier tonight, I don't know where somewhere between my driveway and when I dropped my daughter off at her music lessons. Looked and looked, no luck, someone probably picked it up. I canceled the phone, don't want anyone running up my bill.

    You're still asking why cell phone? you see it was the last birthday present Carlton gave me, he knew I needed a new phone and of course my b-day perfect match. Not only did I lose the phone with numbers but it was a camera phone and with it all the pictures I took are gone too. The hardest is that there were pictures I had taken of Carlton on the very last trip away we would take together. I only took 2 pictures of him, but they are gone, forever.

    I can't replace them, I can't replace Carlton. I know it's only a cell phone, I mean, I have lost the greatest thing ever in my life, my husband.

    Grace

    Today is my anniversary

    in GRIEF

    Posted

    (((Ginny)))

    this week I think of all the occasions that we will all miss, Carltons' birthday is tomorrow and I so understand the sorrow and anger, but be gentle on yourself.

    Grace

    Any last baby bets? About to pop!

    in HOPE

    Posted

    I'm hoping you have her on May 4th, that is Carltons' birthday, I would love to have a wonderful new life come into the world on a very special day for me and my girls...

    ...but whenever she decides...she's going to be beautiful!!!

    Grace

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