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Many Thanks Linda!! By the way I enjoyed reading your response to the Stage 4 survior poll in the General section!!! : ) Beat it!!

Ummmmmmmmm, I guess I am not getting it. I tried that but it just shows on there now, I'm obviously not a techy type huh? Maybe I need more coffee? : ) Beat it!!

How can I reduce the Font size in "My Profile"? It is starting to get lenghty and I would like to reduce the size as I see some others have done with theirs. Many thanks!! Beat it!!

Flowergirlie, @#$!&* !!!!!! My heart just aches for you all. I just ache. Words dont seem to be enough. Prayers and understanding, Beat it!!

OK, I havent got thru yet to the Onc. I always turn here first when thats the case. Fourth round of chemo postphoned ( second week in a row) MIL is told its the platelets, I am told it's her hemoglobin level. Chemo could cause internal bleeding.............she has lost so much weight, seems like some spirit has pulled out of her. I know its how this goes................ Any insight? CANCER is the most wicked violent rollercoaster ride there ever is or will be. and it SUCKS!!!! Beat it!!

For those of us who remain after a loved one passes away it isnt easy. But for the loved one, knowing of their place in Heaven, it is a beautiful thing. I am so greatfyl that there is peace in that for you and your family. It will comfort you. This poem always brings me peace in times like these. I am standing on the seashore. A ship spreads her white sails to the morning breeze and starts for the ocean. She is an object of beauty and I stand watching her until she fades on the horizon, and someone at my side quietly says, "She is gone." Gone where? The loss of sight is in me, not in her. Just at the moment when someone says, "She is gone," there are others who are watching her coming. Other voices take up the joyful shout, "Here she comes!!" Heaven is a most GLORIOUS place!! God bless and comfort you and your family. Beat it!!

HURRAY!!! Congaratz on completing the chemo! I would love to here how it goes with the natural doc! I think you'll come to learn the reason everyone doesnt "do it" is because it isnt mainstream. Natrual Docs reley heavily on vitamins and a healty immune system to PREVENT disease. Pharmicuotical companies cant patent vitamins ( to make money off them) and therefore the main stream medical field would not be infulenced by the drug companies. (to seek remidies that are not profitable.) That is not to say there arent very good drugs and benifits from them, just that there isnt money in what Natural Docs do where corporate america is concerned. We (MIL and family) are enduring chemo, but feel very strongly that the meg dose IV's of vitamins she has been taking have played a very important role in her seeming such a reduction in her tumor sizes. More than half in less than 3 rounds!! Healty living is a HUGE part of PREVENTING disease. Not to say healthy people wont get it but Isnt it better to prevent rather than chase after a cure? Best of luck to you Flowergirlie glad to see your at the end of the chemo!! Beat it!!

When you get a sinus infection while undergoing chemo could the combination trigger continous nose bleeds? MIL has a Sinus infection and for days has had to have a constant tissue to wipe away the ever present dripping blood. I wonder if maybe chemo has thinned the blood allowing this seemingly unnormal side effect with the sinus issue. She was put on antibiotics, by the local MD. Hasnt had any fever associated with it though. Just curious if anyone has thoughts? Beat it!!

May you continue to get good news!! Thanks for sharing!! Merry Christmas!!! Beat it!!

Your mother loves you regardless of the dreams you haven't fulfilled. It's hard not to look at what could have been. Try to focus on what there has been and savor all the good times. May you and yours find comfort soon. God Bless. Beat it!

Flowergirlie, Your compasion and wisdom in this last post just shouts from the tree tops how strong you are. Your husband is very blessed to have you. Honesty is the best policy. Honesty never fails. It can hurt at times and it can be hard to hear. I would want my husband if I were in the reverse situation to honor the vows we took and be honest about it. I wouldnt want to keep anything from him either. Remember Doctors are humans, they cant predict the future any more that you can. Many have been told here on this site they would be gone but arent. What you may have been told about longevity is nothing more than an educated guess either way, short term or long. Be honest with him, dont regret not telling him later on and having him find out as well. Honesty and trust build they dont tear down. Beat it!!

Sorry, This is a trial for the low red blood count, they did not change her chemo regimine. I just dont believe this onc. If he REALLY was concerned about her low red blood count ( which was good enough to take the chemo) he wouldnt have put her on some "unknow study" remember this could all be placebo. He would have dealt with it in tried and tested way that gets results. I feel while she is very intellegant and coherant mind you that he took advantage of her lack of medical knowledge and signed her up with out a genuine concern for her. Beeat it!!

I normally do go with her, but couldnt today. UGH. She signed the form, they injected her with a drug and gave her pills to take for 16 weeks. I feel so ANGRY!!!! This trial she was put on has 2 pages of possible side effects then to top it all off it may be a PLAECEBO!!!!! So this fill in Doctor tells her he is so concerned about her low he-ben-glow-ben numbers he wants to act fast, signs her up and injects her. UUUUUGGGGHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!! There is no guarrentee she'll get a response and if the numbers keep dropping it'll mean a blood transfusion. He leads her on with the speel about it being free and all, what about the transfusion would that be free??? Yeah right. There are other methods to go on to regulate this. My mil is very smart but not with medical issues. That trust is placed in Doctors. Like we all do and this time around I think she was cheated. I wonder what type of kick back is with that trail? Hope this doesnt effect her progress or one of the many side effects from the trial gets to her.... OK,OK, OK, I've never said this but..... I HATE CANCER!!! Beat it!!

Thanks Muriel!!! I'll ask questions when I get there, hope she hasnt signed just yet, investigation is important, I know they are docotrs but they told me she'd be nearing death by now too, we are the ones advocating for her ( ok I am ) but yet today after 2 rounds of chemo and 3 months of Mega dose vitamins we are missing alomsot 2 full tumors. That was not acheveived completely by just listing to the onc and doing only what they said to do (which was chemo only for quality of life.). They flat told us chemo would NOT reduce her cancer it was too far gone!! Any way......sorry for venting. Well I appreciate any futher info any one wants to share and I'll get more educated on this asap. Beat it!!

My MIL has been told her he-ben-glow-ben is low so a filling in onc told her to do a clinincal trial, I was not present and dont knnow what is happening but will stop in an my lunch to see (round 3 is today) This is her RED blood cells right? Why? Isnt chemo the white mostly that are effected? I must get answers to be certain and do you have to sign to do clinical trials? Bless her but she just nods and agrees with out questioning and seeking a plan ........... Help!!! Beat it!!!

I bet when your mom started out caring for you as an infant she was scared too. You will do fine, just as she did. It will be instintive. Love conquers all. I agree with getting your name on the Hippa document to be allowed to get info on your mother. She should be able to request that and sign for you to do so while you ar there. Make sure you get on for each Doc she sees. Try not to worry and concentrate on the time you will share with your mother! Beat it!!

Wow I love these posts, it so great to learn with everyone about different issues. Trying to know what is best is horribly hard. Keeping family away when they dont see each other much (living apart) is hard too. I wonder sometimes we spend so much time worrying about colds and sniffels but how do we know if we oureselves (or someone eles) may be in a contagious/incubating state and not know it. Families can be kept apart to spare the germs and then a very loved cancer patient can pick up a germ or virus on a public door knob. I understand the seriousness of sickness with the weakened immune system but wonder at times if the sacrifice of love ones is worth it. Guess if there was not a complaint from your mom and you dont let the kids be over baring in the kisses I would take them. I wouldnt want to miss out on a loved one. But then I'm a family member not a patient. Beat it!

We struggle with this too, My MIL decided whats the difference, she could go with out seeing or hugging her grandaughter then catch a bug of some door handle while not being with her grandaughter (who has the sniffles.) She felt time is too precious, one never knows.................... Its a hard thing, her decision I guess. Beat it!!

"...............fatih, hope and LOVE. The greatest of these is LOVE" You are a major blesing to your mother and an encourager to us all. No matter what, remember to LOVE. Your on the right road. Beeat it!!

Always good to be "ahead" of this when possible! I took my Mother in law to a "Wig" shop BEFORE the chemo to allow the owner to see her natural hair and we could make a pick before. We didnt have to purchase the piece just then but we knew what and where. Not all people loose hair, but she did on day 13. Even if a wig is not something she will desire I have learned that the hair is a wonderful insulator. Even in her warm heated home, her head gets cold, so we purchased a beenie or cap I guess you'd call it, in the wig store, for her to wear around the house, she uses that quite a bit and not for vanity. Just a thought for you, good that your seeking and getting ahead of it, You'll be a blessing to her!!

Welcome! We will all tell you how sorry we are your here, but yet we are all glad too! This is a good place to learn, vent and gain support. My mother in law has stage 4 too and we are newer to the site (4 months) but have learned alot. Seems to me every person is different. Every story is too so its hard to find common ground at times. I appears your situation is on a excellerated pace. But PLEASE do not give up hope. Try to learn as much as possible in terms of all treatment options and talk to survivors, they can lend you so much knowledge. LOADS of people have had different outcomes than they where originally told, DONT give up HOPE!!! Keep posting, asking and venting here. Many will help you and you will be added in many prayers! Beat it!!

Flowergirlie!! I've been reading your posts. Cancer is such a rollercoaster. New ourselves since September I learn alot here. You have taught me here too!! Recently you posted you were frustrated that things are so hard (and might I add your right) That it just seems we CAN be given more than we can handle. As I read that I thought, "but in my faith I am taught we cant be given more than we can handle" why is she having to feel this way. I felt so bad for you. Now I see a blessing coming your way. Help, light and a burdon lifted.Maybe an acknowledgment of your struggle?? Girl dont be silly and turn down something that is going to make it easier for you to manage and handle the load!!! Except it with THANSKGIVING and remember you all DESERVE THIS!!! Merry Christmas!! Beat it!!

So anyone had this? It came with the second round, being blamed on pain meds, but I wonder since it wasnt there prior to this round of chemo (and she doest take that many pain meds now). We've had some reduction which I am so greatful for then comes round 2 and 7 days out shes so weak (not functioning normally at all), not hungry and there isnt an enema or RX that can make her go. ER xray showed no blockage or impacted bowels so I guess thats good. Chemo is wicked. Hard to watch, keeping focused on the reduction, but sometimes wonder if it isnt the alternative things we're doing that is helping so??? Chemo simply distroys her life, this time around its longer. I still dont know if I believe Chemo for quality of life. well anyway....thanks! Beat it!

My MIL has her 2nd Chemo today and they did a chest xray. The Onc has confirmed (by the chest xray) that the primary site of the cancer is no longer visable. He said "It's gone"!!!! And the pluera involvment is showing noticeable reduction!!! She is taking Carbo/axol/Avastin and has had 11 MEGA dose vitamin injections of Vitamin C and other vitamins. First Dx is Stage 4 NSCLC. Hopeful to see that change at the next CT!! I wanted to share with you all since I grumble and seek comfort here so often. And well because I am having trouble staying in my own skin here at work today!! BEAT IT!!!!!!!!!

I just recently asked the question about chemo for quality of life, my MIL is Stage 4. They cant operate, cant cure her so whats the chemo for then? We lost the quality of life she had the 2nd day after chemo, I just dont get it Your not alone in the frustration and concern, I pray you will find your answers and peace. Beat it!!