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Patti, Thank you for making that call and for letting us know. Sandra needs all of our thoughts and prayers now so that they can get her pain under control. I have started doing some hospice research for my mom just to be prepared and I found one in her city that allows admittance for pain management so the patient can continue chemo and radiation while in hospice. Maybe that is similar to what Sandra is doing. Hopefully they can get it under control and she will be home tomorrow. Susan

Kristi, I'm so very sorry. I hope you take some comfort from the fact that your father was peacful at the end and didn't suffer. Please know that we will continue to be here for you. Susan

Marci--it sounds like your Nan's operation has the potential for a very good outcome. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for a speedy recovery. Susan

Cyndy, I hate that you have to be back here again. This disease is horrible at any age, but 47 is far too young. Let us know what we can do to help. Susan

I am so sorry that your lost your husband to this awful diesase, but thank you for continuing the fight against it. I know David would be proud of you. Those of us fighting for our loved ones are most grateful. Susan

Tami, I'm so sorry you are having these scary issues. I agree you certainly need to find out what is going on. Whether panic or otherwise, it is not good for you. I can't offer any advice about the SSD, but others here may have some experience. In the meantime, I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Susan

Thanks Patti. I am scared for her as well. Susan

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Thanks Patti for reaching out and for letting us know. Sandra has a lot of people who love her on this board and I see I'm not the only one who was (and still is) worried. Let us know if you hear anything else Patti. Sandra, if you read this, I am praying that you recover soon from your trip. I hope it was a good one for you and for your family. Susan

It's been three weeks since her last post. I know she was going on vacation so she may not be back yet, but I just wanted to check to see if anyone has heard from her. Susan

Debbie--add my prayers to all the others. I hope you will find they caught it very early and he will be fine. Susan

Barbara, I hope you and Bill have a happy anniverary. 54 years is amazing and you two have certainly shown the rest of us how it should be done. Your love for each other is powerful and touching. Have a great day celebrating your years together. Susan

I'm so sorry you have had such a difficult time. Even in the midst of all that grief you were given the gift of your son. That doesn't make your loss any less, but like you said it gives you a beautiful reason to look ahead with joy even as you grieve. I'm going to move this post to our grief thread so it can be read by others who will offer you their love and support. Susan

Welcome Mary, Other have given you lots of good advice as well as directions to GRACE. I'll just say we are here to help answer questions, share experiences and let you vent. The shock from the Dx probably hasn't worn off yet. My mom wasn't a smoker either and her Dx just hit like a ton of bricks. But the shock gradually wears off and you learn to live the "new normal." We will be here to help you find your way. Susan

Hi Kelli, Welcome to this very warm and supportive community. I'm sorry to read about your father. You will find many here who can answer your questions and offer support. I also recommend www.cancergrace.org. GRACE is an oncologist mediated site with wonderful information about treatments and the doctors will answer any questions you have about treatment options. They can't give specific medical advice, but can and do offer their knowledge on the different treatment options as well as other information. Susan

I'm sorry about your mom's diagnosis with lung cancer, but am gald you found us. Please take the time to read the many survivor stories here. If you mom's staging is correct they have caught her cancer far earlier than most people and she has a much better prognosis because of it. We have many long term survivors. Surgery offers the best chance for an outright cure. I hope she will keep an open mind when talking to her doctors. They can do a lot with treatment that they didn't used to be able to do. There is another excellent resource, www.cancergrace.org, which is a physician mediated site, that offers excellent information on the treatment options for every stage of the disease. I suggest you do some reading over there to find out what the options are and what questions she needs to be asking her doctors. In the meantime, we will be here to answer any question you have. Susan

Oh no. I am shocked. Many prayers for her family and friends. Susan

Debra, I'm sorry for your loss. I'm glad things works out so that he was able to pass peacefully in your care. It sounds like what he wanted and I'm glad you were able to do that for him. Susan

Michelle, Oh hon, at some point it doesn't matter what hubby wants because if you don't get some sleep then you won't be any good for him at all. Did your tears make any impression on him at all? I hope the Xanax works--for one of you at least! Susan

Sarah--your father's spirit will always be here on this board. Come back whenever you need to feel him close. Susan

Sarah, not a day goes by that I don't think about your father when I come onto this site. He was a great friend to many of us and so quick to share his experiences and offer support. I miss him too. Yesterday was also my birthday and it is truly an honor to share it with your dad. Just from knowing him on here, I'm pretty sure he would understand your grief, especially the first year after your lost him. Next year on September 3, let's come back here and tell stories about him that will make us smile and laugh and remember the all the good things he brought to our lives. Susan

Susie Hudson, Huntsville, AL civic leader. http://blog.al.com/breaking/2009/09/cit ... e_hud.html

I think we can take up a collection for bail money, if needed. Susan

Heidi, Right after mom was diagnosed, I kept having dreams that I was diagnosed with lung cancer. I kept telling the doctor that he had to keep it a secret because I had to take care of my mom. After a few months it went away, but they were scary while I was having them. Susan

Nonni, I will be saying prayers that the kidney transplant is a possibility and works! Susan