shirleyb
-
Posts
783 -
Joined
-
Last visited
Content Type
Downloads
Store
Profiles
Forums
Gallery
Blogs
Events
Posts posted by shirleyb
-
-
Crystal,
I am so sorry to hear that your mother in law has passed on. My heart goes out to you and your family. You bearly had time to understand what was wrong.
I am thankful she did not suffer too long with the cancer and that God saw fit to take her when He did. It is hard to accept but it is also a blessing.
My heart goes out to you, your husband, and the rest of your family. May God hold you in His hands at this time and always. I pray you are able to find peace at this time and that you will see the miralces that God grants.
Wishing you enough....
Much love,
Shirley
-
Dean,
you and your friends are in my prayers as I write this.
May he find peace and enter into heaven knowing he is so loved.
Wishing them enough,
Much love,
Shirley
-
Dean,
Will you be my poster boy?
Your insight into life is so wonderful and so well written. I wish I could write like you do, so that maybe I could inspire people to have those positive thoughts about life even in times of trouble.
You are so beautiful.
Thank you for sharing this very uplifting message.
Much love,
Shirley
-
mom is gone
in GRIEF
Debbie,
I am so sorry hon. It hurts so bad when you lose those you love so dearly.
Your mother fought the best fight she could and you were with her all the way.
My heart goes out to you at this time of sorrow and anger.
I pray the Lord will bless you and keep you. I pray for His love and light to shine upon you in the days to come. I pray for strenght that one day you will also be able to smile with tears in your eyes when you remember you dear mother.
Wishing you enough,
Much love,
Shirley
-
Beth,
You better get Bob into the doctor. One thing I learned from Randy was that leg pain ususally meant he had a blood clot. And Randy had lots of blood clots. Randy also had liver mets. From what the onc told us, once you have cancer in the liver, you are more suseptible to getting blood clots. Best to let your doctor know asap.
I am so sorry he is having these types of problems. I hope and pray that the chemo works for Bob like it has for so many others here.
Best of luck to you both. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Take care,
Much love,
Shirley
-
Norme and Buddy,
Darn, darn, darn. I was really hoping you would get better news than what you do. I am so sorry my dears.
If Buddy can handle ice cream you might want to consider going to Culvers if you have one. Their stuff is custard ice cream which has many more calorie in it than normal ice cream. That is why I have to stay away from that place. They make the best. If there is a flavor he really likes and it is not on the menu, most of them will custom make your flavor for you if they have the stuff. Just something to think about as far as putting on some weight or maintaining Buddy's weight.
You are both in my prayers. I pray the Iressa works for Buddy and that you have the time you need. Keep the faith dear ones.
Wishing you enough and then some.
Much love,
Shirley
-
pretty tough work out don't you think? LOL.
Thanks for sharing.
-
My most heart felt congratulations on the birth of your daughter.
Katie and Rick, you are so very blessed. Amazing the miracles that God gives us when we need them most.
Much love,
Shirley
-
I am so very sorry.
Much love,
Shirley
-
Crystal,
I don't have any answers for you. I am so sorry your mother is not doing well. All I can suggest is to be with her, talk to her, touch her, and let her know you are there and that you love her.
You are all in my prayers.
Wishing you enough....
Much love,
Shirley
-
Mrs Mike,
So glad you are back. Ditto on what Ann wrote.
Best of luck to you in this new year. I am glad you got the job you wanted.
Shirley
-
Ray,
Glad to see you are back and looking wonderful.
I too am so glad 2003 is over. I pray for all of us that 2004 brings hope and peace to all of us.
Take care,
Much love,
shirley
-
Lori,
I am so sorry you are in the position you are in. I was there not so long ago. It has taken me a few months to get back on my feet again and to feel like I am having more good days than bad.
Give yourself time to heal. It doesn't come over night. Accept that you will have days when all you do is cry. But also realize, that as time passes you become stronger in how you handle this so very devastating event.
I talk to Randy every day. I still tell him I love him before I go to sleep at night and ask him to watch over our children and me.
I have a 3 year old grandson, who "sees" his grandpa at night. More than once he has gotten his mother up durning the night to "see" PaPa. He has told me about PaPa coming to visit him. The stangest thing, is he is not scared of this vision at all. He knows now that Papa is not here, and he tells us how he misses his Papa so. We just tell him we miss him too and that Papa will always be with us. Through the eyes of a baby I have come to accept that Randy's spirit is always with us and will never leave us. He is watching over us.
To lose anyone to cancer is not fair. None of them deserved it. None of us deserved to lose those we love so much.
I have a deep faith though that God has His reasons for doing what He does. I do not ask why any longer. There is no answer to that question. I have accepted that I have a mission here now to let others know and to try to help others in this awful journey that you and I have taken. It is a long road. When we ask God to help us, He does. We just have to watch for the signs.
I pray for you and your boys to be able to find peace in the future. Make today the best you can. Tomorrow will take care of itself. As "WE" all make this journey, let us know what we can do to help.
Take care dear lady. May God's love shine on you and give you strength in your saddness.
Much love,
Shirley
-
I just read an article in the Sunday paper here about passwords. I had not really thought about it too much but it gave some good advise.
One thing Randy shared with me before he died was his passwords for this computer. Thank God he did. I would not have a clue what his passwords were for different areas that I needed to do business with.
The advise given was to write your passwords down, and put them in a safe place and THEN TELL SOMEONE you trust where you put them. If you do any banking, bill paying, or other critical business online, you will need those passwords.
I just thought this was so important to share.
I do hope all are doing well.
Take care,
Much love,
Shirley
-
Ladies, Ladies, Ladies,
I am so sorry for each of you having to be in the position you are in. You have given me many smiles in reading your posts and many heart felt tears. I am so sorry that any of us have to go through this.
I feel like I have to share with you all something my psych told me years ago to tell people when I was really having a rough time and people would ask how I was doing.
She told me the definition of "fine". When someone asks you how you are doing and you really don't want to say, Oh I am okay. Just say I am fine. The definition of fine is f**ked up, insecure, nerodic(sp) and exhausted. So I shared this with my close friends. If they asked me how I was doing and I responded fine, they always gave me those big hugs you so desperately need. So I too want to share this with you. Those that don't know this definiton will say, great, glad you are doing okay. But you will know you just told them where to go.
Thanks for sharing your stories. My daughter uses this saying when she is missing her dad now and I know to give her the hugs and love she needs.
It is our signal to use when we don't have any other words to really say how we are doing.
Hang in there. You are one tough bunch of cookies.
Much love always.
Shirley
-
Lily,
I am the same way. I am on this board 4 or 5 times a day seeing what is going on. There are days I don't post a thing and then others I am writing up a storm. Not as well as you, but still putting my two cents in.
I am so thankful this board and web site exsist. I don't know how I would have gotten through those first very dark weeks after Randy passed. I tell everyone I know about this site.
I have to thank Donna G again. She is the first nurse we had when Randy was admitted to the hospital. She is the one who encouraged me to get on "board". Thank you from the bottom of my heart Donna. You truely are one of my angels here on earth. This board has been my life line ever since. The support and love here cannot be measured. I know it has saved me though.
Much love to all.
Shirley
-
Thanks everyone.
I have been a "monkey rigger" for as long as I remember. Things my dad taught me when I was young have come in very handy. He also said to think it through and then try.
So for the car this time, it was either the lines were clogged or the pump was not working. I went to check the lines and with it being a "newer" car, you just can't follow the lines. So then I went to the well and got to looking at it. Sure enough, it was not plugged in. Of all the things it could be. I had to search for the other end of the plug and found it caught underneath the well. I pulled it out and plugged it in and it worked. I was so happy. You just would not believe how happy I was. I came in the house and shouted at the kids...I DID IT...I FIXED IT MYSELF!!!! They all laughed and clapped and said we knew you could do it Mom. I fix alot of things around the house. Including the dryer exhaust vent. That was easy. Just measure the opening, go to the hardware store and buy the connections.
I really am thankful my dad didn't mind me asking questions and watching when he worked on things. That is where I get the ability to look at things and try to logically think them through before I start anything.
I am the one in the house who always did the fix it stuff. Randy was not mechanically inclinded bless his heart, so he let me do the stuff. LOL Dad showed me how to frame in walls and hang sheet rock. So last winter when Randy first got sick (we didn't know why he was sick then) I was the one who built another bedroom in the basement for our expanding family. He would come down and admire my work. I even did all the taping and mudding. There are two things I will not touch though, electrical and plumbing. That stuff I hire out. Lord knows I don't need a fire or flood.
Anyone can be a monkey rigger if they think about what needs to be done and are not afraid to ask questions.
Give it a go. You will find a way to accomplish anything you put your mind to. Thanks Dad for being such a good teacher.
Good luck to all in your projects. Best wishes also for this next year that we all find little things that make us feel good about ourselves and our abilities.
Much love,
Shirley
-
Beth and Bob,
I too am sorry you had to find us. When you first find out that you are ill, it is so hard.
There are so many here that have "good" news to tell, even at the stage you are at. Read through some of the previous posts. You will find lots of good advise and success stories.
Take each day as a blessing and live your lives as best you can. Do what you have to do. But don't forget to remember the special things and what life is about.
If you have questions, this is one of the best places to ask them. So many here are willing to share what knowledge they have, and if they don't have the answers, they share support.
I wish you the best in the toughest fight of your lives.
Much love,
Shirley
-
Don,
what a wonderful gift to your family.
I made quilts for all my kids from Randy's old shirts and gave them to them on Christmas. I also have pictures of Randy in those shirts that they already have. It felt good to be able to give them each something that was truely his. I am working on the one for me now.
I do hope for the best for Lucie. You both deserve it.
Much love,
Shirley
-
-
-
Nancy,
Great in our face picture. I always like to have a face to put with a name. It makes it so much easier to remember who I am talking to.
You really look wonderful.
Love,
Shirley
-
Terry,
I am so sorry that you are having such a hard time. It is bad enough to lose the one you love, but to have someone from his past being difficult too is so hard.
I am glad you came back to the board. "We", as a group can get through anything.
I wish you peace and happiness in this year.
Much love,
Shirley
-
Mo,
I was just thinking the same thing Lily said. I hope you have not picked up the flu. The boys had it here and they were complaining of the same things you are talking about. Lets just hope that is all it is. You are in my prayers.
Take care,
Much love,
Shirley
something to ponder that I got in my email
in HOPE
Posted
Lily,
Thanks for sharing.
Shirley